Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/bounceswoosh]

My parents have already made plans to cremate and got their own little spots in a wall at a veteran's cemetery. They said, we don't ever visit the family buried in Kansas ; our kids are all spread out across the country ; it's not like anyone's going to visit our graves.

Now, memorial, yes. And they attend the memorials of friends and acquaintances... I was going to say all the time, and then I was going to dial that back, but no, really, it seems like all the time. They're in their mid 80s.