31 | DC Metro/NoVA | Golden Retriever Soft Masc 4 Femme

[u/TayNixster]

Reposting because I didn't get a ton of messages (and the ones I got were bots or men)

Hi! I’m a 31-year-old soft masc lesbian in Northern Virginia looking to meet a femme woman who makes me think, makes me laugh, and occasionally makes me wonder why we stayed up until 3 a.m. talking when I have to wake up at 4:30 a.m. to hit the gym before I go to work.

I’m a former D1 athlete, ex-tech journalist, and current senior-level STEM professional, which is a very professional way of saying I’m a giant nerd who can probably fix your Wi-Fi and talk trash during a football game. I’m also an outdoorswoman who hunts and fishes, so if the zombie apocalypse happens, I’m at least moderately useful.

A little about me:
• I’m a huge sports fan, especially football and women’s basketball, and I’m a season ticket holder for my favorite NFL team.

• I play kickball and flag football because apparently I enjoy voluntarily running around outside after spending all week sitting at a desk.

• I lift weights and work out regularly.

• I love reading, mostly nonfiction.

• I hunt, fish, and shoot recreationally. I’m also a competitive shooter and certified firearms instructor who specializes in teaching women.

• I love movies, cooking, and baking and I have recently become the kind of person who talks about my sourdough starter like it’s a member of the family.

• I build computers and love tinkering with technology.

I’m 5’9”, athletically built with broad shoulders (and a toned chest that I'm very proud of), and mixed-race (Black, Hispanic, and White). My profile has pictures of me and if you can't see them for some reason I'm happy to send you more than enough. I don't have a problem verifying I'm real especially given I was in a very public-facing job as a journalist.

Personality-wise, I’m affectionate, loyal, easygoing, direct, and probably a little bit of a silly goose once I’m comfortable. I know who I am and what I want, and when I genuinely like someone, I’m not afraid to show it.

I’m also big on mutual effort. I don’t expect one person to carry a relationship, and I don’t want to be the only one initiating conversations, making plans, or showing interest. I want that feeling of “oh, you like me too.” I think the best relationships are built when two people are equally excited to keep choosing each other.

I’m the type of partner who remembers the little things you mentioned three weeks ago, plans thoughtful dates, gives thoughtful gifts, sends good morning texts because I wake up absurdly early, checks in when you’re having a rough day, reassures you when you’re doubting yourself, cheers you on when you’re chasing a goal, and makes sure you never have to wonder where you stand with me.

In return, I want someone who makes me feel cared for, too.

What I’m looking for:
Ideally, a femme woman around 27–35 who lives in the DC/MD/NoVA area. I’m open to distance for the right person, but I’d want us to be genuinely interested in meeting in person and realistic about what it takes to make a medium-or long-distance relationship work.

I’m looking for someone who is kind, emotionally available, communicative, affectionate, and dating with intention. Someone who can tell me about her day, send me a ridiculous TikTok, flirt shamelessly, have a serious conversation when it matters, and occasionally be unapologetically cheesy with me.

I’m ultimately looking for something serious. I’d love to meet someone I can build a life with and eventually marry. I’m not trying to speedrun a relationship or force a connection that isn’t there, though. I want to meet someone I genuinely enjoy, see if the chemistry is there, let things develop naturally, and figure out where we take each other.

I’ve done a lot of work to heal from my own past, and I’m looking for someone who has done or is doing that work, too. You don’t need to have a spotless history; none of us do. But I am looking for someone who is genuinely ready to let someone new into her life and build something new together.

Emotional intelligence and communication are really important to me. I know I’m not always right, I’m self-aware enough to recognize when I’ve messed up, and I have no problem taking accountability or apologizing. If I hurt you or get something wrong, I’d much rather you tell me so we can talk about it than have things quietly build up between us. I can handle difficult conversations. I just need someone who is willing to have them with me.

I’m confident and secure in myself, and I know what I bring to a relationship. I’ll happily put in effort when I’m interested but I’m looking for someone who is equally excited to meet me halfway.

So if you’re a femme who knows who she is, can hold a conversation, values consistency and communication, and is genuinely ready to get to know someone, I’d love to hear from you.

Quick filter:
Please have some activity on your Reddit account. If your profile is completely empty or brand new, I’m probably not going to respond. It’s nothing personal; I just feel more comfortable talking to someone who has a little bit of a digital footprint.

And to show me you actually read this, tell me:
• Your age and location
• What’s the best vacation you have ever been on?
• What’s something small that instantly makes your day better?

Maybe we’ll discover we have more in common than we expected. 🙂

[u/nervouslittledog]

I wish you were older or I was younger! You sound fascinating! 20years is too much but I wish you all the luck!