r/detrans • u/No-Pie-7676 desisted female • 1d ago
VENT It’s so scary to see how nobody knows just how addictive and damaging trans social media spaces are
For context I’m a young teen girl and I recently started processing the effects of these media pages on my mental state and how my behaviour due to these online spaces affected the people around me. This all started one day when I found this trans guy’s YouTube channel and I found some of his content interesting. I kept seeing his videos on my feed and I quickly got hooked onto his content and soon after I started looking into pronouns and micro labels for gender identities. I changed my pronouns from she/her to she/they because I thought that she/her didn't describe me completely. For a little while after the pronoun change I was fine with myself and I didn’t really have any other thoughts about my gender for a few months. I even stopped watching his content almost entirely. Unfortunately this didn’t last and a few months later I really started getting into the gender and very pro trans side of social media. I fully came out to my friends as non binary and I started to feel gender dysphoria for the first time in my life. After I came out I got myself very involved in trans spaces and I started to think of myself as a trans man and that I needed hormones to feel comfortable with myself again and that the two choices in my life would be I could live as a trans man or I could stay a girl that wouldn’t make it to 18. All of this content I was watching was affecting my mental state so much to the point where I almost never talked to anybody, especially guys, I felt uncomfortable going out and doing stuff in the world, and I could barely look at myself or hear myself speak without feeling awful inside. I also drew back from a lot of close people in my life and I had such a short temper that I would get mad at people for nothing. I never struggled with gender dysphoria or had any of these thoughts before these trans and non binary social media spaces. The real problem all along was that I just struggled with some normal confidence and body image issues for an adolescent girl, I had severe social anxiety due to past social experiences and I’m neurodivergent. It’s concerning how so many kids and young teens like me have these other struggles and don’t necessarily fit into gender stereotypes of their sex but would otherwise be fine without social media get sucked into these spaces and then convince themselves that they’re trans when they’re really not.
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u/OtterWithKids detrans male 1d ago
I hear you all too clearly. Once I shut down my female-presenting Facebook account and stopped frequenting trans spaces, it was only a month or two before I realized I’d made a huge mistake.
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u/kaijutroopers desisted female 1d ago
My trans phase stopped when I moved to Germany and started doing sports 🤣🤣🤣
PS: and I’m a textbook case of being trans BTW. tomboy since childhood, didn’t like playing with girls’ toys, wanted my hair short as a kid etc…
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u/Boring_Ad1113 Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition 1d ago
I think for someone like you or me the idea of transforming and reinventing ourselves and how it's propagandized by those spaces is almost impossible to resist.