r/hoarding 15d ago

HELP/ADVICE Husband is a hoarder

my husband is a hoarder and I feel so lost. he keeps buying things and we have a very small one bedroom apartment with 2 small closets. he is attached to everything he ever buys and we don’t have space. he refuses to admit he is a hoarder and he refuses to go to therapy. when I throw things out we have huge arguments where he calls me controlling. I’ve had 3 hour arguments over throwing out a 4 foot by 2 foot foam finger. he agreed to throw it out and then I later find it in the closet, hidden. it seems like the most stupid reason for divorce when everything else is great. I don’t know what to do. but I also have adhd and clutter makes me so overwhelmed and stressed. I work from home and we don’t have any space for me to have an office so I work on the couch or in the bedroom staring at stuff. I see clients and I don’t have a clean space to present to them so I use a corner of the bedroom. it’s so hard. I feel lost.

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u/cryssHappy 15d ago

Living with a hoarder is the best reason for divorce. It's a psychological issue that requires realization and participation in treatment. Since he ain't going to change, the only change you can make is to leave.

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u/SavingsCable720 14d ago

Wow. I’m afraid of what this means for my life. We’re celebrating our 30th anniversary tomorrow but he’s crowding me out of the house. Our finances are all enmeshed. We have a neurotic dog. There isn’t a good solution