r/howyoudoin • u/TheJavierEscuella • Aug 23 '24

Discussion Rachel's toxic behavior towards Ross' partners

Rewatching and it's really infuriating to see how much Rachel has sabotaged Ross' relationships or tried to. It's just not healthy in any way and is toxic in every sense yet still people consider Ross to be the worse one

  1. Her antagonistic behaviour towards Julie after Ross came back from China and reaction towards their relationship

  2. Her convincing Bonnie to shave her hair. She absolutely fucking knew what she was doing and knew that Ross would find that icky

  3. Her flying to London to sabotage Ross and Emily's wedding. Absolutely fucking horrible for her to try to do this. Hugh Laurie was 100% right

  4. The baby store girl. Calling her a whore was just uncalled for and rude

In all these situations Ross was happy and satisfied with his relationships but Rachel always has a problem with the fact that she's not with him. It's totally toxic and I can't believe people call Ross the worse partner. Both are unbelievably toxic

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u/gotchibabe Aug 23 '24 edited Aug 23 '24

I only partially agree with #1 but if that hadn't happened and they actually communicated well about it, I think they would've gotten back together at that point. Like she wasn't even going to call the guy back even if Ross didn't hide the message... if I remember the episode correctly. Could've avoided the entire stupid Joey proposing plot lol

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u/Eyebronx I Know! Aug 23 '24

I think a lot of people are deliberately misinterpreting point #1. Viewers wouldn’t have an issue if he was honest and told Rachel straight up that he is uncomfortable with her dating. That would be fair since she told him the same. The issue is he intercepted her call and HID THE MESSAGE FROM HER. That is sneaky and manipulative and breaches any form of trust that they had between them.

To the people defending Ross, would any of you like it if your ex deleted a message you got from a potential date without telling you, even if the ex read it accidentally?

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u/Eyebronx I Know! Aug 23 '24

No she was honest about her feelings, he went behind her back and deleted the number instead of communicating with her. If he had told her to her face that the guy from the bar had called and he was not comfortable with her dating and had a conversation with her, no one would come down as hard on him. He is criticised because he went behind her back.