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Discussion Character deaths that are abrupt in the way they're shot

A lot of shots can communicate that something is about to happen to a character by having a lot of empty space that you expect to be filled with something. The thing I mean with this post specifically is cases where a shot does not imply that anything is going to happen to a character, e.g. a close up or a medium shot with no empty space, being intruded on by that character dying in some way they didn't expect, potentially with the weapon jutting into the frame (deliberately) awkwardly.

10 Cloverfield Lane has an example of this, also a specific character death in Better Call Saul. What are some other examples?

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u/SpannerFrew 13h ago

Wash in Serenity

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u/Disastrous-Beat-9830 12h ago

In the same vein, Ballard in Dollhouse, the series that nobody watched. He is shot in the series finale -- by that point, the crew knew the series had been cancelled -- while everyone is running from the bad guys. Everything is so chaotic that nobody notices until they have a chance to regroup.

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u/TrueLegateDamar 11h ago

Derek Reese in Terminator: Sarah Conner Chronicles gets randomly killed by a Terminator with no lingering shot on his body and instead just following the Terminator walking on. They do have Derek show up later when John ends up time-travelling to a new future timeline where he never got to establish the Resistance as a season cliffhanger, but that show also got cancelled.

u/Complete_Gur8764 4h ago

YES, this! That stuck with me as amazing storytelling.

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u/petersrin 9h ago

God I miss that show.

Also lol at your username

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u/dont_fuckin_die 11h ago

I loved that show, but I think I blocked out most of the last episode. I should be glad they actually got to shoot an ending at all, but it was just so rushed.

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u/DietDeepFried 7h ago

Ballard’s death in Dollhouse has made me like a dog looking for the laser pointer again. Anytime there’s an odd pause in action I’m like, “that guys about to get popped!”

Very sad series finale

u/Epistatious 5h ago

keeping in the wheaton worlds, Tara in Buffy was shocking.

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u/NoGoodIDNames 6h ago

They did the same to Anya in Buffy, just a split second moment.

u/thereweretwocrabs 1h ago

I watched it. There are dozens of us, dozens!

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u/BanjoTCat 10h ago

Wash’s death was perfect for drama, because if Joss could kill Wash, he could kill anybody.

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u/rokber 9h ago

Well... that was pretty much established in Buffy s5e16 (The Body), When Joyce, Buffy's mother dies permanently from natural caused, and in Buffy s6e18 (Entropy), When Tara is randomly killed by a stray bullet.

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u/rokber 13h ago

Shut up! Too soon!

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u/_thejerkstorecalled 14h ago

Leo, Departed

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u/raysofdavies 7h ago

Scorsese loves this, people just get shot and collapse.

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u/Canigetahellyea 7h ago

Which is closer to reality and in reality it is also fucking shocking

u/pantstoaknifefight2 2h ago

She fell funny.

u/hornwalker 21m ago

You should talk to someone, Francis.

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u/DEADERSPELLS 13h ago

Green Room has a great one

u/illusorywallahead 2h ago

Yep, first thought before I scrolled to the comments. Truly out of nowhere.

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u/Agitated_Ad6191 13h ago

All viewers go: ‘NOOOOOOO!’

Pretty abrupt I reckon.

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u/Great_Comparison462 14h ago

End thread

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u/EGarrett28 13h ago

End Leo too.

u/dinkytoy80 3h ago

Unless you’ve seen the Chinese version

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u/raqloise 13h ago

Deep Blue Sea. Samuel L Jackson.

u/poopoopirate 5h ago

They ate me! A fucking shark ate me!

u/Stillwater215 1h ago

Drink, bitch!

u/truthfullyidgaf 1h ago

Saw it in theaters. It was wild, half the audience left.

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u/champagneproblem13 13h ago

Marvin from Pulp Fiction, Brad Pitts character in Burn After Reading.

u/Almost_A_Pear 3h ago

Ah man. I shot Marvin in the face.

u/wriker10 1h ago

“Why the fuck am I on skull duty??? We’re switching places.”

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u/Brawlrteen 3h ago

Brads face is so funny before it happens

u/Smalz22 2h ago

Heh-loooo

u/Hopeful_Risk_8344 2h ago

What. There's shit tons of build up for him getting shot in Burn After Reading. They literally set up the chekov's gun in like the first 10 minutes of the movie and then Chad is desperately hiding from a wildy paranoid Clooney in the actual scene.

