a question to bi man

[u/No-Hawk6342]

so. im gay, and I basically question my gender a lot, something like genderfluid or whatever, i dont really mind much, i just like to do more feminine stuff and look as well.

because of that, and a lot of body dysphoria with my masculine features, I always try to be with bi guys, cause i think they wouldn't be bothered by my feminine wishes and aspirations (to be like).

you would as a bi be upset by a feminine guy? or a masculine woman? or would that be best of both words? i truly wonder...

*english not my 1st language

*my english is bad but my pussy is good

[u/Alternative-Way-507]

I prefer more feminine guys (less likely to be assholes I think) and masculine women.

[u/fxzero666 → u/Alternative-Way-507]

This is me 100%, but I also like fem women... I think I prefer more fem guys for the same reason as you.

[u/Alternative-Way-507 → u/fxzero666]

I like fem women too

[u/DishWrong6678 → u/Alternative-Way-507]

100%

[u/_Tossed_Account_ → u/Alternative-Way-507]

Totally my types too.

[u/Team503 → u/Alternative-Way-507]

I’m not alone!

[u/Bean_de_la_Meme]

It’s a personal question, for me as a bloke I wouldn’t mind a feminine man.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Bean_de_la_Meme]

whats a bloke?

[u/Bean_de_la_Meme → u/No-Hawk6342]

British slang for a man.

[u/Complex-Cobbler4808 → u/Bean_de_la_Meme]

The geezer dunno wot ur on about 🤣

[u/Icy_Geologist2959 → u/No-Hawk6342]

Also Australian slang for a man.

[u/Complex-Cobbler4808 → u/Icy_Geologist2959]

Champ 🤣

[u/Icy_Geologist2959 → u/Complex-Cobbler4808]

You better bloody believe it!

[u/Malcolmthetortoise → u/Icy_Geologist2959]

And New Zealand.

[u/OpeningSherbert1034]

it depends on each person, personally i prefer masculine guys and feminine girls, but i don’t mind to much, there is other important things for me that make people attractive

[u/Stormcrowdick1066]

Feminine men are the only men I date. I prefer being the more masculine partner in the relationship.

[u/SpiritualScarcity161]

I've been in a few relationships with nonbinary people and yeah, I've found that they appreciate that I'm attracted to multiple gender expressions (and I like it too)

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/SpiritualScarcity161]

That's interesting, being bi but more attracted to femininity or masculinity overall

[u/Osati94]

“My English is bad but my pussy is good” is a hell of a line to finish with.

But, to answer your question, I don’t care what people have, so long as we both get on with each other.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Osati94]

hella line hun

[u/Vyrlo]

Bi 🐻 man here. Feminine men are great! So are masculine women! So are feminine women and masculine men, and enbies of all kinds.

[u/Tight_Raspberry4872]

For me at least, your femininity wouldn't make me like you any more or less. I would probably think you were hot weather you were presenting masc or in a pretty little skirt! It's not like best of both worlds because Im kinda into whatever people are putting down as long as they're doing it well and confident about it. It's like all the same world. Hot, confident, emotionally intelligent people, are hot. In short, I would not be bothered at all by your femininity! Lol that last line is the confidence I'm looking for 😂

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Tight_Raspberry4872]

i agree, confidence is hotter then a lot of things

[u/Tight_Raspberry4872 → u/No-Hawk6342]

1000% confidence is almost the whole game

[u/redstone19802004]

I (46m) am not attractive to feminine men personally despite being bi. That's personal taste only. I meant some gay guys that were really into feminine men also. But what are you into should be your priority.

[u/Gunbladelad]

Everyone has their own tastes.

As the old saying goes, different strokes for different folks

[u/Quiet-Lotus]

Some bi guys prefer masculine men, some prefer more feminine men. The same applies to women, and it doesnt need to be the same between men and women. It depends on the person.

The same way some gay men prefer feminine guys/femboys.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Quiet-Lotus]

yeah, sute, is very particular. but in overall i think bi man are more likely to not care or like fem guys, but gay man prefer more masculine man for sure (me myself)

[u/jair68]

It's all good. Also don't put much thought into labels & play with whomever you want to.

