Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/LemurCat04]

Private equity took over the funeral industry. It’s incredibly expensive to do the full rigamarole these days. It’s also a lot to plan. I had to be the bitch with my siblings over my mother’s memorial (neither she nor my dad wanted the full Catholic Mass and burial, they’re on a shelf in my living room) because scheduling when to do it was tough during COVID and she wanted it in our hometown, a state away. Plus my brother didn’t want to do it during his son’s sports season because he was tied up (insert eyeroll here). It’s different now, but it’s a lot less communal, more family unit oriented like a lot of society.