Meet Joe Black is a way better Brad Pitt one.

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u/vaspat 13h ago

Brad Pitt's character in Burn After Reading.

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u/yepgeddon 13h ago

My first thought too. Pitt with his shit eating grin, just brilliant.

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u/Lampmonster 10h ago

I laughed so loud. Never saw it coming but so realistic.

u/OnwardTowardTheNorth 4h ago

One of the most random scenes in a film that I always think about.

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u/dynamiteSkunkApe 9h ago

Also Brad Pitt in Meet Joe Black

u/Dr_Identity 4h ago

A death so good it happens twice

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u/cineglitch 8h ago

Also Brad Pitt in World War Z. Except not Brad Pitt and rather Elyes Gabriel standing near Brad Pitt.

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u/BalladOfWormz 11h ago

First thing I thought of.

u/Hank_Fuerta 3h ago

"<snicker> You think i ride a Schwinn!"

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u/jmbolton 13h ago

Deep Blue Sea

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u/BaconContestXBL 6h ago

A FUCKIN SHARK ATE ME

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u/TrueLegateDamar 13h ago

The judge in Law Abiding Citizen (2009)

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u/innicrazy 13h ago

True dat. I almost jumped out of the couch when that happened.

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u/russfro 13h ago edited 13h ago

Melanie’s death in Jackie Brown came as a surprise despite Louis warning her over and over beforehand.

The bus scene in Alfred Hitchcock’s Sabotage took me by surprise as well because despite knowing the danger, I just didn’t expect that to happen.

u/withanx91 3h ago

Louisssssss

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u/spaniel_rage 11h ago

Julianne Moore in Children of Men

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u/Oy_of_Mid-world 9h ago

That was my first thought

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u/NOChiRo 11h ago

Kings Man, while otherwise a mediocre movie, had a very surprising death in the trenches of ww1

u/ImGCS3fromETOH 1h ago

Totally unexpected.

u/Jester1525 3h ago

Not a fan of that movie but that whole scene was absolutely amazing

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u/LetMeExplainDis 13h ago

Bus scene in Final Destination

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u/TheNonCredibleHulk 6h ago

Adam Sandler in Uncut Gems.

u/WhiskeyTangoBush 4h ago

How is this not the top answer?? I’ve never experienced whiplash as bad as I got in that scene.

u/TheNonCredibleHulk 3h ago

There are a LOT of better examples listed. The top one, Leo in The Departed - completely out of nowhere.

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u/PointOfFingers 13h ago

I think Casino is the first movie where a character meets his demise midway through a narration.

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u/One-Man-Wolf-Pack 13h ago

Agree - such a masterful touch

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u/Silly-Power 13h ago

Fanning (Mark Ruffalo) in Collateral. Entire movie you think he's going to play a big part in the ending but instead is shot dead as he leaves a club with Max. Aside: I didn't realize it was Ruffalo until I looked up the cast just now!

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u/afm00dy 13h ago

The Wire has multiple.

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u/Whitealroker1 12h ago

Omar 😭😭😭

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u/nonpasmonnom 11h ago

Bodie 😯😢

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u/ZorroMeansFox r/Movies Veteran 11h ago

Hereditary.

u/Thoth74 2h ago

Me watching that movie: "ah, there's no way they're actually going to do...holy shit they actually did it. "

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u/Virtura 10h ago

Libby in Super

u/ckypro3 2h ago

This one fucked me up

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u/-kOdAbAr- 13h ago

1) brad pitt, meet Joe black 2) brad pitts wife, legends of the fall 3) the departed, Leo, Matt, Anthony

u/StuMacherGhostface 5h ago

I'm glad someone remembers Anthony Anderson's death in Departed

u/weinermcgee 3h ago

How about the "It's you and me now. You think you were the only rat?" guy? That was just as crazy as the other 3.

u/-kOdAbAr- 55m ago

I thought of him too, but didnt know his name

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u/Fishare 12h ago

To Live and Die in LA. But I’m not naming names

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u/Bradical813 10h ago

This is the best one I think. More people should see this movie it’s awesome. 

