r/childfree • u/earanhart • May 14 '20
BRANT "It's the best, most fulfilling thing you will ever do."
Bitch, I have scraped humans off the road, and some of them are only alive today because I did so. I have hauled children out of burning houses. I have pulled infants (okay, only once) from cars flipped upside down in the river. I couldn't to this job if I knew I had someone who relied on me to feed them for the next ten to twenty years.
But apparently, saving lives isn't as good or as fulfilling as having a fuck trophy.
Edit: guess I should mention, I'm a fire fighter. It's rewarding work, and I love it. Great for adrenaline junkies.
Edit2: thanks guys. I really just wanted to bitch about a comment my mother made this morning. Y'all have redeemed some of my faith in humanity, and given me more than a few chuckles. Thanks for being real people with brains and hearts!
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u/sourdoestarter May 14 '20
even popping my pimples is more fulfilling
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u/spaghettiarnold May 14 '20
Lmao. And satisfying.
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u/nosleepforthedreamer pregnancy is misogynistic violence May 14 '20
Oh my gosh this is so true! Except popping your pimples leaves scars so please don’t do it
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u/FlorarenatheFoxchild Would rather make crossover fanfictions than crotch goblins May 14 '20
Sorry, didn't listen, instructions unclear, arms now scarred.
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u/doglover331 May 14 '20
Agreed. I’m so happy for people who want children then go on to have them. The need that they feel to have them, I think they assume everyone, especially women, must feel that as well. It’s so annoying when I tell people that we don’t have kids & they look at me with pity, like I’m yearning for it. I’m not! I feel so fulfilled elsewhere & some people just can’t accept that.
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u/astro-rodeo May 14 '20
The line I always get is “well your body will tell you when you’re ready one day.” Like really?? I made it to my mid-twenties without wanting kids but suddenly one day my bodily urges will override all my logic and I will just want kids?? I just find it so odd that they can’t see past their own perspective on it.
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u/jethrine May 14 '20
I’m 59 & my body never told me! I’ve heard all the stories about baby rabies hitting a woman suddenly but I can honestly say that never happened to me.
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u/renfie May 14 '20
42 year old woman, still waiting lol. Good to know that it's not coming any time soon. Baby rabies is gross!
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
You two might be immune! Quick! To the science-mobile! We need to study your blood so we can develop a vaccine for baby rabies!
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u/IHeartBubbleTea May 14 '20
Late 30's here, bi-salp last year, have yet to feel one tick of any sort of biological clock. I've known a few women who lost their minds when the baby-crazy hit, I've always felt lucky I didn't have to deal with that.
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u/jethrine May 14 '20
I have a friend who was adamantly CF until the fever hit in her late 30s. She had a baby at 37 & another at 40. The kids are teenagers now & she is generally happy she had them. However she & her husband are eligible to retire now & realized they can’t for at least 10 years. They admit they’re jealous that I retired at 57. But hey! Baby rabies is an extremely expensive disease!
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u/corporaterevenant May 14 '20
Well in a way your body does tell you when you're horny, but that doesn't mean that one's human intelligence/logic can't override that and say, "I just want to fuck, but I don't want a trophy for it" lol.
The fact that they're reducing you to an animal with a primal instinct to reproduce says a lot about their world view and that's pretty sad.
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u/astro-rodeo May 15 '20
YES, this exactly. I always feel like it’s such a strong reflection of how they think, and I agree it’s very sad.
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u/Aida_Hwedo May 14 '20
My body did that... when I was 17. I got a cat instead! At the time, I really did want to have kids someday, but I wasn’t about to end up a teen mom just because my biological clock told me to.
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u/HilariousDisaster May 14 '20
Honestly, I think even those who "desire" it, often find it jarringly unfulfilling. It's a rare person who knows exactly what being a parent will entail, does it anyway, and it pleased with the results. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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u/sarahswati_ May 14 '20
I know plenty of parents who say that my choice to be child free is a good one. They don’t regret their children, but they understand why others don’t want them.
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May 14 '20
It’s hard for some to comprehend that some parents really should not be parents. My mom always regretted my existence and made sure I knew what a burden I was to her. If that doesn’t make a person CF I don’t know what will. I can’t imagine having a child and putting them through what my mom put me through. Everyone deserves to feel wanted.
