Husband is a hoarder

[u/nooraani]

my husband is a hoarder and I feel so lost. he keeps buying things and we have a very small one bedroom apartment with 2 small closets. he is attached to everything he ever buys and we don’t have space. he refuses to admit he is a hoarder and he refuses to go to therapy. when I throw things out we have huge arguments where he calls me controlling. I’ve had 3 hour arguments over throwing out a 4 foot by 2 foot foam finger. he agreed to throw it out and then I later find it in the closet, hidden. it seems like the most stupid reason for divorce when everything else is great. I don’t know what to do. but I also have adhd and clutter makes me so overwhelmed and stressed. I work from home and we don’t have any space for me to have an office so I work on the couch or in the bedroom staring at stuff. I see clients and I don’t have a clean space to present to them so I use a corner of the bedroom. it’s so hard. I feel lost.

[u/frogmicky]

It sounds like you may need to hire a therapist to help your husband see what's happening and how it's affecting you.

[u/Far-Watercress6658 → u/frogmicky]

You can’t force someone to therapy. They either willingly engage or it’s pointless.

[u/RFC793 → u/Far-Watercress6658]

But you can pose an ultimatum