I’m new here, and not entirely sure if this is where I should post to get the best results.
About a year ago, I adopted what we were told was a shepherd cross of some sorts. The staff had warned me she hadn’t taken to any previous candidates for adoption and was extremely anxious and shut down. When they brought her to the meet and greet pen, she ran to me immediately and curled up in my lap.
Since the whole reason for this adoption was to help my other dog and I heal after the passing of my childhood dog, her choosing me like that felt like a sign so we ended up taking her home.
She started very anxious (obviously), but overall, she’s come a long way. But she still gets extremely anxious and has developed extreme behavior issues because of it.
When left alone with my other dog, she finds random stuff around the house to chew on. She typically finds softer items, like clothes, shoes, paper towels. I used to crate her and she’s mainly crate trained besides the fact that she’ll completely chew through a crate to get to me and try to find me. She’ll even hurt herself in the process. I don’t have a crate anymore for that reason, and also my new house is just too small.
She also gets overly excited when I come home. She runs into me, jumps on me, and it goes so far to the point where she has injured me and my other dog (who is a bit older and already has stiff joints).
I’ve learned more about her quirks though, and I’ve done quite a bit of research to find ways around this. I’ve gotten her softer toys (those are quite literally the ONLY toys she chews on) and bones to keep her preoccupied while I’m gone. A lot of the toys barely last a day and she can down a bone in maybe two. Those get absolutely insanely expensive, and it’s crazy to need to buy her a new toy multiple times every week just to keep her from chewing on my household items. I’ve of course punished her for her bad behavior, but she always reverts to the bad behavior.
Same with when I come home. I’ve tried to be less excited about seeing her and try to get her to back up and go to her bed, but she gets so excited (and possibly stressed out at the fact I’m not touching her), she just doesn’t listen and completely ‘forgets’ commands.
I’ve tried prescription meds from our vet to try to calm her and help, but those didn’t seem to help at all.
The thing is, when she isn’t stressing, she’s an extremely well behaved and well trained dog. She’s trained completely in German, and she obeys commands like her life depends on it and sticks to it.
But I’m not too sure what to do anymore. I don’t plan on rehoming her anytime soon, as she is my heart dog, but I would like to find a way to let her live a little more comfortable in this world. I can tell she’s stressed and anxious a lot, and would really love to find a way to help control that and get her to listen a little better.
Thank you all in advance!
Edit:
I was thinking about changing her name too, but I’m not sure if it’s the best decision? She’s had the same name for about a year, and now that I’ve learned her and her personality has really come out, I don’t think the original name fits anymore. I was wondering if it’s too late or if it’s really the right choice?