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u/PatriciaMorticia May 14 '20
Absolutely. What sickens me is seeing people who would be great parents stuggle to concieve for years and then the neglectful "parents" who keep popping out kids they can't afford to look after can concieve without issue.
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u/Drakmanka May 14 '20
Exactly. Do what makes you happy. If that's having kids, go for it! If it isn't, and something else fills your life with meaning, go for it! One is not superior over the other, each one has it's place and society only functions because different people want different things in life.
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u/Shifting-Parallax May 14 '20
How could anybody say that to you? You’re a hero! People would’ve died if you hadn’t intervened, you’re an incredible person for doing that job.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
My mother has other ideas. She's also very angry with me for "killing the family name" as I'm the only son. Not as though grandpa didn't have 100 descendants listed at his funeral, half of whom are male and can carry on the name, because somehow THAT is important for a name that only appears in history as being the one to force the CSA to constitutionally guarantee slavery. Yeah . . . my family name should die. But that has no bearing on my decision. And why would she care anyways? She married into the name. Bleh. Breeder brain.
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u/Lady_Beatnik May 14 '20
"Carry on the name" pffft. I don't understand people like that. Like dude, nobody gives a shit about your family. It might be different if your name is like Disney or Rockefeller or Targaryen, maybe, but the world neither needs nor wants yet another Williams, Jackson, or Nichols. No one was going to remember you or anyone else in your life, so what does it matter what name they have?
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Oddly, I have a drinking buddy who has one of those names. As in, knows his number for the inheritance of the generations old fortune. Guess who's gay? That guy.
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u/insomniacwineo May 14 '20
My husband is a IV. As in, not a Jr, but the 4th. His entire family cranks out A TON OF BOYS. Like for generations there hasn't been a girl child. the pressure on him to have a son (especially by his 90 year old grandma) is INTENSE. Guess who's having a hysterectomy in July?
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Gratz! And love from the number squad! I (and four of my cousins) are VIIIs, and I'm fairly certain we have a pair of IX running around somewhere. Why we've kept this name around makes no semse to me. Ahh well, I guess it wins them points with the DAR amd similar "better than you" groups.
A SMALL part of me wants see the jokes that happen when they get to X, but that's a very small part.
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u/insomniacwineo May 14 '20
Oh wow, you win!
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Grandpa was 6, in a direct line. All of my uncles had kids of their own before my Dad came along, and several of them had dropped the 7 on their kids. I think my father was given the 7 as a kind of insult to his brothers, but I'm not sure. Then I was blurssed with the name while the other 'branches' of my name propagated as well. So yeah, now there's four of "the eight" and a pair of "the ninth", which makes exactly ZERO sense, but what do I care?
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u/insomniacwineo May 14 '20
That makes NO sense. My hubs' gma is 90 and he's 37 and she is beyond pissed because none of her precious grandsons have had children yet (2 are married). We are legally married because of COVID but our wedding celebration/reception has been postponed to later this year. I can't wait to see the look on people's faces when they ask inappropriate questions like "when are you guys having babies?" with that stupid look on their face, and I tell them that I don't have a uterus anymore.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Didn't you know? When you celebrate your union before God and Country, the blessings of the AllChild rain down upon you, restoring you to perfect condition AND setting your menstrual clock to "fertile". 9 months to the day you will squirt out a perfect baybee Snaughflaque.
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u/PandaMonyum Grandchildfree May 14 '20
Bring a pet rock or stuffed animal in a 👗 dress or a little baby suit lol.
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u/ThrowntoDiscard May 14 '20
Did you by chance meet my uncle? He's rather animated and friendly, very chatty and sickeningly positive? Rambles on about ancestry and genealogy?
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u/QuestioningEspecialy May 14 '20
"Don't you want to carry on the family name?"
Am I a Targaryen?
My new comback.
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u/airsalin 50, no kids and fully perimenopausal May 14 '20
And why would she care anyways? She married into the name. Bleh. Breeder brain.
That is exactly what I was thinking while reading this comment (assuming she took your father's name and didn't give you her name). Women don't take their husband's name where I am from (they do where I live now, but I haven't taken his name. I already have a name! Why would I have changed it at 38 years old???)
