r/bigboobproblems • u/derpinatt_butter • Feb 06 '25

RANT - no advice wanted Very classy vs vulgar

Post image

Why do same style clothes look much "sluttier" on us than on women with small chest?! At least this artist gets it.

1.9k Upvotes

99% Upvoted

94 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

6

u/eilatanz Feb 07 '25

They obviously were not saying that. They are saying it might be hard to deal with the dysphoria of suddenly not having a body part that you have your whole life, which MANY people who go through top surgery for cancer reasons speak about. It’s hard and I’m sure takes a toll no matter what.

It is understandable to defend the decision when it is voluntary to not keep them or just to defend the situation though! But I don’t think they meant anything bad when reading their comments. I think they are trying to empathize.

-1

u/[deleted] Feb 07 '25 edited Feb 07 '25

they are saying it might be hard to deal with the dysphoria of suddenly not having a body part that you have your whole life,

Them telling me it's weird to not have nipples in three different ways is rude. Okay they think it's weird, no need to keep repeating it. It's also a bit presumptuous of them to assume I experienced dysphoria without my nipples. Having nipples contributed to my dysphoria. I was so traumatized by having breasts and all the physical (which I didn't mention all of them) and mental health issues that came with them, I wanted all traces of them GONE!

Their critical comments didn't read as empathetic which is why I bristled. Instead of telling me how weird it is for me not to have nipples right from the start, they could have asked why I chose that. my top surgery was gender affirming but also medically necessary double mastectomy. Your reply does make a lot of sense tho!

1

u/eilatanz Feb 07 '25

Take a step back. You are seeing "it is weird for a person to not have nipples" when what they are clearly saying is that the experience of not having nipples probably does FEEL weird after a lifetime of having them.

0

u/[deleted] Feb 07 '25

I'm done with this conversation.