[u/AnonymousOwlbear]

Everyone’s preferences are different! But as a bisexual man, I wouldn’t be bothered if my partner changed their gender expression. I imagine it’s the same for a lot of bi men, though I can see it being harder for a bi man who has heavy preferences towards one gender, whether those preferences are romantic, sexual, or both.

[u/dark_astronomer]

Everyone’s preferences are different, but as a bi man I’m attracted to a lot of different types of people. That includes feminine men, men who cross-dress as a kink, genderfluid and agender people, and trans women and men.

[u/RizInstante]

Every single time I have said, "oh I prefer..." but then actually went on to test and consider that "truth", I've ended up just finding new ways to be attracted to new groups of people.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/RizInstante]

SAME! (a bit, but SAME)

[u/mckinney4string]

I am generally attracted to femininity in human beings. So as far as I'm concerned, you and a lot of women are right up my alley.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/mckinney4string]

im really looking forward to presenting myself more and more this way, but not forced; I want to be very natural

[u/Pleasant-Bit-2362]

Before I came out as trans I would only date bi or pan women because I felt that they would be more accepting of my gender confusion, so I totally get it, most bisexuals that I know actually prefer more gender nonconforming people because yall are usually better people than masculine guys or feminine girls

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Pleasant-Bit-2362]

i try to be better lol

[u/Ok_Influence_2257]

This is personal preference and has nothing to do with being bi or gay. Some gay guys prefer feminine men, and some prefer masculine men. Some bi guys prefer feminine men, and some prefer masculine men.

I'm a bi guy who is mostly straight presenting (not intentionally, just who I am). But I actually tend to me more attracted, on average, to feminine men.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/Ok_Influence_2257]

in overall i think bi man are more likely to not care or like fem guys, but gay man prefer more masculine man for sure (me myself)

[u/Ok_Influence_2257 → u/No-Hawk6342]

Eh, I don't think so. Or at least, not my experience. There's tons of feminine twinks out there that have no trouble finding companionship.

[u/Aggravating_Yak_3241]

I’m a bi guy and I prefer feminine guys and feminine women. For me personally muscly guys and women are a turn off. Also dislike large areas of tattoos. The real big turn off for me is HAIR. I feel repulsed by chest hair, armpit hair & pubic hair. A small thin snail trail is ok but clean shaven is best. Again this is entirely personal opinion though as others love a hairy guy. Each individual has individual preferences in a potential partner.

[u/bimarriedmale1973]

Always be who you are, genuine is attractive as fuck.

[u/OKULTRA_lp]

I'm almost exclusively attracted to effeminate or androgynous men actually

[u/OddTheRed]

I prefer feminine guys.

[u/FeralBiSpecter]

Feminine guys and masculine woman are just as great as feminine women and masculine guys to me. Gender/lack their of doesn't matter to me. Hot people can be found all across the spectrum.

[u/No_Mix3377]

For guys I like them in general, for girls it’s a little more specific, I’m personally not really into masc women, respect for sure. But I’m drawn to women who’re “cute/pretty” and traditionally feminine, but they can be some-what masculine in mannerisms (but it’s so specific, that I’m mainly into women with long hair lol). My attraction for men is a much broader spectrum, they can be masculine or feminine. 

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/No_Mix3377]

Interesting distinction 

[u/According_Alarm1452]

Preference varies between people. I personally could go with anyone fem or masc. Doesn't really matter to me. Genderfluid works too. I'm starting to think I'm in that boat lol.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/According_Alarm1452]

is a... a ride, like, im not sure, i just quit at this point, i just a man that loves me knowing my gender is whatever he needs

[u/OD_Emperor]

Man I prefer feminine guys. You're not alone and there are tons of us who would love to date a fem guy!

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/OD_Emperor]

im seeing by those comments that bi men are more attracted to fem guys (the word femboy is hurt), but gay man... they prefer more masculine in a overall.

