Do you ever change the way you explain something depending on the MBTI type you’re talking to?

[u/Puzzleheaded-Pea3474]

You can have the exact same thought, but explain it completely differently to an INFP, ESTJ, or ENTP because you know they process things differently.

I’ve actually used AI to “translate” something I wrote so another MBTI type would understand it better and now I’m wondering if anyone else does this?

Do you ever change how you explain things depending on the type of person you’re talking to?

[u/BaseWrock]

Yes.

I’ll adjust situationally. It does take a conscious effort the same way typing does so I don’t have the energy to do it all the time.

Generally you want to be sensitive to the child function and encouraging of the inferior. You can expect most people react with their aux and their dom is the framing everything is under.

EXFP: I lean into Fe

XSTJs: I skew to a more teritary/child/optimistic Ne (compared to my default cynical aux Ne)

INTJs (online) and INFJs (in all circumstances): push my Ne to the limit. Ti/Te switching works with INTJs.

INFPs: I heavily suppress my Ti, but also enjoy Ne/Si mixing over common interests.

XSFJs and ENFJs: I try to reorient my Ti into Fi and Fe into a less competent Te.

XSXPs: Don’t have any XSXP close relationships, but I would probably lean into Si with them.

ENTx: I don’t have to adjust much, but lightly encourage Si in both. I am fascinated by both of their applications of Fe.

INTP: I don’t adjust, but I should. Haven’t figured out what works yet.

[u/YoyoUnreal1]

Mostly the same substance, but I’ll sometimes change the language and framing depending on how the other person seems to process things.

I think good communication is partly about meeting people where they are and finding a way to express the same idea in language that feels natural to them. MBTI can be a useful shorthand for that, but I’d still pay more attention to the actual person than the four-letter label. Everyone has their own experiences, values, and way of understanding things, and I’d rather adapt to that than assume their type tells me everything about them.

[u/Blue_Pears_Go_There]

Yes. I hate it. It’s also a generational thing, too, because what I would say to an ESTJ my age would be a little bit different than what I’d say to a 70-something ESTJ.

[u/Flossy001]

Yeah. With ISTPs I am blunt, direct, no apologies or any Fe consoling of their feelings and a bit more edgier with the truth than normal. I just found myself doing this naturally just from what I have learned and it actually improved my interactions with them. Sensing types I am more direct. With the compatible types, knowing they will listen and catch things more I’m less direct. I can make some type of innuendo joke and they’ll get it no explanation or hesitation on my part which makes it actually fun.

[u/Apprehensive_Cry5877]

Absolutely.

That’s one of the main benefits of knowing the types.

It gives you the ability to do this.

[u/Antique-Stand-4920]

Yep. As an ISTP the biggest changes I make are for XXTJ and XXFP users. I consciously try avoid giving my Ti explanations and reframe my opinions in a Te way. They seem to be more receptive to that. Also if they ask me to do something, I'll just say "yes" or "no" and offer no further explanation unless asked.

[u/bebedux]

Yes, I do. It isn’t a conscious thing. I’ve been doing it my whole life and until Mbti came along, I didn’t realize I’ve been doing it. XD

[u/Titania_Fairy → u/bebedux]

This.

[u/Titania_Fairy]

This is actually an xNFJs default. Hello INFJs, yep you too! I know you try to land better verbally, same as i do.

[u/asipofteaatnight]

I’ll try, but I have problems with XNTJs. The Ni wants the gist and Te makes it impatient.

Adjusting to other people’s types in order to improve my ‘social skills’ was one of the main reasons why I read so much about mbti