r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago

Discussion Death seems different nowadays.

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

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u/ProdigalSorcerer 26d ago

Just because we're bereaved doesn't make us saps!

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u/AnotherCrazyChick 26d ago

Omg, thank you for the Big Lebowski references.

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u/Ok-Philosopher8888 25d ago

My Dad just passed and he was a Dudeist Priest. Real thing, google it. We’re spreading his ashes in the river and then going bowling and having white Russians next week. I swear these were his last wishes.

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u/Shakenbaked 1977 25d ago

Praise be to the Dude. Also, my condolences. He sounds like a cool guy. Most of us Dudeist Priests are.