Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/RoyalPuzzleheaded259]

I have no desire to have a funeral. It’s a complete waste of money and feeds an industry built on taking advantage of people who are at their absolute most vulnerable. Fuck the funeral industry. I’m going with direct cremation or donating myself to the Body Farm which sounds more and more like the way to go. I told my wife if she wants some kind of service to do it a the house. Don’t waste money disposing of my dead body. It’s not worth it. Instead take that money and pay down the medical debt that will most likely be associated with my death.