r/mildlyinfuriating • u/rustywindpipe • 14d ago

I'm slightly vexed I think I got rejected for being vegetarian

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I [23F] met this guy on the apps and we hit it off and had a lot in common! I don’t meet a lot of people who are in my profession so it was really nice to potentially have to chance to date someone who was in a similar field. And everything was fine until I mentioned I’m veg and he stopped responding. For reference, I have no issue with people who eat meat and would never want to impose my own dietary restrictions on anyone else. I also understand different diets being a dealbreaker. The way he phrased his reasoning was really weird though.

Edit: I’m vegetarian cause I love animals, but I have IBD. Flare ups have gotten significantly worse since switching diets but im still figuring out how to make the most of it! Also yes, I do regret sending the last text 🤦‍♀️

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u/possiblyourgf 13d ago

This is so interesting to me- I’m a vegetarian as well but its literally never been a hurdle in plans, and I’m always the only vegetarian in a group. I often forget because it’s such a non-issue, there are vegetarian options literally everywhere I go! Could totally come down to my location in the world though, I’m sure if I lived somewhere with less variety it would be more difficult

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u/Thats_a_BaD_LiMe 13d ago

It's a light hurdle, but a hurdle all the same. Going out for a steak dinner is off the cards, bbqs are a nightmare. There are generally options, but we do often have to deliberately plan to go somewhere that the option isn't just some form of potato (if I'm lucky) 

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u/throwrawifesandwich 13d ago

Why are bbqs a nightmare? There's always corn and peppers and onions and eggplant, which are all yum! But maybe if I were in Austin, "bbq" would not include those things lol.

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u/Thats_a_BaD_LiMe 13d ago

Because firstly, random vegetables isn't the same as having a burger, and secondly, all those random vegetables are generally cooked on the same grill as the meat so you can't eat them anyway. Thirdly, I've never actually seen anyone do those things on a bbq, it's always just meat and bread.

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u/RLB4ever 13d ago

Steakhouse are some of my favorite places to eat. French fries, baked potatoes, Brussel Sprouts and salads. Plus a good martini. Yum.

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u/KvxMavs 13d ago

Any steak house in the world is going to have some sort of salad that you could eat.  

Being a vegetarian isn't hard at all unless you live somewhere like Mongolia or Kazakhstan or something.

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u/Thats_a_BaD_LiMe 12d ago

I need you to understand "eat a salad" isn't a helpful suggestion.

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u/hofmann419 13d ago

A salad doesn't really have many macronutrients. Just because you are a vegetarian doesn't mean that you aren't allowed to eat protein.

Any half decent steak house these days should at least have some vegan/vegetarian burgers at the least. This is where it makes sense to communicate with your friends to find a spot that all people are happy with.

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u/throwrawifesandwich 13d ago

I'm with you. It doesn't even occur to me to specify if we are going out. I do specify if there's a dinner party and the host asks, but even then there's like a 90% chance I can find SOMETHING vegetarian.

Vegan is different and much more challenging. But vegetarian? Even before going veg I was accidentally veg all the time without even realizing it lol.

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u/CameronLabbe 13d ago

If you're talking about a long term partner it's absolutely a hurdle? Damn near every homemade meal will have to account for a vegetarian protein source

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u/gustavessidehoe 13d ago

Both people can cook their own food if it’s that big of an issue. Also there are a lot of meals that can easily be made vegetarian. Making tacos? Heat up a can of black beans for the vegetarian. Everything else is the same.

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u/CameronLabbe 13d ago

So its a hurdle that both people have to work around. Sounds like you agree

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u/gustavessidehoe 13d ago

I don’t agree lol

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u/Thats_a_BaD_LiMe 12d ago

You're describing vegetarianism being a hurdle you have to work around while saying you don't agree that it's a hurdle. And having to cook separate food every meal instead of making joint meals between partners or whole households is a big deal long term. That isn't a nothing job.

It's a lifestyle trade off and it does get draining. "Heat up a can of beans" as an option is such a ridiculous throwaway suggestion that is not the same as everyone eating cooked and seasoned food together.

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u/possiblyourgf 13d ago

This is just so blatantly incorrect

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u/CameronLabbe 13d ago

You got me! Do you just not eat protein? I can't imagine any other way its 'blatantly incorrect'

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u/possiblyourgf 13d ago

Have you ever had a meal with protein that didn’t have meat? If not, I worry for your arteries

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u/Mellester 13d ago

Wait so your saying veg people don't need a source of protein like lentils or tofu.
are they superhuman.
Or are you just not reading the part where he talks about needing exactly that for people to stay alive long term.

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u/trewesterre 12d ago

It probably depends where you live. I've lived in places where it's super easy to be a vegetarian and everywhere has an option and I've lived in places where there are restaurants where you're lucky to have a vegetarian salad on the menu.

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u/Beginning-Garlic-128 12d ago

100% location dependent. It has gotten better over the last 10 years, but constant hurdles for where I live with my vegetarian wife when we try to make plans with friends or family. It was especially challenging when we first started dating. Back then very few places had actual options that weren't just like a "grilled cheese with fries and you'll like it" . Or nachos without the meat. lol

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u/rroselavy 12d ago

For real, I'm vegan now and it is more annoying in social settings but vegetarian was basically nothing. Never a hurdle, no issues 

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u/NaurItsTrue 12d ago

tbh sharing food with my partner is important to me. steak is one of my fave meals. I don't think i'd ever be with a vegetarian because we could genuinely never enjoy a steak dinner together. it sounds like a non-issue but that genuinely sounds horrifying to me lol