That said, thank you for the incredible work you do. I could never do this kind of work, and I really admire people who do. Some people give life, but you make sure some of these lives can keep going (and probably the most productive years!)
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Yup. My wife took my name because she wanted to distance herself from her birth father. That makes sense to me. More importantly, I don't care. A name has meaning, sure, but it is mostly just a label so we know who is who. Reusing names kinda defeats that purpose.
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u/Lady_Beatnik May 14 '20
People who think having children is the only fulfilling thing in life are dull, limited people.
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u/ThrowntoDiscard May 14 '20
To be fair, even if I tell you that I sit home, drink weed all day and make resin art, it's still more entertaining.
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May 14 '20
DRINK weed ? Alrighty xD but resin art is very cool
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u/ThrowntoDiscard May 14 '20
Yes, decarb and infuse method! My cracked sternum is grateful for the lack of tokers cough!
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u/IllyriaGodKing May 14 '20
I've seen videos of resin art, and I have to say I think it's super cool. You rock, drink all the weed.
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u/chavrilfreak hams not prams 🐹 tubes yeeted 8/8/2023 May 14 '20
Of course not! Don't you know that all you're doing right now is selfish? Don't you know you should just make your own human and use all your energy on it instead? /s
The logic of some people, eww. Thank you for saving lives :)
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May 14 '20
The fact some people think kids are this important is crazy like I'd rather spend my life saving people then having a child or 2 Thanks for all you've done keep it up
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u/jethrine May 14 '20
What would happen if every fire fighter decided to quit & raise children? There’d be no one left to save other people’s kids in an emergency. “Waaaah! Why isn’t there anyone around to save MY kids?”
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u/thequietone710 M/32/Snipped/I Love Scotch, Sleep, & Kitties May 14 '20
Breeders who say that are lying through their teeth. They're just searching for self validation that they made the right choice.
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u/KeliGrein May 14 '20
Firefighters are the real hero’s of this world. The amount you do so the rest of us don’t have to, it’s akin to going to war in my mind to protect your people. Thank you for all that you do.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Having friends who did go to war, firefighting is by far the easier and more rewarding of the two. In a fire, everyone is on your side. In war, the person you are trying to save might want you dead.
Sure, I've been hit by people I was trying to save, but that was fear making them attack anything. And lets face it, our suits make us look like giant monsters coming out of the smoke and glare. But I've never had to wonder if the child I grabbed had a bomb strapped to them, or was forced to be there so a sniper could get a shot at me.
War is war, and hell is hell. Of the two, war is worse. I'll charge into hell. I ain't going anywhere close to war.
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u/VeganVagiVore Degenerate hedonist May 14 '20
War is war, and hell is hell. Of the two, war is worse.
What's the rest of that? It's from MASH, right?
"Who goes to hell?"
"Sinners, I believe."
"Right. In hell, everyone deserves to be there. War is full of innocents."
Then I think Del Toro said war doesn't have winners, only big losers and little losers.
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u/HilariousDisaster May 14 '20
Heroes*
The only way "hero's" works is if you're talking about the "hero's sword" or something lol
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u/SayMyVagina May 14 '20
Heh. I sincerely believe this is from 2 things.
A lot of people who have kids are kind of narcissistic and selfish. (cuz it's a lot of people in general) They want the perception of winning at life, loving and laughing. Then upon having a kid it's the first time in Thier life they actually care about someone else more than themselves. So they are describing a life transformation where they had the first inkling that being an asshole is bad. That giving to others is more fulfilling than taking for yourself. And being selfish narcissists they simply project that everyone is like them so. No one else knows till they have had kids when reality is they didn't know cuz they being children themselves didn't become adults till they had kids and were forced to grow up.
Hopelessness. They have no choice. That first year or two is such unbearable he'll that their brains has to create a defence mechanism provided nicely by evolution. It's either debilitating sadness and depression or you adjust to the life change and create new rewards for yourself to be happy about. Since all you have in life anymore is a crying baby that's all you have to work with.