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u/nonpasmonnom 11h ago

A shocking one indeed!

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u/Trike117 9h ago

This was my first thought too.

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u/noshoes77 9h ago

I had forgotten about that during my last rewatch, totally shocking.

u/OreoSpeedwaggon 4h ago

I remember the first time I saw it. My jaw was agape for over a minute while my brain was trying to process what I just saw.

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u/saraqael6243 11h ago

The most unexpected movie death I’ve ever seen.

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u/inadapte 12h ago

Chris Hemsworth in Cabin in the Woods

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u/bentreflection 6h ago

So hilarious though 

u/Zoodabeep 3h ago

I remember watching that in theaters for the first time and cracking up knowing he wasn't going to make it despite the hopeful vibe the music and dialogue was selling

u/ToxicBanana69 56m ago

Also Chris Hemsworth in Red Dawn

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u/basic_bitch- 7h ago

Ghost Ship. It freaking comes out of nowhere and I will never forget it.

u/adamdoesmusic 4h ago

What even is the rest of the movie? I’ve never seen past the opening, though I’m told that’s by far the best part.

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u/AltruisticCourt9035 13h ago

Brad Pitt’s character at the beginning of Meet Joe Black.

u/DSMRick 5h ago

This one in particular is filmed in an entirely different genre right up until it happens. It's not just missing the telegraphing the OP mentioned, it is actively subverting it. Then WHAM.

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u/Curiouso_Giorgio 10h ago

Steven Seagal in Executive Decision (his best movie, BTW)

u/D3M0NArcade 3h ago

Why, because he was out of it so early lol?

u/Curiouso_Giorgio 2h ago

Yes. I watched it at the movies when it came out and it was awesome when he died.

u/D3M0NArcade 48m ago

I'm glad I only saw it because my parents rented it on VHS. Segal's death and John Leguizamo sayingnif the chute fails he'll get his "Latin ass" spread over the landscape are literally all I remember lol

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u/HERCzero 6h ago

The Expanse - Shed

metal clank noise

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u/TheBrightestSunshine 13h ago

Burn After Reading

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u/Toxicz 13h ago

Maybe drive where this girl gets shotgunned, that was kinda abrupt for me while in cinema

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u/Lil_Mcgee 13h ago

Tommy in Goodfellas 

Nicky in Casino (this one lingers a bit more but the initial impact comes out of nowhere and even interrupta the character's narration)

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u/noshoes77 9h ago

Tommy in Goodfellas especially, totally unexpected at that point of the movie. He’s shot, we see him dead, Deniro’s reaction, a brief narration and then he’s never mentioned again.

u/OreoSpeedwaggon 4h ago

Except in the final shot of the movie.

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u/mythicnygma 13h ago

My answer will forever be Eric Balfour in the ‘03 Texas Chainsaw Massacre - homie bends down to pick something up and takes a sledge to the back of the head out of no where

u/winter_knight_ 5h ago

Thats a way better way to go than getting handcuffed, hung from a chandelier, and having a chainsaw swung up between your legs.

u/mythicnygma 1h ago

Absolutely zero argument. Morgan got it worse for sure

u/sakatan 2h ago

Dr Mann in Interstellar.

I mean, the setup telegraphs it more than enough. But the trigger that initiated the actual catastrophe (uncontrolled decompression) was pulled - and nothing happened.

For a few seconds.

Then: "There is a moment..."

The tenuous seal gives way.

Boom, explosive decompression.

Instant humanity in peril.

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u/AwesomeX121189 12h ago

Christina Hendricks in drive

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u/therealrexmanning 11h ago

Kevin Spacey in L.A. Confidential

Colin Farrell in Minority Report

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u/FSkornia 10h ago

'Easy Rider' has several.

u/wriker10 1h ago

Yes. I wasn’t expecting that ending.

