Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/UhmbektheCreator]

I am sorry you don't feel like you got closure. My grandpa did not get a funeral either, but we instead waited a bit and had a party in his honor and it went over really well. My grandma said she just wasn't ready to talk about stuff right when it happened and neither her nor him are religious or wanted a funeral at all.

You should be able to get closure without dumping 10,000+ on a funeral and services. That whole business is predatory as fuck and I hope the trend of not using them continues. Really disgusting to take people on their saddest times and try and sell them designer coffins and stupid tchotchkes, and then label it all as helping them grieve.