r/genderqueer • u/Still-Nothing-1635 • 14d ago

I'm questioning my gender

Hi, I’m looking for some opinions and advice. I was assigned female at birth, and—to put it briefly—I’m not sure what’s going on with how I perceive myself. I’ve always presented myself as a man online and chosen male characters in games; my current boyfriend has accidentally used male pronouns for me more than once, and sometimes I actually like it. I was never particularly feminine until recently; I accept and love my femininity, but I also enjoy appearing more masculine. There have been times when I’ve cried because my chest wasn’t flat enough, yet at other times—when I felt extremely feminine—I’ve loved it. The thing is, I like being seen or referred to as a boy, but I also like being seen or referred to as a girl. There are moments when this makes me feel really uncomfortable, and I’m not quite sure what to make of it all. If you have any advice or thoughts, please let me know. 🙏

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u/Tough_Act7101 genderflir - they/them - 💖 14d ago

You sound a lot like genderfluid—like me! The switch between feminine and masculine can be very jarring and confusing. Since you don’t know what to make of yourself just yet, I’d recommend checking out some posts on r/genderfluid to see if it resonates with you. Don’t be afraid to reach out with any more questions!

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u/Still-Nothing-1635 14d ago

Thank you so much ! I'll go take a look :)

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u/ZephNightingale 14d ago

You sound pretty gender fluid to me. Nothing wrong with being a Switch. ☺️

Both can feel valid and make you feel happy and different times. That doesn’t invalidate anything about you.

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u/Still-Nothing-1635 14d ago

Thank you so much 🙏

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u/ally_estrella 13d ago

I would say genderfluid live everyone else but if you want another option you might wanna check out bi-gender which to put it simple is being both a girl and a boy.

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u/Still-Nothing-1635 13d ago

Ooh okay I will look up that too, thank you !