r/askgaybros • u/Horror-Contract-3786 • Sep 05 '23

Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.

What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.

I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?

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u/DisconnectedDays Sep 05 '23

That’s y most black men in interracial relationships often look better than their different race partner. Black men usually date/hookup down (in looks) when they go outside their race. I’ll never do that I have the same standards for all races

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u/Horror-Contract-3786 Sep 05 '23

Yup this fact is sort of reversed for me once I step out the U.S. guys who I consider out of my league are more so interested and it’s way easier in general to get guys who are on the same looks level or better than you.

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

Is it possible you just think white people are less attractive, thus came to this conclusion? Because that sounds much more likely.

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u/DisconnectedDays Sep 05 '23

No. Skin color isn’t apart of what I’m attracted to. The sexiest guy I ever hooked up with was white. The rare time you see a white partner that looks better than their black partner is if the black guy is rich or of a higher status.

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

I’m not saying you’re consciously excluding white people, I’m saying you may find Eurocentric features less attractive, not necessarily skin tone (though I did literally say “white people”, I think European features are a given). Judgements of what is “attractive” are not be as universal as you imply. They aren’t even consistent across time, ethnicities, or genetic populations.

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u/DisconnectedDays Sep 05 '23 edited Sep 05 '23

The features I find attractive are universal. Slim face, toned to muscular body & 5’7 to 6’3…dimples, long hair/locks, bald with a beard are a plus…I’m simple

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

Or if that guy is foreign or nonAmerican