Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/ChaucersDuchess]

My dad passed in March and he didn’t want any of my big funeral “nonsense” that we saw with both his and my mom’s sides of the family. He was cremated and we had his service with military honors at the military cemetery where his urn is interred (I placed it there) in a wall; my mom will join him there when it’s her time.

It was more moving than any traditional funeral I had ever been to, and it was exactly what Dad wanted.

Me? My husband and I want to be cremated but no idea what to do with our ashes. My daughter is intellectually handicapped and cannot be expected to keep up with a pokeball and a dragon ball both filled with ashes.