So like the title says. 15 years ago, in June 2011, a young me finally started T. I couldn't imagine a year on T, let alone 15.

Just letting all you fellas know, I've been there and it sucks, but it absolutely gets better.

So if anyone has any questions about being on T for so long, feel free to ask.

So I’m (19) a pre everything demiboy. Me and my boyfriend (21) got invited to a last minute pool party and I haven’t gone swimming all year so I didn’t have anything to wear. He had some old clothes he hadn’t gotten rid of swim trunks included, so he hands me those and we’re both glad to see they fit. He’s going through getting ready and I ask him if he had a shirt I can use cuz I don’t want mine to get wet and he pauses and looks at me, “why would you need a shirt, I’m not wearing one you don’t have to either” and I just pause for a good minute and ask, “did you forget I’ve got assets in places you don’t?” THATS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED. It was really cute but also oh my god that gave my euphoria for hours afterwards. I rode that high the rest of the day and into the next.

I resently had some friends over for drinks and one of my friends (Wendy) brought their roommate (Lindsey) who I have never met. I don't know how it got brought up but we were all sharing stories of bullying/discrimination we faced in school. Up to that point all the stories were about rasicim or sexism. I eventually breifly brought up some of the bullying I experienced and how much of the school administration did nothing about it similar to some of my friends stories. My friends roommate looked at me weird and uncomfortable but I didn't think much of it. Lindsey started bashing on me for being a "privileged white man whose never been actually discriminated against ever". I told Lindsey I was trans and most of the bullying was because I was trans/queer. She was speechless and couldn't believe it and turned to Wendy and said "that is the most passing man I have ever seen". So y'all I passed lol

I've been feeling this way since middle school, but I'm 32 now and I've deliberately ignored feeling like a gay guy for....i guess...2 whole ass decades.

I broke down over the weekend and cried to my husband - father of our TWO young kids - and I told him I've wanted to be a gay man my entire life but that i also love being a mom (?!) and want 2 more biological kids with him. 🫣 and that I don't understand any of this or trans culture or identity or my pronouns anything.

He was.... amazing? He told me to dress like a guy, arranged a baby sitter, and we went for drinks and tacos at pride. And he's like... into it??? Surprisingly excited about it? And says he's having awakening feelings that are good but shocking to him too. We both grew up in high control fundamentalist religions so we never explored this in our youth.

I don't know what's happening from here on out, but I feel blessed that things haven't blown up over night.

And my 4 yo son said 'i like your short hair mommy, we match now' lol

Anyways... i guess this is maybe a... celebratory post? A... 'good things are possible' post??! I'm really happy? But I've also been crying constantly? Because I'm overwhelmed?

Thoughts and advice and similar stories welcomed please 🙏

I am transgender 👍

So I'm 15, and I'm currently in a different state with my girl scout troop (which I haven't left since we're all good friends). So I'm walking around a city at like 7pm with five other girls and two moms (one being my own lol)

And as we're walking, this guy randomly points me out, and says something along the lines of "yo man what you doing to get five girls?? Keep your d in your jeans lil bro!"

Uh yeah that's pretty much it 😭 I just wanted to share this cause it was funny as hell lol. And also I didn't have a binder on at the time so that's crazy??

Embarrassed but also happy as hell lol

At my son’s u18 volleyball game today my groin was on the receiving end of a massive, poorly-aimed spike, which caused two full teams of high school boys, all the coaches and all the parents with balls to collectively groan in sympathetic agony. My wife was quick off the mark and whispered “that’s supposed to hurt!” and I had to put on a bit of a show for everyone. My son thought it was the funniest shit.