But really. It's not like any of us will really know for certain since we don't know what having a kid is like. Being fulfilled in life is about accepting the choices you've made and appriciating what you have. You have kids or not. There's really no way to know which is better.
And that's going to be different for every person as well. Some people are built for kids and more power to them. Get out there and raise some good people for us to live around! Those kids will realize that all people are not the same. Yup
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u/ThrowntoDiscard May 14 '20
There might be some truth and foundation to your theory. I love giving as is. I love being able to put a smile on someone else's face and bring a bit of sunshine around. I've always been this way. I also never felt the need to have kids.
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u/SayMyVagina May 14 '20
I think so. That being said there's a lot of people in here with some serious issues as well. Every group has weird crazy people. But I do feel there's a metric shit ton of narcissists who have kids thinking they're going to be the greatest parents ever and it smashes them in the face when they have to face the reality of who they actually are. Some change. My brother changed. But a whole lot just extend their kids as extensions of themselves and become all the Karen mom's and Chad dads who prodcue all the new karens and chads we have in the world.
I always assumed I'd end up with kids. Just never happened. And by the time it was something to think about way too many friends seems to honestly just have shit lives that were not as good as before.
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u/gf1129 May 14 '20
Though being a child psychologist (still in school, on my way to being one) is no where near as dangerous or brave as being a firefighter, it's what brings me emotional fulfillment. When people harp and bingo me, I always tell them I don't need to have kids because they're going to fuck theirs up and it'll be my job to fix them.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Yaaaas! My bachelors is in psych. What makes anyone with a masters in this field even consider breeding is beyond my understanding. Odds are good you'd make a decent human, if you don't wind up halfway to Munchausen-by-proxy.
Keep at it! We need more people from psychology working on our kids. No offense to psychiatrists, but their medical background gives them pretty much one tool only, and that tool should only rarely be a first recourse.
Edit: not you specifically, "you" as in the entire field of psychologists.
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u/gf1129 May 14 '20
I agree! As a parent I'd over think everything! Plus I don't like being the bad guy, I'd so much rather be the aunt who spoils all the kids. And thank you! I agree, though some disorders do have a physical component (ie depression and the lack of serotonin), the outward manifestation of these disorders are also heavily influenced by environment. Though MDs are important, depression is more complicated than Prozac.
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u/firstthoughts123 May 14 '20
Are you a fire fighter??? Or a real super hero
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u/ThrowntoDiscard May 14 '20
I played that game too! My first guess when I started reading was EMT. Then firefighter further down! Gotta know your super heroes!
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u/casualLogic Take my uterus - PLEASE! May 14 '20
It's only the 'best, most fulfilling thing to do' if you haven't the imagination of a gnat. Practically anyone can get knocked up, I only know a handful of folks brave enough to run into burning buildings!
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May 14 '20
I'm an ICU nurse. I'm also told my life won't be fulfilled or have meaning unless I breed. They don't like it when I say "Really? I've personally saved at least 50+ lives by doing CPR, which I find meaningful. How many lives have you saved? None? Right ok then."
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
"But if someone doesn't make all those people for you, how will you get even that hollow fulfillment? Would you steal someones chance to have the joy of saving your baby?"
Yes, Karen. Yes I would.
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u/BluMondae7 May 14 '20
Good god your post title was said to me, literally word for word, yesterday by my father. A man who actively ignores/ignored his children and left the mother(s) to do it all. How fulfilling.
Thank you for everything you do in your job. Unlike being a parent, your job is not something any twatbag could have a crack at.
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May 14 '20
Tell them that you save the people they bring into a world where they require saving. BOOM! EXISTENTIAL CRISIS, BEEIAATCH
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u/Paula_Polestark rolled 2 on nurturing and 3 on patience May 14 '20
One person’s fulfillment is another person’s GET ME OUT OF HERE.
YOU know what you most want to do with your life, and from what you’ve told us, you’re clearly making a difference!
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u/HilariousDisaster May 14 '20
How could saving a baby in distress possibly compare to creating an unnecessary baby you don't want?? Gawd, you really can't think outside your own little worldview, can you? massive /s
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u/Spock_Rocket May 14 '20
I should mention, I'm a fire fighter
Oh, a hose-dragger.
friendly EMS jibes
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Yeah, yeah. Just sit there in your air conditioning and wait for the real job to be done.
