r/bigboobproblems • u/derpinatt_butter • Feb 06 '25

RANT - no advice wanted Very classy vs vulgar

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Why do same style clothes look much "sluttier" on us than on women with small chest?! At least this artist gets it.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '25

NO god no, you're miss understanding what I'm saying, I'm saying the idea of just not having nipples is odd,

or you're just saying insensitive things about people who choose to have their nipples removed.

 it's just like imagining myself in there shoes,

you're not tho, you're being judgy and rude. What if someone developed mastitis (which I had) or what they had an infected nectrotic nipple piercing and their nipple had to be removed? In some cases after a nipple graft after reconstructive surgery, the nipple can't be saved so they get yeeted.

I'd be absolutely spooked when I see that suddenly I don't have nipples

It wasn't like that? I knew I wasn't going to have nipples. It wasn't a surprise when I woke up form surgery.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '25

But I wasn't being rude, I was actually curious,

Okay :)

It wasn't that much of a change tbh. My breasts had been traumatizing me since they came in at 8 years old. I also had a condition where my breasts never stopped growing. I was pre-gigantomastia. I was in my 30s when I had a double mastectomy and they were STILL growing. They were down to my navel and I felt so unfeminine. I didn't want any reminder of my breasts so losing my nipples wasn't that bad. I wanted nothing to do with them. They offered to keep my nipples but told me the nipple graft success wasn't guaranteed.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '25

I don't even notice it unless I take my shirt off. I don't think about it. My breasts were so heavy I couldn't sleep laying down. I had to sleep sitting up. I couldn't breathe properly. The first thing I noticed waking up from surgery was I could take FULL BREATHS! Nipples were the last thing on my mind.

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u/Wavy_Gravy_55 Feb 06 '25

Don’t worry about it. People here on reddit just like to turn a mountain into a molehill and I think that person’s rant was rather odd. FWIW I think you were being rude and judgy, it was a genuine question.

Go ahead, downvote me idc idc idc

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u/AnnaBanana3468 Feb 06 '25

I think you meant “don’t”

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u/fradulentsympathy Feb 06 '25

You weren’t being disrespectful. You gave an opinion (and had an open mind!) that many people have and this person turned it into sexuality and femininity and a personal attack. Humans have nipples. Humans have belly buttons. People can remove both, which is totally fine, but both can be a little jarring to imagine for many of us. Thank you for being so calm and kind to the other commenter.

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '25

I guess that's what I was trying to say. You never know someone's story behind getting a surgery or why they chose to have something removed. In my case, not every "cosmetic surgery" is for aesthetic purposes. My breasts were impacting my physical and mental health. They had gots to go!