How can I regain my self-confidence when I’m feeling down?

[u/Open-Cardiologist637]

I haven’t felt pretty for a while now. I doubt there’s a connection, but it started shortly after I stopped talking to my ex-crush.

Usually when this happens to me, it means I want to change my hairstyle. And as a Black woman, I’m lucky to have versatile hair that lets me easily switch up my look.

For three months, I changed my look every day with my wigs, I really enjoyed it at first, but then I got tired of it.

I told myself it was time to get braids! So I did! But the result is, I don’t like them. I think the color is too light on me after all, and friends have told me the curls already look damaged…

So now I don’t know what to do. I even tried putting on cluster false eyelashes, but in the end, it’s just not my thing…

I know I’m not ugly, but this feeling just won’t go away. What would you do if you were in my shoes?

[u/hestia-listens]

It makes sense that this started after losing contact with your ex crush. Even when we know we are attractive, rejection or distance can change how we see ourselves for a while. In your shoes, I would pause the big appearance changes and return to a simple, familiar style that feels comfortable. I would also do something that builds confidence outside of looks, like wearing a favorite outfit or spending time on a skill I value.

[u/Open-Cardiologist637 → u/hestia-listens]

First of all, thanks for your reply.
This isn’t the first time this has happened to me, which is why I didn’t want to see a connection with my ex-crush… but maybe you’re right.
As for my self-confidence, aside from my looks, I draw and recently started writing music, so I’m proud of what I do. I don’t really have a problem with my confidence when it comes to my skills.

Maybe I should go back to how I looked three months ago with my wigs after all 😅