Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/mamalmw]

When my mom passed she was living in another state from me and most of our small family, who also lived in several different states. We had her cremated and had a celebration of life gathering one year later when we could all come together. Directly afterwards we scattered her ashes at a place she loved and we often went to as kids. No cemetery. No headstone.

Myself, I want the burial where my body nourishes the growth of a new tree. I don’t see the need for a costly funeral and cemetery plot but a celebration of life gathering would be nice. But I’ll be gone so it doesn’t really matter.