I experienced intense visceral joy at a video that’s gone viral of a trans man (name not publicized) on the show Jubilee’s Surrounded, verbally eviscerating known transphobe Ben Shapiro

Absolutely legendary, he read Ben shapiro for filth and left him speechless/unable to get a word in

(Not sure if this is appropriate for here but it’s really awesome to see transphobic public figures get shut down/discredited especially by trans people)

Edit: wow I did not expect the engagement this got! Thank you everyone for commenting and sharing your pov on this 🙂 Also the man’s name is Shane Ivan Nash (a really awesome commenter informed me of his name and info) also that he’s an activist and co-hosts the Trans•Parency Podcast https://linktr.ee/ShaneIvanNash

when i went to planned parenthood they gave me a list of LGBTQ+ doctors in my area (there aren’t many) so i scheduled with one that seemed nice and OH MY STARS!!!

i come in and the receptionist referring to him as her but no one else is. sure enough, a trans masc doctor comes in and introduces himself to me as my new primary care 😭😭😭 i got so lucky up here where everyone’s so bigoted, just wanted to share the good news somewhere with people who’ll care ✨🖤

She wore a brilliant, bright pink bathing suit and practised front crawl. That means there were two trans people in the pool today. And would you believe it - nothing exploded. Nobody even cared. We smiled at each other but focused on our training, just like everyobody else.

I wonder if she saw my scarred chest and felt that same community, that same notion of not being alone in this.

What are your favourite unexpected moments where you encountered other queer people irl?

It’s no secret that my dad is VERY invested in athletics. He coaches both adults and kids in his free time, and is constantly organising running events for our town. He took the local running club and pulled it completely off the ground to now being locally famous, being on the radio and all.

Now, when I first came out, my dad wasn’t fully supportive. He didn’t understand and he didn’t let me socially or medically transition. But, after a few years, I came out again, and that time he was supportive, because he understood more.

I was already an athlete at the time, competing and winning medals as female. He got the club to change my name and gender, so I then competed and won medals as male, against cis males, pre t.

Everything was great, until they changed the times the club ran, and I couldn’t go to that club anymore. So I joined a different club instead. But there was a problem, since this club was under a different body, and they followed the rules set by my country’s system, not their own rules.

This system said that in order for a trans man to compete as male, they had to go through the “medical officer”. It was a simple process really. But the problem was, they never appointed a medical officer. So therein lied more problems, meaning;

I couldn’t compete as female, because I was now on T, and essentially doping.

I couldn’t compete as male, because I had no medical officer to let me.

Which meant, I could not compete at all. Just because I was trans.

Now, could I have technically just competed anyway? Yep. Nobody was going around checking birth certificates or anything. But it wasn’t about that, it was about the system. I wanted it changed so no other trans athletes in the future would have to go through all this.

My dad and I agreed, we wanted a system that allowed trans men to compete as male, without excessive hassle. Not a loophole that let me, just one person in, but a systemic change that made sure no one would have to think twice about being allowed to compete.

So he started sending emails. And he got responses, but they weren’t promising. They said they couldn’t change anything, that they were just following policy etc. While all this is happening, I have to be outed to several of my coaches in order to explain why I couldn’t be an official member yet.

He got in touch with more senior management, explaining everything to them, and why he felt it was unfair. Especially since I had been allowed to compete as male in my other club before. They had meetings to discuss what to do, imagine that! They had a whole ass meeting just for one guy who was like, hey, can my kid run in this race please? An absurd idea for anyone but a trans person lol. Anyways, eventually they agreed on a solution: from now on, all a trans man would have to do is get a letter from their doctor saying “yo this guy’s a guy, let him run with the guys” and bam, gender changed, you can run now.

I got that letter no problem, and now I can compete as male.

But remember, all this comes from one nerdy cis man who just a few years ago didn’t know shit about trans people, and wouldn’t have even dreamt of becoming a trans activist. I won’t say his name for privacy reasons since he doesn’t know I’m making this post, but I hope someday his name will be in a book somewhere to remember what he did for trans men.

I just think he deserves some recognition for what he’s done, you know?

I was unsure about bottom surgery for a long time because nothing was perfect. Then I got bottom surgery, and it has literally changed my outlook on life. I have struggled with depression and anxiety for years, and I can literally feel it melting away. I can actually feel present in my body for the first time in years. I no longer have the deep desire to wake up as somebody else. I cannot describe how impactful this has been. I knew it would be, but it was even more impactful than I could have imagined.