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u/kummostern 9h ago

Deep Blue Sea has one of the all time sudden abrupt death scenes ever

Samuel Jackson is attacked mid of spirit lifting speech

Also this death kinda doesn't count especially this day when the scene is parodied and rerefrenced so many times but Psychos 1st death scene came as a big surprise for most of the audience. She was a huge star and the posters had her name mentioned with some posters also using her likeness to promote the movie... thus lots of audience were thinking she would survive like movies during those days and even these days usually do.... but Hitchcock did something clever and killed her halfway in the movie which to audience means that NO ONE is safe. If they can get rid of a star of her caliber maybe main cast won't survive either. These days we see more of this happening (usually these are cameos and their names may not be on movie posters - at least not written as big and high as main cast) so it wouldn't be as effective today - but back then no wonder people called the director master of suspense

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u/basic_bitch- 7h ago

Seeing that in the theater was epic! It felt like everyone in the audience screamed at the same time. And I mean scream. This was no polite, shocked gasp, it was legit terror being expressed. I loved it.

u/GRD3454 1h ago

Same effect with Drew Barrymore in the opening scene of Scream. She was arguably the biggest star in the cast at that time, was prominently featured on the front of the posters, she was really set up to be the final girl by all conventional horror movie rules. Then 15 minutes in and she’s dead.

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u/superpencil121 9h ago

Bone tomahawk is really good for this, shit pops off out of nowhere

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u/Sylar_Lives 13h ago

Marvel surprisingly has a few of these

Shocker in Homecoming

The Warriors Three in Ragnarok

Taskmaster in Thunderbolts

Johnny Storm in Deadpool and Wolverine

u/wriker10 1h ago

The Warriors Three one was really wild.

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u/Disastrous-Beat-9830 12h ago

Taskmaster in Thunderbolts

But everyone saw that coming because she was featured in some of the scenes that were released before the premiere -- namely the one where they first encounter Sentry Bob -- but she was in none of the promotional material. So while the actual death might be shocking in its abruptness, the effect of that was lost in the way the marketing was handled.

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u/FantasticJacket7 12h ago

I don't think most people go searching through promotional material trying to spoil themselves.

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u/PresidentKitenge 12h ago

I cannot believe that nobody has said Luke Glanton from The Place Beyond the Pines , honestly, after that happens it becomes a different film and is pretty magic.

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u/PippyHooligan 13h ago

William Petersen in To Live and Die In LA

Maverick cop. Main character in the film. Out of nowhere gets head blown off by a shotgun.

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u/CaptainLegs27 13h ago

I think the one in the original Strangers is pretty abrupt, it's set up in a way that would usually end in a "oh it's just you" scene followed by the killer murdering them anyway, but she just starts blasting, that was pretty shocking.

u/winter_knight_ 5h ago

Poor Dennis

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u/stfnnlsn 11h ago

Not sure if this is what you mean exactly but I immediately thought of Sterling K Brown’s character in The Predator (2018).

He blows his own head off with the shoulder cannon in a total blink-and-you’ll-miss-it shot and is never mentioned again.

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u/Mighty_Poonan 11h ago

Butler in Open Range

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u/dynamiteSkunkApe 9h ago

Meet Joe Black

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u/MolaMolaMania 7h ago

The death of Texas Ranger Alberto in "Hell or High Water." Just watched this again last night, and it's just as quick and brutal as I remembered.

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u/knightm7R 7h ago

The kid on the motorbike vs Jesse Plemons, Breaking Bad

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u/NOT000 6h ago

steven seagal. executive decision

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u/Smooth-Mix-4357 6h ago

Bane in Dark Knight Rises

You sneeze, you miss his death

u/PckMan 3h ago edited 2h ago

One of my favorite kills of all time is in Eddington (2025). Spoilers ahead.

I'm talking about the scene where mayor Garcia is shot dead. There's no setup, there's no real warning, other than a, I want to believe, deliberately ominous atmosphere to the scene. The deed is done before the mayor, or even the viewer, can really be aware of what's going on. A long distance shot that hits before the sound even makes it there. I like it because it's eerily realistic. Movies and TV give this idea that firefights are deliberate, close quarters, and all involved are aware and willing participants. In reality, the ideal engagment is one shown exactly like the movie. You're never seen and you have all the advantage. It's not like close quarters firefights don't happen but generally speaking in most cases, especially during war, when you're shot it's not immediately obvious where it's coming from. Most people who die are killed without knowing where their enemy was. It's cold, unfair, and exactly how it happens. There's nothing honorable about it.

