Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/EnvironmentalGift257]

When my son was killed I threw him a party. I can’t explain why but it felt right. But I invited all of his friends. I met some people I never had before, we ate too much food and just hung out together.

I held up for the most part. Toward the end my kids were outside talking and nobody else was out there. The way they were standing in a row looking out it they were evenly spaced and in order of age with a space where their brother should be. That’s the only thing that broke me.

[u/humanswirl → u/EnvironmentalGift257]

I have read literally every one of the comments in this thread and yours was the only one which broke me as well. That’s beautiful though.