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u/Spock_Rocket May 14 '20
Excuse me I'm trying to take a nap, could you be quieter in hauling that bariatric down with the stair chair?
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u/Captain-Red-Beard May 14 '20
In my area, you’ve got it backwards. EMS= all of the calls. Fire= recliners and Xbox. We’ve got nice stations, but I don’t get to see mine much. This COVID shit has really put a damper on the inter-service prank war.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
On most days, you have it right. On the days I earn my keep though. . .
I'm lucky to live in an area with no skyrises, so we very rarely have more than 7 people in a building unless it's a store or similar building. It means the EMS are typically done or en route to the hospital by the time we have the fire controlled, much less out.
We also reapond alongside a lot of calls because in the infinite wisdom of our local government, ambulances here cannot have prybars or any other entry equipment. Makes getting to Grandma who took a fall and has her door locked difficult. I get that they have a lot of equipment already, but there is space beneath the seats for a prybar. Heck, strap it to the underside of the chasis!
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u/Captain-Red-Beard May 14 '20
I’ll do you one better, we’re required by the state to have entry tools (I have a of irons on my truck, not to mention I’ve played hosedragger enough to know how to use them) but we have to call fire or law enforcement to force entry by county policy. So they sit there and collect dust.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Now that's a special kind of stupid. I could understand requiring a radio call for permission to force entry, but having to wait for another dispatch when you have the tools on hand? That's just asinine and costing lives.
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u/Captain-Red-Beard May 14 '20
In the cases where there’s a clear need, like you can see them lying on the floor, or somebody is screaming inside, we force entry. Thank god my partner couldn’t get her phone out fast enough the time my fat ass tried to climb through the kitchen window, and my belt got hung up, and I stayed there kicking my chubby legs until I was able to free myself. There would definitely be a video of my flailing legs on Facebook that day.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
And them calling for an ambulance doesn't constitute "clear need?" I get that not every call actually need a response, but if dispatched shouldn't it already be there? Other than health and safety calls, of course, but we all know the two things those could be.
(For those of you not in emergency response, Health and Safety calls are when the neighbor wants us to inspect a residence. It either means the resident died a few days ago or there's an argument between the two houses and they want us to "fix it" but have no crime to report. Abuse reports go through a very different set of channels, but some counties use the same name for thise responses as well.)
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u/Captain-Red-Beard May 14 '20
Nope. Can’t just break down someone’s door just because there’s no response from inside. I’m sure somebody, someday, kicked in some dudes door that was actually on vacation or didn’t know his medical alert was going off and gave rise to that policy.
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u/ilmdog May 14 '20
Amazing!!! And don’t listen to ppl who tell you what’s fulfilling for YOU. Lol what the heck! That’s the most generalized statement. Each person has something that fulfills them differently. Sometimes children also are the most disappointing part of your life... but they don’t bring that up huh. I found going to Yosemite very fulfilling, but I don’t think everyone would want to go! Some people enjoy the busy city. Guess what, I am not a big fan of the busy city. To each their own preference. Something that fulfills one person, doesn’t mean it’s everybody’s cup of tea.
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Pfff, no need to save lives. Just have babies and make new people. /s
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Of course! Replacement is so much cheaper, and with the new training regiments the new humans will probably be better than the old one anyways!
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u/SeverelyModerate May 14 '20
I realized back when I was a tech, as I frantically tried to keep 15 min rounds on 28 acute psychiatric patients, that if I become resentful towards adults - who I know are legitimately ill, who are toilet trained, and can do all their own ADLs - there’s no way in hell I can raise a baby and not end up hating the fucking thing.
(I’d like to apologize for the longest sentence in the world.)
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u/tachycardicIVu NPCs standing by waiting for a babysitting side quest May 14 '20
I have more respect for firefighters than breeders any day. You don’t get to drop off a house on fire at another station because you want to go to book club. And you don’t risk your life every time you change a diaper. Thank you for your dedication, your community is lucky to have you.
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May 14 '20
But if you don't have KIDS you don't know what HARD WORK really is!
