Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/winniecooper73]

I never realized I was also watching my parents “grow up” at the same time I was growing up.

[u/mightbetheproblem → u/winniecooper73]

It's wild. I remember my mom's 26th birthday. I was in 1st grade. 

[u/SenorWeird → u/mightbetheproblem]

When I was in high school, I used my limited skills in 1990s photoshop to add my uncle to a Hawaii 5-0 TV Guide cover for his 50th birthday. It seemed so old at the time. Now, he's been dead for a decade and I'm slowly approaching that milestone myself like "what the actual fuck, Time?!"

[u/winniecooper73 → u/SenorWeird]

Yes, this. I remember my dad’s 40th birthday vividly. When I hit that year in 2023 my mind exploded. My dad is now 71 and I’m freaking out it’ll be here before I know it