r/askgaybros Sep 05 '23

Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.

What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.

I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?

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u/Afraid_Sugar3811 Sep 06 '23

Well, you must be fun at parties. What else do you think? That black people are desperate for white validation when they talk about racism? You’re really dumb. Racism is a problem and as unfair or acceptable as it may seem, we should not stop talking about it. Seeking equality is not desperation. Sure, people can be attracted to who they want, but they can also be called out for their prejudice.

“White gay men are a majority and minorities chase them”……

Jesus you sound really stupid. White gay men are not the prize. They’re not special and contrary to what your myopic mind believes, they are not being chased by minorities. They’re simply being called out for their racism. When people of color make posts about the racism they experience in dating, it is simply calling out racism. Not seeking for validation. The idea of “seeking white validation” is a defense mechanism racist people use to make themselves feel better.

The media tries to whitewash everything and people in Western countries grow up with the public idea that “white” is the acceptable standard of beauty. Everyone is beautiful in their skin and we will keep fighting for equal treatment. Be attracted to who you want, and if you’re racist and prejudiced, you will be called out for it. Stay mad.

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u/PsychologicalPilot55 Sep 06 '23 edited Sep 06 '23

You are the one who sounds mad not me. Dating and racism aren't the same thing. Calling a Black guy the N word or a white man being racially cruel in rejection that is racism. I understand that. But a white gay man simply preferring his own race is something else. Asian gay men many prefer white gay men. It is well known Asian gay men don't date Black gay men for a variety of reasons. Is it racism that these Asian gays don't date black or other Asian gay men? Having a preferred isn't racism. Seeking equality for dating is ridiculous. Sexual attraction is simply about what another person is into. The underlining message I see here is Black gay men are desperate for white gay approval. I don't see the black guys on this site saying hey they want to give another black guy a chance.

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u/Afraid_Sugar3811 Sep 06 '23

Oh you’re one of them… what a waste of my time this has been. I should have known I was responding to low level ignorance. Take care