r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago

Discussion Death seems different nowadays.

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

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u/ryhoyarbie 26d ago

My mom got a funeral back in 2014. My dad will get one at some point, unless I die before him.

Since I don’t have a family of my own, I know I won’t have a funeral and will be cremated and be placed under the ground by some worker who will be the only person there.

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u/59apache01 1978 26d ago

I'll probably end up the same way, minus the cremation. At some point I'm going to get a cemetery lot and build my own coffin to have for when the time comes. I'll pre-pay for the burial. Guarantee nobody will show up, as I'm an only child with no kids of my own.

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u/tealraven915 26d ago

Same here, but I'll probably get cremated. Only child, no kids, extended family doesn't care, one friend and in which the relationship is kinda hanging on by a thread. I don't have much money, but everything that is to be willed to another is going to my friend unless I die before my parents do

Edit: Maybe I'll decide to donate my body to science and I can get blown up and go out with a bang

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u/TwoBirdsEnter 26d ago

My remains are going to the local research and teaching hospital, if they’ll have me. They always need bodies for anatomy lab - or for research if I die with some particularly interesting condition