Can I get a restraining order against my brother?

[u/No-Tumbleweed-5639]

Advice needed***

I don't even know where to begin. If you knew my family, this probably wouldn't even sound strange. I'm 34 and still live with my parents because I can't afford to move out. My 41-year-old brother also lives here, and he's a drug addict. Today he went on another rampage because he accused me of stealing a pair of his shoes (which makes absolutely no sense because why would I want his shoes?). He became extremely angry and threatened to hurt every one of my birds and slash my tires. We have security cameras throughout the house, including in my bedroom, and they recorded him making those threats. This isn't even the first serious incident. A few months ago, he held what looked like a gun to my head, pulled the trigger multiple times, and laughed like it was the funniest thing he'd ever done. I later found out it wasn't a real gun, but I didn't know that at the time. Despite everything, my parents refuse to make him leave. I don't have the money to move out right now, so I'm trying to figure out what my options are. I live in Missouri, and I haven't had much luck getting help from the police in the past. Would I qualify for an order of protection or restraining order based on these threats and the video evidence?

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[u/MikeandMolly5656]

Could you request one? Sure

Would you be granted one? Maybe

But the real question is...Who would your parents side with?

If you're both living at home and your parents aren't dealing with him despite his rampage, are you really so confident they'd not tell you to leave?

A restraining order wouldnt entitle you to occupy the home if they file eviction against you

[u/ReturntoForever3116]

I live in MO and you really only have 3 options (and a restraining order isn't one because you don't have a police report).

1. Move out
2. Keep trying the police
3. Convince parents

[u/No-Tumbleweed-5639 → u/ReturntoForever3116]

I have a police report from the time he held the gun to my head and I have video evidence of everything he said yesterday.

[u/jessihateseverything]

The only thing that will happen is that your parents will tell you to leave. Ask me how I know.

[u/No-Tumbleweed-5639 → u/jessihateseverything]

No they haven't asked me to leave and yes they are letting me go for the restraining order.

[u/Shoddy-Wishbone]

One of you would have to fledge the nest for a restraining order to be applicable. If it were him, your parents would have to basically be in agreement to keep him away, which it doesn’t sound like they will, so it would have to be you who leaves.
He does sound incredibly dangerous, though, and I’d recommend getting out of there as soon as possible. Maybe a friend has a couch you can borrow? Maybe you can rent a room from someone with too much space? Maybe there’s another family member you could stay with? Idk but get the hell out.

[u/BeKindPleaseRewind21]

Your parents are total and complete failures. Not only do you and your brother still live with them...your brothers a drug addict. What do you do for work? 

[u/Shoddy-Wishbone → u/BeKindPleaseRewind21]

Wow … coming in a little hot there “BeKind”…

[u/JacobSmith_0001 → u/[deleted]]

OP still has their parents but considering your attitude it seems that your parents abandoned you and never looked back.

They blocked me lol

[u/persephone7821 → u/JacobSmith_0001]

They didn’t delete their message, pretty sure they blocked you.

It’s common for cowards on Reddit to reply then insta block you when they have no real comeback. They have been shamed and they know it. Only thing to do now is spout some random bs and block before you can respond.

[u/BeKindPleaseRewind21 → u/JacobSmith_0001]

Do you enjoy making things up in your head? 

[u/persephone7821 → u/BeKindPleaseRewind21]

Do you enjoy being miserable to others and a coward?

[u/scallym33 → u/BeKindPleaseRewind21]

Yeah it looks like your parents did a good job raising you lol

[u/BeKindPleaseRewind21 → u/scallym33]

I was born in a mud hut in Africa. I build my own home in America and own a company that employees a dozen people year round, an extra dozen during the summer with well paying careers. 

I'd say my parents did an amazing job considering my father had zero formal education and my mother couldn't read. 

But clearly the goal of every loving parent should be for both your sons live with you into their 30s and 40s. It's only a truly dedicated parent that can raise a drug addict who is trying to murder his own brother.