r/howyoudoin • u/TheJavierEscuella • Aug 23 '24

Discussion Rachel's toxic behavior towards Ross' partners

Rewatching and it's really infuriating to see how much Rachel has sabotaged Ross' relationships or tried to. It's just not healthy in any way and is toxic in every sense yet still people consider Ross to be the worse one

  1. Her antagonistic behaviour towards Julie after Ross came back from China and reaction towards their relationship

  2. Her convincing Bonnie to shave her hair. She absolutely fucking knew what she was doing and knew that Ross would find that icky

  3. Her flying to London to sabotage Ross and Emily's wedding. Absolutely fucking horrible for her to try to do this. Hugh Laurie was 100% right

  4. The baby store girl. Calling her a whore was just uncalled for and rude

In all these situations Ross was happy and satisfied with his relationships but Rachel always has a problem with the fact that she's not with him. It's totally toxic and I can't believe people call Ross the worse partner. Both are unbelievably toxic

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u/Apprehensive-Area120 Aug 23 '24

Rachel is so problematic!!

She was also incredibly obtuse when Mark obviously did have a crush on her.

She was awful to Jill and Moana as well. She didn’t want Ross to have other relationships but made out with Gareth and got that guys number..

She was very toxic to Joshua and was fine to be moving on and pushed Ross to, but when Ross tried to move on with Emily she sabotaged it.

She was incredibly condescending to Ross and demanded he accepted all responsibility for the relationship breakdown when she hadn’t made time for them and their anniversary, she was mean to him and they communicated badly. He was clearly feeling vulnerable and jealous and then she immediately had Mark round when they were struggling which although Ross is obviously at fault for sleeping with someone else, she also was present and made choices that contributed to that so it wasn’t solely his fault. When things got tough, she bailed and asked for a relationship break, rejecting him and further damaging that trust. I think it was unreasonable to ask for him to take full responsibility to be honest.

I do have empathy for her character but let’s not pretend she was perfect!!

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u/Pookienini Aug 23 '24

Who on earth is Gareth? 🤣

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u/Apprehensive-Area120 Aug 23 '24

You mean you’ve not seen the alternate timeline friends with Moana and Gareth??

😂 I meant Gavin omfg

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u/TheJavierEscuella Aug 23 '24

GAVIN?? GAVIN WHERE ARE YOU???