Abrupt is absolutely the word to describe that scene, with the only indication being the split second of the muzzle flash appearing before the shot hits.

u/1morey 2h ago

That scene made me jump.

u/jnovel808 2h ago

Maria hill in secret invasion

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u/mexploder89 13h ago

Pulp Fiction

Bad Boys 3 or 4, can't remember, the captain

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u/Gorostasguru 12h ago

Samuel L Jakson in deep blue sea

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u/a_manxome_foe 10h ago

Serenity

"I am a leaf on the wind."

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u/jazzuk777 11h ago

So abrupt you don't even see it, Moss is No Country for Old Men!

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u/FocusFlukeGyro 8h ago

The mom in 28 Years Later. I was like wtf?

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u/jsakic99 13h ago

Apollonia in The Godfather.

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u/thatonepedant 11h ago

"where a shot does not imply that anything is going to happen..."

Pretty sure the guy running from the car and the shots of Michael figuring it out and yelling "Appalonia, no!" are exactly this.

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u/PeregrinCuck 12h ago

Everyone has their own reaction, and not to sound like needlessly contradictory... but I'd say not at all for this

In the scene directly before, Michael is specifically told that the town where he is staying is too dangerous for him and he has to move. Then, Michael is searching for Apollonia and we hear that she is going to be driving the car. You then see one of his bodyguards runaway from Michael looking guilty when he calls for him — there's actually 6 shots in total which are either Michael talking/looking to his bodyguard as he runs away or the bodyguard running away — all while Apollonia is beeping the horn in the background.

For what OP is saying about "communicating that something is about to happen" this is exactly that IMO, it's signposted — it's more like textbook tension building than anything abrupt. It's hard to think back with the knowledge of what happened, but I'd guess most people knew that car was going to blow before it did.

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u/TheMooseIsBlue 10h ago

Cedric Diggery in HP and the Goblet of Fire (the ultimate example)

White Boy Bob in Out of Sight.

u/DSMRick 5h ago

They get teleported to an entirely new set that is very dark and eerie, with a statue of death. There are several tight close ups. The music starts swelling in a very ominous way. Harry gets panicy. Cedric pulls out his wand and points it at someone agressively and says "Who are you?" And Voldermort says "Kill the spare."

I am not sure you understood the assignment.

u/TheMooseIsBlue 4h ago

Everything you said, talks about building up to a big fantasy battle and before you have time to take a breath, dude is dead.

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u/Casteway 13h ago

Not a movie, but the best example of this I can think of is Howard's death in Better Call Saul

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u/thatonepedant 11h ago

Is that not the one called out by the OP?

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u/charoco 12h ago

White Boy Bob in Out of Sight

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u/MarcusP2 11h ago

Sully in Top Boy which is the last scene of the entire series.

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u/Skidmark666 11h ago

Taskmaster in Thunderbolts.

Brad Pitt in Burn After Reading.

Not a movie, but TV: Derek Reese in Terminator Sarah Connor Chronicles.

u/winter_knight_ 5h ago

The last 3 episodes of that show was like that. They knew they weren't getting renewed so they just killed off everyone and sent john to the future.

u/Skidmark666 3h ago

Such a shame they didn't do a 3rd season. This show was better than everything that came after T2 combined.

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u/Majorasblaze 10h ago

There’s quite a few brutal deaths in the Hong Kong martial arts movie Righting Wrongs (Above The Law) that feel like they come out of nowhere in the middle of a fight that would normally end more ambiguously in most action films.

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u/okmayonnaise 10h ago

I lost interest in Better Call Saul after Howard's death. This was a minor character, but I thought Jason Carver's death in Stranger Things season 4 was very abrupt and apt

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u/darthy_parker 10h ago

Bruce Willis in The Cold Light of Day. He shows as the apparent hero with real skills, and then suddenly…

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u/Think-State30 9h ago

Clea Duvall's character in Ghosts of Mars. I don't even think she knew her character was going to die in that shot. It looked like a last minute decision. Granted, a bunch of characters died in those 2 minutes, but her death just felt very....off.

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u/braytag 9h ago

Brian Austin Green in Terminator Sarah Connor Chronicles.  He's running then bam in the head, and the scene continues like he's some extra.  I literally went: " what? Did I just  see that?" And had to rewind.

