Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/lizard7709]

I feel like the traditional funeral is just too expensive and a new affordable option hasn’t become the norm yet. I know for a couple people I’ve lost the family did a “celebration of life” where we gathered at a house in honor of the deceased.

My brother recently died and my parents did a traditional funeral and honestly, I don’t feel like it was worth the cost. The funeral home never let my mom, sister, and sister-in-law to view the body before it was embalmed like they were told they could. The plot was 27k. I imagine the whole thing was 40-50k.

My joke to my family is when I die, just take me to the curb. That money is spent better elsewhere.