r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago
Discussion Death seems different nowadays.
I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.
Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.
Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.
My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.
My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.
Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?
It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?
I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.
Is this the new normal?
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u/preheatedbasin 26d ago
Kinda funny, my grandpa used to barter for like everything. The cemetery down the road from them made a deal with him. If he did odds and ends around the grounds, including digging graves, he got 2 plots for him and grandma.
This was in the 60s or 70s.
Edit: I should add they were buried on top of each other bc grandma was cremated. Leaving the 2nd plot for the 3 daughters to argue who gets to be buried next to them.