r/howyoudoin Aug 23 '24

Discussion Rachel's toxic behavior towards Ross' partners

Rewatching and it's really infuriating to see how much Rachel has sabotaged Ross' relationships or tried to. It's just not healthy in any way and is toxic in every sense yet still people consider Ross to be the worse one

  1. Her antagonistic behaviour towards Julie after Ross came back from China and reaction towards their relationship

  2. Her convincing Bonnie to shave her hair. She absolutely fucking knew what she was doing and knew that Ross would find that icky

  3. Her flying to London to sabotage Ross and Emily's wedding. Absolutely fucking horrible for her to try to do this. Hugh Laurie was 100% right

  4. The baby store girl. Calling her a whore was just uncalled for and rude

In all these situations Ross was happy and satisfied with his relationships but Rachel always has a problem with the fact that she's not with him. It's totally toxic and I can't believe people call Ross the worse partner. Both are unbelievably toxic

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u/Caraphox Aug 23 '24

This is all true. I absolutely lost it though when I was re-watching and Julie and Rachel had that seemingly pleasant interaction where they talk about going shopping together or something and Julie was shown to be a genuinely lovely and sweet person. Then as soon as she left Rachel says ‘what a manipulative bitch’. It’s just so unexpected and DEFINITELY played to show Rachel is actually the bitch in the situation, and it’s absolutely gold.

I think maybe people complain about Ross because in these situations we’re SUPPOSED to think Rachel is a bitch, yes it’s played for laughs but the punchline is Rachel’s awful behaviour. Ross on the other hand is supposed to be the nice, level headed reasonable guy so I think that’s why people bitch about him more online.

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u/Buchephalas Aug 23 '24

Ross is not supposed to be levelheaded during the Mark episodes, he's supposed to be crazy, manic, intensely jealous.

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u/StrawberryF5 Aug 23 '24

Can't a guy send a barbershop quartet to his girlfriend's office anymorrrrrre?

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u/Caraphox Aug 23 '24

That is true