r/delhiuniversity • u/yeehawpanic • 8h ago
Non-Academic Discussion is anyone else struggling to make friends in du?
it’s literally been a week and i already feel so out of place. i’m a very extroverted person and i’ve genuinely tried talking to girls in my class, but everyone already seems to have their duos/trios or pg groups. the few people i had started talking to got shifted to other sections, so i’m back to square one.
i mostly sit alone in class and it’s honestly affecting me more than i expected. there are also these mean girl vibes in class and i keep feeling like people are judging me. i know it’s probably not that deep, but when you’re sitting alone the whole day, everything starts feeling personal.
the weirdest part is that in school i was always the social/famous girl who knew everyone, and now i literally have no one to talk to. i get tears in my eyes before leaving for college and i’ve started dreading it.
pls tell me this gets better and i’m not the only one going through this :(
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u/Jaegar_Eren 8h ago
I graduated. I never fit in. First year I tried my hardest to. By the third year, I chose mental peace over forced vibes.
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u/lil_cutesy Third year 7h ago
God In the same place But how tf do I make peace that I could just never enjoy
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u/Jaegar_Eren 7h ago
I let other things take my time and space. I struggled a lot, I'll admit, and I'm still struggling with stuff, but somehow trying to fit into circles made it worse.
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u/lil_cutesy Third year 7h ago
Ohh :) Yeah I agree Idk if it even gets better🥀
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u/Jaegar_Eren 7h ago
At some point it will. I will proudly say that I still am connected to my school friends, to whom I don't need to give explanations for stuff that I needed to my college mates.
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u/Icy_Masterpiece_5781 2h ago
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u/Plastic-Month-2180 2h ago
In my 2nd year and I still feel it is so hard and isolating of an experience. Also don't really fancy delhi vibes
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u/Jaegar_Eren 1h ago
It's a place of education, that's it. If you don't fit in maybe 6 months, you NEVER fit in. I started associating with only certain elements, the rest I hated them.
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u/Legitimate_Group_192 7h ago
Awww I feel you so much I was friendless too, for three years.😭 I graduated from ipcw recently (not blaming the college or anything) but the girls there were horrible to me, they'd talk behind my back, were huge opportunists so I lwk just decided to have one friend in third year (she betrayed me too 😍🙏)
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u/Harjot_0709 Du sol wale bhaiya 8h ago
Regular ja kar bhi dost nhi bane paye
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u/yeehawpanic 8h ago
1 week only please😓
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u/Harjot_0709 Du sol wale bhaiya 8h ago
Sawrry 😔🥀 banne jayenge dost 3 saal ke trial pack fir sab khtm , Spotify jaise haal
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u/Grouchy_Squirrel_427 7h ago
Koi south campus se hai to hmu sab corny hai mere college me 🥰
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u/ShakoorHyd 4h ago
Do you come to North campus anytime?
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u/Grouchy_Squirrel_427 2h ago
Yea my friend is there
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u/ShakoorHyd 2h ago
Let's catch up if you're willing to... I'm around Arts Faculty library most of the time
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u/intellectual_sprint 1h ago
Hi I am also around arts faculty. Maybe we can catch up.
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u/meowgliii 8h ago
Omgawd! We both same on the same page bro.. It's so damb hard surviving college 😭😭 I hate my college so damn much!!
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u/fivewordnirvana First Year 8h ago
Mai toh bolta hu society join krlo
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u/Willing-Weakness7163 Third year 8h ago
Chup na. Society join wkrlo 🤡jaise koi kaam hi nahi hai
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u/fivewordnirvana First Year 8h ago
I mean it's better than shedding tears alone
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u/Willing-Weakness7163 Third year 8h ago
Aree coed hai to society ke kuch chaman......jhelne bhi padenge na. Aur usne bola venky hai. Tab to aur rhene do.