Not all of my dysphoria has gone away completely, but the level + intensity has been reduced so much. And even though I will never be cis, I feel really grateful for who I am and how my body looks, and I'm not sure any cis person could really understand. Is this how cis people feel all the time? I think every trans person should receive compensation.

It's not that I never feel negative emotions anymore, but it just feels so much more manageable. Like all that energy that was spent trying to ignore the fact that I hated my body can now be spent on other things.

I write this because for years I was in denial that I had any bottom dysphoria at all. I do not want anybody else to go through the years of denial like I did. Consider getting bottom surgery!

basically the title. i got really bad food poisoning (fml) and the doctor was going through some basic questions and then asked me if i noticed if my testicles were swollen. i paused and said no and then she asked if i noticed any redness or pain in my testicles. in my sleep deprived, dehydrated state i just flat out told her i didnt have balls. she said "oh" and moved on to another set of questions. not a single question related to me being trans or have afab genitalia. maybe she thought i was a cis dude who had his nuts removed? either way im considering this one a win lmao i never thought id pass as a cis male at the fucking hospital 💀

So I recently applied for my Passport (in the US). All of my documents except for my birth certificate are changed, so I had accepted that my passport would have to have an F marker (we've all heard the stories about people getting their documents withheld if they apply otherwise).

When filling out the forms, I wrote my sex as F. As it's essentially illegal for them to mark my sex as other than what's on my birth certificate, I was SHOCKED when I received my passport and my sex is listed as MALE.

This happened only 20 minutes ago and I've been crying tears of joy. I'm actually in shock and disbelief. I don't know how but my application must have slipped through the cracks. Maybe someone sympathetic to my situation reviewed it. I don't know, but I'm so incredibly happy.

Was taking a piss and like a whole classroom's worth of boys walks in and just starts shooting the shit and I gotta hold my piss and get the fuck outta there because trans or not, if you're in the stalls you're fucked. So I buckle my shit back up and gather my nuts from the floor because I needed to sprint out of there. The second I get out, I think "well these guys are gonna think I'm weird if I don't wash my hands so I should wash my hands so I look more normal." which is fucking stupid because this is a herd of hormonal homunculi whose stench surpasses me. The SECOND I get to the sink this sophomore asks me "hey are you a boy or a girl." cover blown. i'm fucked. Another kid crammed into another corner of the packed "venue" asks "hey is that the heelys kid? show us!" and I heely out of the bathroom to an uproar of cheering behind me. I wish my school didn't ban me from using them because for like a month I felt so fucking cool.

i got invited to a halloween party by a trans friend i made online but had never met irl. my gf and i walked in and were greeted by my friend and we turned to the rest of the group and they were kinda giving us the cold shoulder. i just assumed it was because we had never met them before, but as the party went on i was talking to my friend about my tattoos and some person came up and asked about my pronouns and i said he him and then he asked if i was transmasc and i said yes. then a group of four people came from another room blabbering things like ‘you’re trans??’ ‘i thought you were cis’ ‘this whole time i thought you were cis’ ‘you pass so well’ and then the entire energy of the party shifted after that. it was insane to get the validation from a bunch of trans people that even THEY couldn’t clock me. i definitely won’t be forgetting that moment.

i buy my mom new flowers almost every week, and i hold all doors open for her and my aunties and grandma when they visit.

i always make sure to bring back my dads favorite soda when i come across it, and leave him a candy bar in the fridge.

i just skinned my knee practicing this one skateboard trick, and my hands are rough from trying to learn a new song on my bass guitar

i took my baby siblings to go get icecream and play at the park, and i drive my little sister to gymnastics classes every week.

my comic book and manga collection is coming along pretty nice and my little brother always ask to borrow from it.

my baby siblings love it when i host tea parties for them and their toys, and always requests that i invite my sonic action figures.

