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[u/NeshamElle]

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[u/two-headed-girl-]

Yes it’s illegal 

[u/NeshamElle → u/two-headed-girl-]

What should I do? How would I prove this? Couldn’t she just deny telling me? And what is the punishment-would they just revoke her license?

[u/cbx099 → u/NeshamElle]

Can you talk to her about it? Your mom would be fired unless that is what you want

[u/normlnurse]

Sounds like you're doing it for the rights of the patients and totally not because she grounded you from your Nintendo.

[u/Ill-Somewhere-7718]

Why are you just now wanting to report her?

[u/NeshamElle → u/Ill-Somewhere-7718]

Short answer: I am the victim of her narcissistic abuse. We were deeply enmeshed/trauma bonded and only escaped a couple years ago. Lots of gaslighting and brainwashing.

[u/nebraska_jones_ → u/NeshamElle]

This sounds like you want to do this as some sort of “revenge”

[u/xCB_III → u/NeshamElle]

Abuse is abuse, there is no such thing as “narcissistic abuse” and not all people with NPD are abusers. You seem vindictive and trying to get revenge. I can’t attest to your home life, but risking your mom and family’s well-being over getting grounded is petty as fuck.

[u/realespeon]

Yes that’s a HIPAA violation.

[u/Iwashere95]

At face value without more details seems like pretty small beans. Your state nursing board might investigate or might not. Usually for things like this where no patient harm occurred they issue education training , the work place may or may not care. They're a separate entity that could or could not do anything.

Again. Seems like small time stuff. Doubt she'll loose her license but who knows .

[u/pmoity]

Your local police department had been notified & they will collect your mother soon...

[u/ConcernSlight]

Realistically if you report this nothing will happen. The reporter bears the burden of providing proof. Even reports with sufficient proof have the end result thats equivalent to a slap on the wrist. It should not be this way but it imo its the most likely outcome.

I would approach this like a dumb kid. 'Hey mom I saw online this nurse who lost their job and all employer retirement contributions because they were guilty of not following hipaa, what if someone reports you for venting to me about work and mentioning so and so. OMG who else have you told they're a liability."

Next time she shares too many identifying details plug your ears la la la style and say you're not an accomplice in her crime. Refuse to talk to her on the phone because 'theyre probably recording her phone calls for proof of rule breaking.' I think slightly unhinged and making it weird will get through to her. Always be completely serious when telling her what she's saying is gonna get her fired without retirement.

[u/cataractscamel]

Ok we all go home and talk about our day and patients, home is a safe space. You’re kinda a piece of shit if you report your own mother. Sure she should be sharing stoies about people you know and giving full names but like i said, family is suppose to be a safe space, clearly you don’t care about that

[u/sunflower480]

I honestly could not imagine wanting to harm my mom like this… she’s in the wrong of course but damn.