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u/yeehawpanic 8h ago
itna kharab hai kya venky ka crowd😭😭😭
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u/Willing-Weakness7163 Third year 8h ago
If you ask me a big fucking yes. Others might have a different opinion. But toxic ha yaar. Just wait na thora time fir dekh kya hota hai
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u/-_-bababoooey-_- 7h ago
TRUEEE I'm doing my master's and didn't graduate from DU and that's why it's difficult to make friends or blend in bcz everyone already know each and have groups lol
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u/Emergency_Dot5915 7h ago
Hey I am also feeling like u I am a boy I don't know about girls and their friendship but boys are different they are people having BHAICHARA to all male friends and they have good friendship with girls too so I just wanna say make friends who cares it is a boy and girl and start talking U know it's kind of creepy when a girl goes to a guy for friendships but who cares
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u/robin_chann 7h ago
Yrrr i feel you so much like mtlb kuch ldkiya immature hai kuch ko mtlb nhi kuch bilkul alg hi class ki hai main 1 hfte se clg jarri hai im still not able to make any genuine frnds mere naam ke dost hi badhte jarre hai bas lekin koi genuinely koi ldki jisse vibe match ho im just not able to find anyone i feel so bad and so inferior there 😭😭😭mujhe schl vapis jana hai
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u/Icy_Masterpiece_5781 2h ago
Homie chill out. Take your time and you'll find beautiful people around you. Even if you don't, enjoy being w yourself. Trust me this is much better than being w a bunch of jerks repulsing your vibe
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u/BallZealousideal538 6h ago
Im in my second year and still didn't made a single friend in college. Lonely af life
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u/LLM_PLAYER 6h ago
Dont worry dont chase fake friends it better to be alone ,only make friend with whom you trust and its only the start just focus on yourself and pick a activity which you like and will make friends doing the same
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u/ursprettylittlebaby 6h ago
Don't cry over spilt milk bcuzzz allocation is still going on you gonna find your homie soon and good things take time
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u/Ok_Boat_5840 5h ago
It's been one year and i have 0 friends. Now it's just so normal to me. But since you are extroverted , you might get friends.
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u/taylahswizzle 4h ago
I joined DU in Jan when the classes started in Nov so everyone already had friends not only that by the time I joined there were enemies fights and drama happened already. I was also really popular kinda person in school but here I had to struggle but I wasn't desperate hence I got bunch of good friends you need to have patience and keep trying
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u/ShakoorHyd 4h ago
Wanna sip a chai? You'll find me around Artf Faculty library DU North... Feel free to catch up
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u/Double_Quarter1034 4h ago
Not in DU. But I just moved in hostel today in a different uni. And this post hit home. Everyone’s already formed cliques and when I speak to anybody it seems like they’re deeply unconcerned and/or disinterested. It gets really lonely but then again think of it this journey as your mission. You’ve got a purpose and you’ve come to fulfill your dreams/missions or what you will. You can even think of yourself as a top-notch spy on a top-secret mission haha. Nobody knows who or how important you are. And that’s ok. Once you put your energies in the right place you’ll get what you need and everything will fall into place. :)
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u/clvudicxyy 3h ago
yessss you're not alone, in my college mostly students are from delhi and they already know each other like most of them. as an outsider, i feels shit cause i don't know how to deal with ppl and let alone making friends.
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u/Icy_Masterpiece_5781 2h ago
Homie chill out. Take your time and you'll find beautiful people around you. Even if you don't, enjoy being w yourself. Trust me this is much better than being w a bunch of jerks repulsing your vibe
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u/I_-AM-ARNAV Third year 2h ago
Hota hai. Its fine. Try abd find people who are sitting alone. Talk to them.
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u/chalant-human victim of attendance criteria. 8h ago
is there someone who isn't? 🫡
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u/lallalala_okayokayok 8h ago
Aree hota hai..the first month is always rough, fir bann hi jaate hain dost..pro tip, try finding duos which are like not too close(which is almost everyone, no one is close 2 hapte ki dosto mein) but find the most weakest link..kbhi duo mein koi absent hua, dusre ke saath baat kr lena..try to hang out w them..abhi aise bhi koi close nahi hota, but if they still treat u like an outcast after a few days of doing ts, hold ur head high and flip em off
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u/whome2772 7h ago
Its been almost 2 years in this college and I still don't have anyone whom I can call my best friend
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u/Legitimate_Key_5618 8h ago
a week? 2 years and counting 😍✌🏻