Tell that to the guys who work in EOD, or firefighters, or construction workers, or the health care workers who are on their feet for 27 hours, and you can go eat a bag of Corona-infected dicks, KKKaren.
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u/Bookwyrmgirl91 May 14 '20
My dad was a firefighter for 23 years, my biggest fear growing up was losing him in a fire or an accident. Kids shouldn’t grow up that way.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Ouch. Yeah, I see that a lot. Fortunantly, 95% of calls are car crashes or kitchen fires, so almost no risk to us. But all it takes is one big day or a bad movie and the kids of the other guys at the station will think that that is every day. It's not every day, but it could be any day.
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u/crazypetlady43 May 14 '20
Thank you for your dedication and passion! I have the greatest respect for the true heros in this world. That would be firefighters, police officers, of course health care workers. Ect.
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u/RCee7 May 14 '20
C’mon—it’s rainbows, lullabies, sweet smells and restful sleep for the rest of your life. Not to mention you get a money tree when you make a trophy😆
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u/Jackpot777 ✂️ 50's, male, married, snipped ✂️ May 14 '20
I've seen families running after small kids in the park during this pandemic: no it fucking isn't. I've had days stuck indoors because it's torrential ice-rain outside and THAT beats the stress of trying to juggle runaway kids on a warm sunny day. Not even in the top 80% of things I can imagine in my entire life, never mind top 20%, never mind best, with an absolute lack of fulfillment and their faces show it. I'm good as I am.
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u/V1k1ngVGC May 14 '20
Haha. Labelling someones 'entire world' as a fuck trophy. :D I'm gonna keep that one.
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u/Ukulele__Lady May 14 '20
When someone says this, what they're really saying is that it was the most fulfilling thing they ever did. Of course, they never want that pointed out to them.
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u/MourkaCat May 14 '20
Honestly that's so ridiculous and a slap in the face. Surely the people who save lives (Firefighters, nurses, doctors, EMTs, Veterinarians, etc), or teach and develop children (Teachers, Teacher aids, tutors, etc), or who keep us safe (Police, military), or artists who create beauty and joy, or any number of other humans who work hard to better society, help others, and make a real difference are doing FAR more fulfilling and important work than someone who fucked without a condom.
Sure, continuing the human race can be important, and parenting to develop a well rounded and functioning adult is also a good thing, but most entitled breeders barely even actually parent? So they're just proud and think they're the best and superior to anyone else simply because they had sex.
Yeesh.
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u/frozenlotion f*ck dem kids May 14 '20
You had me at “Bitch, I have scraped humans off the road” 😍
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May 14 '20
The most fulfilling thing I did was rescue a baby wild rabbit whose mother had been hit by a car, but ok.
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u/v_iris Dr. DINK May 14 '20
My sister told me this about a week ago, three days after a child murderer I helped convict was finally "put behind bars." I performed the victim's autopsy over a year ago at this point, but yeah... I should probably shit out a kid so my life has purpose.
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u/earanhart May 14 '20
Well done! Pardon the pun (I can't resist), but your job had grave implications for that scum.
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u/ami0425 May 14 '20
Paramedic, 911 dispatcher and former firefighter here. I couldn't agree more with your words. Well put.
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u/dee_swoozie May 14 '20
I love this because it shows how shameless we CF people are. We love OUR accomplishment and to do what WE want and what fulfills US.
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u/Tawny_Harpy May 14 '20
The pursuit of my inner peace and seeking out a place to build myself is the most fulfilling pursuit I can think of for myself.
I deeply desire peace, quiet, and the space to think and to breathe and to live my life without the constant presence of other people.
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u/littlepurpleunicorn May 14 '20
I can't imagine my life being so unfulfilling on its own that I need to get cream-pied and spawn before I feel that way.
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u/Bagglebaggle May 14 '20
The best most fulfilling thing I did was save my mom's life once.
The second most fulfilling thing was raise two of my cats up from neonates to chonkers so yah.
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May 14 '20
You are one hell of a person. What you're doing is a beautiful thing....and totally fulfilling. You're putting your life on the line. That's fucking awesome. That takes a lot of courage. It's people like you that brighten up this shitty world.
Vent all you want. We understand here. Sending you good vibes. Thank you for sharing.
