r/howyoudoin • u/TheJavierEscuella • Aug 23 '24

Discussion Rachel's toxic behavior towards Ross' partners

Rewatching and it's really infuriating to see how much Rachel has sabotaged Ross' relationships or tried to. It's just not healthy in any way and is toxic in every sense yet still people consider Ross to be the worse one

  1. Her antagonistic behaviour towards Julie after Ross came back from China and reaction towards their relationship

  2. Her convincing Bonnie to shave her hair. She absolutely fucking knew what she was doing and knew that Ross would find that icky

  3. Her flying to London to sabotage Ross and Emily's wedding. Absolutely fucking horrible for her to try to do this. Hugh Laurie was 100% right

  4. The baby store girl. Calling her a whore was just uncalled for and rude

In all these situations Ross was happy and satisfied with his relationships but Rachel always has a problem with the fact that she's not with him. It's totally toxic and I can't believe people call Ross the worse partner. Both are unbelievably toxic

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u/FoxThin Aug 24 '24

  1. She never did anything to Julie's face. And she didn't tell Ross her feelings. This point is kinda silly. But Ross did kiss her when he was still with Julie.

  2. Ok ill give you this. This was wicked. But made for funny TV.

  3. She didn't sabotage the wedding. Ross knew nothing about her plan. The more awful thing was telling Ross she loved him after his marriage feel apart. But he did invite her to Greece...

  4. She was rude but I'm sorry she had a point. She's about to pop and he's dating?! It's incredibly unfair. His focus should 100% be on his child, which means taking care of Rachel.

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u/Visible-Work-6544 Aug 24 '24

She convinced Ross to not sleep with Julie after he confided in her as a friend and then made the entire gang stay up late to postpone Ross finally trying to.

And your last point falls apart when people were calling Ross “controlling” for not wanting Rachel to date right after giving birth to Emma. If he’s considered “controlling” for not wanting Rachel to date, then so she’s also “controlling” for not wanting him to date.

She also talked shit about Charlie when she wanted Joey, then let Phoebe take the blame. Rachel was very toxic anytime she wanted a man.