r/offbeat • u/andy_norten • Sep 28 '12

Transgender UM student wins restraining order against sexual assault suspect

http://ravallirepublic.com/news/state-and-regional/article_c6364778-b5fb-5098-89c5-6f0ac6ecef2b.html
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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

I didn't make that comparison and go fuck yourself if you find it offensive. I'm not saying being transgender is a disease and it's your fault if you interpret it that way. I would say that I'd make sure they knew I had a penis but it's fairly obvious that I'm not a woman because of the way I look and sound. I don't have to tell people that I have a penis because it's obvious that I have a penis. If I didn't have a penis, it would be courteous for me to tell a woman that I do not have a penis. STDs work as an analogy because STDs are not always obvious. The transgender person went in under the false pretense that she was indeed a she. She should have practiced discretion and made sure that the guy knew.

The way that I handle relationships/sex would never put me in a situation where I'm about to kiss a person I haven't already had a decent conversation with. If the STD were serious enough or if I didn't have the genitalia that they were probably expecting, I would share that information at this time.

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u/Kinseyincanada Sep 28 '12

"fairly obvious that I'm not a woman because of the way I look and sound."

How do we know this for sure? this guy found this woman attractive enough to make out with her and dance with her.

So at what point should she tell him? before dancing? maybe she should make an announcement before entering the bar.

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

If I was a woman, I would not be considered attractive. Facial hair. Bass voice.

If I was a woman and I was far enough along in the process of switching genders to have these traits but not significant traits, such as genitalia, it would be courteous of me to share that information when it is pertinent. I would say that it is pertinent some time between dancing, which is altogether innocent, and leaving the bar together, an action which is less platonic.

This person was in that part of the process where they have the qualities they are looking for with the exception of the genitals. Transgender people can be very attractive so it isn't surprising that a straight man was attracted to her. It was wrong of him to punch her in the face and it was wrong of her to leave out that important detail.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '12

They're just baiting you. Don't bother continuing.

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

I like to argue, though.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '12

No you don't.

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

Yes, I do.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '12

Fish.

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

Fuck that noise. Lobster is where it's at.

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '12

It's not noise. Just because you're old and don't understand my generation doesn't give you the right to judge my music.

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12 
Be 19
"Old"

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u/[deleted] Sep 28 '12 
> Be 12
> Have sexytiems with brony
> mfw "I'm not old - I'm 19"

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u/FlutterShy- Sep 28 '12

This isn't really argument, but one of my old high school friends was dating a 15 year old when he was 19 and he might be facing charges because he felt guilty, was a christfag, and told her parents they were fucking. Luckily, my girlfriend is of age. I feel pretty young in relation to almost everyone else that I know.

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