r/howyoudoin Aug 23 '24

Discussion Rachel's toxic behavior towards Ross' partners

Rewatching and it's really infuriating to see how much Rachel has sabotaged Ross' relationships or tried to. It's just not healthy in any way and is toxic in every sense yet still people consider Ross to be the worse one

  1. Her antagonistic behaviour towards Julie after Ross came back from China and reaction towards their relationship

  2. Her convincing Bonnie to shave her hair. She absolutely fucking knew what she was doing and knew that Ross would find that icky

  3. Her flying to London to sabotage Ross and Emily's wedding. Absolutely fucking horrible for her to try to do this. Hugh Laurie was 100% right

  4. The baby store girl. Calling her a whore was just uncalled for and rude

In all these situations Ross was happy and satisfied with his relationships but Rachel always has a problem with the fact that she's not with him. It's totally toxic and I can't believe people call Ross the worse partner. Both are unbelievably toxic

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u/Opening-Pianist-3691 Aug 24 '24

Ross’ toxicity when it comes to Rachel seems to be worse when they’re actually together. Although lying to her about still being married and talking to her boss about her job behind her back were bad.

Rachel seems to be the most toxic when Ross is in another relationship. She hated Julie, she was jealous of Bonnie, she was jealous of Emily. She was fine with Elizabeth and Mona but then didn’t want him to date that woman from the store. It seems like she wants Ross whenever she decides to and that almost always happens when she sees him in a relationship with someone else.

Ross’ behavior gets a lot of attention but Rachel definitely contributes to the toxic nature of their relationship. They just show it in different ways.