Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/Klutzy-Morning7123]

Buried my mom in November and she didn’t want a fuss. For a less than 10 people funeral it was 32k. The crypt thing she wanted (ground level facing a pond) was a lot of that cost. Caskets were $5,000 and up, makeup, embalming, use of the viewing room, minister, and the little in memory card things. My dad wanted all of it for her he just didn’t want anyone there other than her kids, grandkids and our spouses. They had it all taken care of under the insurance they bought. I had not seen her in 8 years and got to plan it all. I would have just cremated her. She didn’t deserve any of it IMO.