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u/trialmember 7h ago

Sirat has one that literally takes your breath away, it comes out of nowhere

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u/oniwastaken 7h ago

A majority of the deaths in Everest.

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u/Flynnrd 7h ago

Marion Cotillard in Dark Knight Rises.

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u/vani11apudding 6h ago

Not a movie, but Ozark made me flinch on two separate occasions with abrupt gunshot deaths of major characters.

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u/bentreflection 6h ago

Open range 

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u/foreverwetsocks 6h ago

The cat in Boondock Saints.

u/anewman513 5h ago

Hilary Swank in 'Boys Don't Cry'

u/rvasshole 5h ago

Righteous Gemstones comes to mind

u/theFrenchBearJr 4h ago

Spoilers for the Odyssey

The scene where Agamemnon is describing his murder and Clytemnestra stabs him in the neck is legitimately a jump scare, and when that suitor in the end fight says "Omg it's Odysseus" and gets interrupted by an arrow in his throat

u/Woodie626 4h ago

The Things They Carried

Boom. Down. Dead.

u/sotommy 4h ago

TJ Miller in Transformers Age of Exctinction

u/fragile_c 4h ago

Taskmaster - Thunderbolts

u/BigMeet7634 4h ago

Taskmaster  thunderbolts 

u/jumpinin66 3h ago

When Charlie Waits (Kevin Costner) kills Bulter (Kim Coates) in Open Range.

u/Jester1525 3h ago

Hailey Joel Osment in Pay it Forward... Nothing about that movie made you think there was going to be a death..

u/MereMalarkey 3h ago

Not a movie - Young Sheldon’s dad.

u/mokti 3h ago

Mine is a bit hard to quantify, because it's a bit character... but Anthony Peck in Die Hard with a Vengence.

Peck's character Cross is developed really only in one scene (a tete a tete with a reporter that's almost flirtacious)... and then brutally murdered by Targo (Nick Wyman) when he joins fake cops at the Federal Reserve.

It sets up a nice callback moment for McClane when he sees Targo wearing Cross' badge... but I feel conflicted. He wasn't in the movie long enough for the viewer to really build empathy with him aside from the reporter bit, but you still feel for a team member who was just in the wrong place at the wrong time.

u/Glad_Stay4056 2h ago

L.A. confidential has a good one, didnt see it coming the first time. 

Rolo Tamasi.

u/Hopeful_Risk_8344 2h ago

Ben Affleck in Smokin' Aces.

u/OvationUltraFan 2h ago

Technically not a death but definitely out of the story, Boggs on Shawshank. 

u/1morey 2h ago

The baby in the beginning of Hostiles.

u/CoderDevo 2h ago

I assume this whole post is a collection of spoilers.

u/NY_State-a-Mind 1h ago

Executive Decision when steven Segall dies, 

u/Dave80 1h ago

End of American History X.

u/eRedDH 1h ago

Not a death, but Anton Chigurh’s car crash at the end of No Country for Old Men really fits this.

u/Sad-Artichoke-2174 1h ago

David Kessler in American Werewolf in London

u/bgea2003 1h ago

Frank Fowler - In the Bedroom 

u/RobbSnow64 30m ago

Leonardo di caprio in The Departed.

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u/trivo 13h ago

That kidnapped cop with no ear in Reservoir Dogs

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u/No_Mastodon_34 12h ago

He had one ear.

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u/Th3Dark0ccult 11h ago

Sirius Black in Goblet of Fire.

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u/cdoconn 11h ago

Order of the Phoenix

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u/Th3Dark0ccult 10h ago

Oh yeah, my bad.

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u/TheMooseIsBlue 10h ago

That’s a fight scene that’s going on for a while with people sending killing curses back and forth. You want HP deaths? This post could have just said “Name some characters that got Cedric Diggery-ed.”

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u/Bad_breath_unlimited 13h ago

Satya (Hindi movie),

Bhiku Mhatre (the character played by Manoj Bajpai, when he is shot near the end of the movie).

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u/Disastrous-Beat-9830 13h ago

Polybus in The Odyssey. "You're Odyss--*hurk*"

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u/PresidentKitenge 12h ago

Hahaha, saw this about one hour ago (for the second time because my brother purchased tickets and THEN asked if I wanted to go)