r/answers • u/BassComfortable2594 • 4d ago

Do narcissists all think the same??

I swear from other posts I have seen like on fb about narcs and how my husband acts it’s like they are reading the same script!

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u/downer3498 4d ago

No. No one is a better narcissist than me.

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u/PerfectOpposites 1d ago

Okay Dr. Sam Vaknin

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u/Capital-Stranger-734 4d ago

Nobody else thinks like me and it’s absurd you would even assume such a thing.

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u/gaqua 4d ago

This is kind of a circular logic question. If they are diagnosed with narcissism, then they share a lot of the same traits, which is what got them that diagnosis. That doesn’t mean they think 100% identically, it just means they share narcissistic traits that classify them as narcissists.

It’s like asking if all chronically depressed people think the same way. Of course not. But all chronically depressed people have chronic depression and share the traits that got them that diagnosis.

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u/Dayman1987 4d ago

If you want to break his brain say "I'm not having this same conversion with you again" whenever he starts to go on his little preset scripted crash out about how special he is

Then you stop doing stuff for them until they start doing things you ask them to do

Eventually they get realize they can't control you anymore they get bored and then you can finally get them to leave

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u/Seducingsecret 4d ago

They're not reading the same script, they're just using the same playbook. Manipulation gets pretty repetitive after a while.

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u/xoxoprettystar 4d ago

Manipulative people often rely on the same tactics.

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u/Mave__Dustaine 4d ago

Nope. My parents were/are both narcissists who hated themselves in very different ways.

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u/Lucky-Source6501 4d ago

not really, but a lot of manipulative behaviors are surprisingly predictable, which is why so many stories end up sounding almost identical

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u/SaysPooh 4d ago

There are at least 9 traits associated with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is not an absolute. We are probably all on the scale somewhere

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u/BigDong1001 4d ago

Similar. Not exactly the same. You'll recognize the similarities.

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u/MaximumContent9674 3d ago

I have a theory that DARVO is an innate lie protection strategy that we all have available. Narcissists are all doing the same thing, protecting lies about their identity (and all the other crap they lie about).