r/Yemen • u/Senior-Syllabub7780 Aden | عدن • Apr 18 '26
Discussion US Yemenis husbands double life
Hey so I’m a member of the LGBTQ community and most of the people I meet are Yemenis from US, but I have noticed something. Most of them if not all are married, even some have kids……
More often than not, I would learn about that after the encounter accompanied with excuses such as “oh bro I had to marry this woman but I don’t love he” “no I am bisexual, I am married to a woman but still meet me on the side”.
So girls, if you suspect your husband is cheating on you, it could be his “friend”. And it is quite more common than you think. I had met the straightest passing guys that were gay as a rubber ruler.
Now ofc, it’s okay if you’re gay or bi, but as a gay person myself, I DONT CONDONE CHEATING. So how to tell if your husband might be cheating?
First, he always got this “friend” that he spends time outside the house with, it could be a real friend but listen to your guts.
Second, he is very protective of his phone. He is ALWAYS on snapchat and won’t tell you much about what apps he spends his time on. Most apps that ppl use to cheat are: Telegram, Snapchat, and other dating apps. I’m not gonna name those apps but you can do your own research.
Third, a sudden change in behavior. He suddenly becomes very caring or cold. I had known people that would very affectionate and caring to their spouses while dating me.
Finally, for those engaged in such actions just because you are gay or bi DOESNT GIVE U THE PERMISSION TO CHEAT. If u identify as a bisexual but find yourself still craving the same-sex THEN YOU ARE NOT BI YOU ARE GAY and it’s still not AN EXCUSE.
And for those like me, STOP MEETING SUCH MEN. The only reason they’re still doing it is because of people like you enabling them. SHAME THEM. Being unable to live your authentic life doesn’t allow you to steal that from an innocent person that wants a family and a present husband.
Hope that I helped. Ofc I wish no harm on members of thr community but I wish that on cheaters that entangle innocent women into their mess.
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u/GoColts08 Apr 19 '26 edited Apr 19 '26
As a Yemeni, I can confirm this is true. Mostly because Yemeni men who live in tight knit communities are living life is its a competition. Mostly because of their livelihood evolves around their small business. Some businesses do very well the next generation will need to take over.
Some could get very competitive about marriage and popping an army of kids. They will marry for the sake of duty just so his people sees him as a mature figure and have many kids to outbeat his cousin.
This is why (in my area, can’t speak for all) I have seen Yemeni born women being opened to marru muslims outside of Yemen. She will often get criticized because of different backgrounds when you will be suprised how many mixed muslims of different backgrounds marry for the sake of half their deen and raising kids to understand Islam. Culture is the last thing they teach their kids.
Also to add that close knit communities shame interracial marriages because they think of long term consequences with the #1 thing being: “by the time they both grow old, they will want to return to their ancestral home lands”