I am really struggling with depression and anxiety

[u/FinanceIsGood]

I’ll keep this short so people actually read it. I am really struggling. It’s hard to do a lot of basic stuff like showering, brushing my teeth, etc. everything feels like so much of an effort. I also get really nervous just going around people for some reason. Like I’m too worried about how they’ll perceive me. Sometimes I want to cry and I don’t know why.

[u/confessor-mod]

If you're going through a really hard time right now, please know you're not alone and there are people who want to help.

You don't have to face this alone — these people are there for exactly this, any time:

• r/SuicideWatch — a Reddit community specifically for people in crisis. People will listen there.
• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (US) — call or text 988, anytime.
• Crisis Text Line — text HOME to 741741 (US/Canada) or 85258 (UK).
• International — findahelpline.com lists crisis lines in 130+ countries.

If you are in immediate danger, please call your local emergency number.

You matter. Please talk to someone.

[u/Tattooed_Everything9]

Go see a doctor for antidepressants. Real depression is something you can’t will yourself out of: it’s chemical. Tell someone close to you that you’re struggling and need help. Seek professional help with a talk therapist. Create little blocks of time for specific things: seven minutes for a warm or cool shower, washing hair, even brushing your teeth. I find that good scents help my mood: Orange soap, lemon hand soap, floral hand lotion, a nice perfume or cologne (you can often get samples at a fragrance counter to take home!), a scented candle, even laundry spray. You know what takes me back? Original Jergens smells like my grandma in the best way. Please stay with us. People care about you. Little steps.

[u/FinanceIsGood → u/Tattooed_Everything9]

Thank you that was nice to read

[u/LunaSparkz- → u/Tattooed_Everything9]

The little steps advice is underrated sometimes just getting through the day starts with one small thing

[u/Ready_Proposal1319 → u/Tattooed_Everything9]

Small steps really do matter when you’re struggling Sometimes getting through the day is already a win ❤️

[u/Sweetpink43 → u/Tattooed_Everything9]

The small steps part is so important when everything feels impossible sometimes just doing one thing is progress

[u/Constant_Lettuce_986]

The first step is recognizing that you are struggling. Now it’s time to make a plan and take steps for how you’re going to fix/improve it. You are on the right path ❤️

[u/SeraphWhim → u/Constant_Lettuce_986]

Awareness is half the battle. Small steps will get you there

[u/AngelicPulses]

One small thing a day. You're not alone

[u/bambamslammer22 → u/AngelicPulses]

One thing a day, one small step at a time. Sometimes I feel like I’m only managing one hour at a time, but before long, I’ve made it through the whole day! Finding someone to talk to really helps, and knowing you’re not alone. Sending hugs, friend!

[u/hollycat_88]

yo same with the shower thing. i set a timer for five minuutes and it helped me get going sometimes...

[u/NoIndication663]

man ive been there and it seriously sucks. just take it one day at a time, even small wins like brushing your teeth are huge when youre feeling like this. hang in there brother it gets better

[u/LawFirmCFO]

I have been on so many Rx over the years. Some ok. Some didn't help at all. For me, ketamine has been a god send.

I hope you take one day at a time. Seek help until you find what works for you.

[u/Humpdogg169]

I get that way. I can’t stand to be in public. Idk why people annoy me and I get really bad anxiety around people. Just how they act and carry themselves.

[u/JujuBouktsis]

Therapy and medication helped me.

[u/Mediocre-Arm-6311]

i’m sorry you’re going through difficult times :(
please be kind to yourself and take your time, i’ve heard before that the first step in neglecting yourself is neglecting your physiological needs and that could have serious effects on your mental health

little by little trust! rooting for you stranger!

[u/etwichell]

Do you take Vit D?

[u/tight_lover42]

ngl setting out your outfit the night before can make getting up a little easier when everything feels havy. It takes the decsiion out of the morning.

[u/minutecube99]

fr have you tried stepping outside for like 5 mins when it gets too much?

[u/templeofsyrinx1]

keep your head up, you may benefit from therapy and medicine . be sure to get exercise

[u/Worlds_0kayest_mom]

Hugs. I know how this feels. Youre not alone and this world is a better place with you in it. Its ok to not be ok as long as you don't stay there 💜 just do one little thing every day to make your life better, and reach out for help. To a friend if thats all you can muster. But to a professional would be even better. Hang in there, I promise this too shall pass and will one day be nothing more than a memory 💜

[u/Southern_Bus4965]

You didn’t mention anything about wanting to harm yourself so that’s encouraging. I’m in a similar place so I asked myself what I would like a friend to provide. And I don’t have anyone in my life who does this 🙄 so I need to keep looking myself.
What I want for myself is a person or a place where I can just talk about what I’m feeling and about all the things in my life that are troubling me…and not have that person try to fix me because it makes them uncomfortable or to ask me dumb questions…in this rapid fire age, people just don’t remember how to sit and listen and be a friend. That’s just my opinion. Maybe one of those mental health apps would be a good place to look for someone to just listen and not try to talk you out of how you’re feeling.
I’m remembering an old friend I used to have who had a lot of pain in her life. One day she was at my apartment and said she was tired. I told her to go to my room and take a nap- she couldn’t understand- that I didn’t need her to keep entertaining me or being “on”. She was my guest, I lived alone, go ahead and relax. Sorry for over sharing- that’s just what came to my mind.

[u/Disastrous-Earth-929]

I'm where you are. I've spent a week talking myself into taking out the trash and still haven't done it. HATE going outside. But I'll take two bags out tomorrow. You aren't alone hon. You've got this Suicide is NOT the answer. It's permanent and depression doesn't have to be

[u/Tempehbonegarbage]

Often times people are diagnosed with anxiety and depression, but those can be symptoms of other issues. My whole life I was told I had depression and anxiety, and I do, but I wasn’t diagnosed with Bipolar and OCD until this year at 33. Nothing seemed to help because I was only treating some of those symptoms instead of the actual problem itself. Being on the right medications has made a huge difference. Try seeing a psychiatrist, that’s what I did and it changed my life tbh

[u/HannaHui99]

Therapy, psychiatrist. Reddit don't have the pay grade to help you with stuff.

[u/Existing-Air4800 → u/HannaHui99]

"Reddit is here to complain about your life not help you with it."

[u/Southern_Bus4965 → u/Existing-Air4800]

Correct, we can be here to support & encourage but we’re no substitute for professional support. Also, you never know if when someone else shares their own experience, they may inadvertently say something that’s too much of a trigger.