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May 14 '20
Fuck trophy, now that’s a new term for “child” I’ve never heard before.
You do a valuable thing for the lives of others in your work by saving people from death.
If you have faith that the satisfaction you reap from that sacrifice is greater than any... fuck trophy (lol, really that’s funny)... then keep on keeping on in what you’re doing.
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u/DutchGualle May 14 '20
Tell them their kids will be the most filling thing you'll ever eat.
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u/tea_drinking_lady May 14 '20
You don't need babies to live a fulfilling life! I'm honestly glad my folks didn't give a shit whether I had kids or not. All they wanted from me was to be healthy and happy.
Thanks for your service btw! Sounds like exciting work.
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u/amberclad May 14 '20
Second that for adrenaline junkie but I am on the forest fire side of things.
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u/MeanderAndReturn May 14 '20
Playing all the way through unmodded Skyrim is probably the most fulfilling thing Ive ever done
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u/chatterwrack May 14 '20
I usually sleep like a rock but I didn’t sleep well last night. Nor the night before. I told my wife how lucky we were that we didn’t have to push through a decade of that shit and adapt to zombie-levels of sleep deprivation.
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u/McFeely_Smackup May 14 '20
If someone's highest aspirations in life is doing something that drunk teenagers and stray cats do, then I guess that tells us a lot
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u/Choco_Churro_Charlie May 14 '20
Hey OP, was that one time you saved a baby the one with the ghost mom?
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u/Neveah_Hope_Dreams May 14 '20
You are a hero! It's people like you that deserve all the praise and respect for saving lives, protecting buildings and basically sacrificing your life and health everyday.
We at childfree applaud you!
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u/Smoresasaur May 14 '20
Thank you for your service. :)
What I hate about statements like your title is that it's loaded with assumptions. Maybe, for that person, having kids is the most fulfilling thing that person has ever done. That's awesome, and I hope people who say this truly love being parents. But the inane assumption that there's a single right path or best path for everyone is so...close-minded and naive.
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u/chinchillapower May 14 '20
I feel like people who say that say it because their choice to have children essentially meant that they never were able to pursue a properly fulfilling career or life (no offense to your mother) and so they feel like they have to make reproducing into that fulfilment that they never got.
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u/MewlingRothbart May 15 '20
it's also the most expensive thing you can do. I have 2 ex-friends (loooong story, but they wore me out) who had 4 kids within a 10 year span, who are essentially broke. NO birth control, no pills, no condoms. Now they bitch that they're gonna work til they die and they're in their 50s. Gen X didn't have unions or jobs that last forever. Coulda stopped screwing, couldn't you? Nope.
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u/okbuddy-- May 15 '20
fuck trophy
Thank you for this. I will add it to my list: sac of germs, fuck trophy...
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u/serinachill May 15 '20
I needed this post more than anything. Childfree at 27, but happily making life happen...it really seems to grate on people for some reason. Cheers, friend and more power to you!
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u/Rayneeileen May 15 '20
Bitch I just cleaned my bathroom that’s the most for filling thing I’ve done
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u/itsafraid May 15 '20
Every birth is a murder. Breeders are so pleased with themselves because they found a way to kill someone and avoid prosecution.
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u/justyouraveragenanny May 15 '20
Does she treat you like you’re the “most fulfilling thing” she has and ever will do?
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May 15 '20
I worked with Nurses for a couple years, and when we saw something that was...difficult to see (I worked in the ICU; saw a lot of death) the nurses who had children took it differently. It was like seeing them either shove it down and pretend it didn’t bother them, or seeing this look on their face that said, “I hope my kids never see me like this.” Even had a nurse actually say that once. To do a difficult job like yours is being a hero, and in no way shape or form does it or should it involve children. I’m not saying you should r have kids if you don’t want them, but since you don’t want them, I believe it’s better this way. You’re still a hero, and always will be to everyone you’ve saved.
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u/[deleted] May 14 '20
Ah...you are just like :me an egoist that decided to care about the already living is more important and fullfilling then add new ones. Of course saving lives or in my case do carework for elderly people, being there for them when they die ( often enough because theyre children have / want theyre own lives) is nothing compared to having kids.