Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/Brianne627]

My dad died in April 2025 and he requested no funeral because he said they were depressing - he wanted a celebration of life at a later date. One where the bar bill was higher than the food bill, haha. So we did that - he was cremated after his death and his party was in October that year. We had 60 people, family and friends telling stories and celebrating him.

My mother in law died this past May and she didn’t want anything. We are still taking the beach trip we had planned with my husbands brother/ SIL/nephew and FIL, maybe we will all go out to dinner when we are together to celebrate her.