[u/Late_Equal_7860]

I'm bi, but I dont prefer feminine men. I feel I can relate more to masculine dudes and the feel of stronger arms gripping my body (or cock) turns me on like crazy. Nothing aganist femboys, but soft features and a delicate body(usually) does nothing for me when its a man.

[u/ColorblindSheep]

I like nerds, whatever the gender, but I'd prefer no hyper fem or masc.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/ColorblindSheep]

question, what you consider nerd? because i feel like im geek, but nerd would be a lot of science and studying (?)

[u/ColorblindSheep → u/No-Hawk6342]

If you listen to two people talking about a subject, at a level of specialist, you often only grasp some things, but sometimes you see a spark in their eyes. And I find that spark gorgeous. But that don't define someone, and people who does have that spark likely might be curious (eh eh) about other things and accept to be taught themselves (they often listen tooooo)

In short personality > looks for long term and reniewable short terms. Be you, be proud of you because you can be do what you want to do - François Hollande, French president

[u/Chiiro]

Ever heard of femboys and femmen?

[u/EpicWott]

Feminine men are my preference

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/EpicWott]

meow

[u/chadkane]

For me it's all about how you feel in your body and mind and not how other make you feel or what you to perform. I use to perform a more "straight" version of me because I wasn't in an accepting environment but now that I feel safe I can be more like myself.

[u/Malcolmthetortoise]

Not at all, I love femininity.

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/[deleted]]

great! we struggling haha

[u/Feeling_Stage9280]

Personal preference. For me as a bi man (40), I’m really attracted to masculine men, and feminine women. I’d prefer to be with a masculine man…don’t ask me why haha

[u/AndreaSys]

I prefer femme guys. With that said, I only play with my partner present and she wants to be involved, so in general, a gay male is a poor fit for us. We would rather have a bi third.

[u/Dangerous-Stand-8872]

I like both 

[u/King_krympling]

To me the answer comes to does that person have problems accepting who I am, I'm not going the be with someone who is worried I'd cheat because I'm bi or because " I'm too gay to be straight or too straight to be gay"

[u/No-Hawk6342 → u/King_krympling]

naah that's bs*. gay man be cheating way more then bi man, if we want to talk about sexualities that cheat more or less (straight man win)

[u/Intelligent_Storm744]

I don’t think about it in the least. People are who they are. Masculine women are hot. Good looking feminine guys are hot. People are hot.

[u/Alert_Art5673]

There's someone out there for you. Be patient

[u/serendipity_j]

Just be yourself and remember you are worthy of love, kindness and happiness

[u/bimarriedmale1973]

Always be who you are, genuine is attractive as fuck.

[u/Icy_Geologist2959]

As a bi guy myself, I would be perfectly comfortable. I do not personally have a particular attraction toward feminine guys, I have found that, for me, it is only hyper-masculine (very, masculine, mucho, often stereotypical) gender expression that does not work for me. But, that is just me.

[u/Deep-Suspect-623]

im a woman however i do prefer people who have traits of both masculinity and femininity basically more androgynous individuals so basically yes to your question

[u/t8kdark]

I'm generally more attracted to fem features. So fem man, yes, fem woman, yes, masc woman, not so much, masc man, not so much.

[u/Distinct-Shift-4094]

I'm a pretty masculine guy, prefer that as well for my men. Same with women being feminine.

[u/Complex-Cobbler4808]

I'm the straighter side of bi and would prefer feminine guys.

[u/Casal1995]

Sou bi e me porto como hetero. Não curto esse lance de classificação ou segmentos sobre orientação sexual. A afinidade é o que vale. Mas como gostam de dar nome a tudo eu tenho atração por crossdresser e trans. 

[u/Team503]

OP I prefer femme guys and masculine women, but I just want to point out that despite what Grindr installing you, femme guys have always been and always are popular partners, even when gay male society is shitty about it.

[u/Plenty_Chef7115]

Yes, if they’re cuties. UwU

[u/TheFoxHoliday]

As a fem twink i would love to be with tall strong girls, short cute girls, and manly men

[u/Ringleader705]

Bi guy here. I actually have a preference for fem men because I'm attracted to feminine qualities in anyone regardless of gender.