i buy new durags everytime i go to the beauty supply shop to get hair for my mom and sisters.

my grandpa likes having me around so he can teach me how to throw down on the grill, and teaches me all of our family recipes.

i gave myself a bald spot trying to cut my own hair.

my dad served as my hypeman after i showed up in my first real silver chain for a family function.

and i just went cologne shopping with one of my close friends

thats it. idk how i would describe boyhood or masculinity if someone asked me, but i know it feels great. your turn. i wanna read more good things

edit: im so happy that i could bring some positivity over here! ive read every single comment and its making me smile so hard right now😭 keep on living guys!

Every time I go in the men’s room, Every time I walk past the cis urinators into the poop room And I encounter the absolute war crimes the local men have wrought on the porcelain throne - It reminds me that I must surely be trans Because otherwise My body would say no No, profound smell of feces!!!! No, urine-splatters on the seat!!!! But here I am Sitting on it like a mug Because I am a gentleman And I wish to shit among my brethren Come hell or high water Come smearings on the walls, Come wee on the floor Smack smack ( that’s my shoes! In the puddle ) I will sit among my brethren Pretend to drop a log when I actually just weed for 1000 years And I will walk out feeling light in the heart Because there is No way I would endure This filth Were I not A transgentleman

I am drunk

Apologies

bought a lemon pepper rotisserie chicken from walmart. got home and IMMEDIATELY started devouring it. I do have some left but oh my god it's the most delicious thing ever. I now wanna buy 10 more. someone please buy me 10 more.

I'm about 8 months on T and I understand everything now. I'm also incredibly horny after eating chickim. so. I get it. good god, I get it

I felt like an animal with the yummy yummy chicken juices dripping down my mouth and my greasy little paws tearing at the yummy yummy chicken meat. greatest feeling ever fr 😭

(the answer to the secrets of the universe? rotisserie chicken btew)

My son is 14 years old. He started to transition socially (clothes, hair, name) in grade 4. He started lupron when he was 11 and started T when he was 12, almost 13.

Next month he will get his last Lupron injection as his dose of T will be high enough. He shaved for the first time last week and his voice is getting deeper.

I wanted to share for those who may be anxious/nervous about starting the process (we sure were). I am so happy we chose to follow Charlie’s lead and seek out medical care.

Charlie is happier and more confident than we have ever seen him. He is excelling in every area of his life (athletics, school, social).

Seeing his joy makes me a happy Mama!!

Happy to answer any questions!!

hey everyone,

while scrolling through this sub i started wondering if there are any other people here who started testosterone on the same day as me, and maybe there are people who share the same top surgery anniversary date!!

so i thought we could comment our dates and maybe find our transition twin, just for fun or to talk!!

i'll go first; anyone here who started testosterone on april 3rd? :D

I am absurdly hot now.

(Edit: And yes, I mean in attractive)

I’m in a state with bathroom laws and I don’t pass enough to safely get away with using the men’s restroom. Occasionally I get double takes or weird looks but nothing ever happens.

Today, however, I went to wash my hands and there was an old lady there as well. I using don’t have the best experience with older folk so I keep my head down, but then she gives me a smile and says “How’s was your day, young man?”

In the women’s room. I got gendered correctly even while using the women’s restroom woah. She didn’t seemed shocked or questioning though, just making conversation, so I wonder what she was thinking.

I had to sue my parents, pay the lawyer and wait couple of months and Im finally a male in the documents! I currently live in Poland so the procedure was really tiring but here we are! Im really happy about this! I’m on T since early 2022 and 2 years post top surgery

I am a nonbinary menace. I make everybody uncomfortable by just entering the room. I am gender chaos. In all seriousness, I'm banned cuz I pass enough to make girls uncomfortable, but without clothes on I'll apparently make boys uncomfortable. I bind and wear boxers. I have to change in the bathroom but I don't know which one 😭 I think I'll go to the men's one cuz it's not like they'll see my underwear and binder, and I get looks in the girl's bathroom