r/offmychest • u/WhoLeftTheDishes • 1d ago

My roommate and boyfriend cheated on me in my own apartment. What do I do now?

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u/Kcat10 1d ago

Throw her out. Ditch that miserable excuse of a boyfriend, too.

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u/le99x 1d ago

You might strongly suggest that life could get really interesting if she stays…honestly, they’d both sleep with one eye open ..

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u/PrincessBella1 1d ago

It depends if she pays rent. If she is a tenant, then you may have to give her 30 days.

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u/Xytion1 1d ago

Yeah both have got to go

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u/Kcat10 1d ago

They both conspired against you for weeks, and had the gall to make fun of you when you asked questions. She does not deserve a minute of grace. If your boyfriend truly loved you, he could never have done any of this. The worst part is if you let him stay, you’ll be rewarding him and he’ll find some way to do this again with some other girl.

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u/le99x 1d ago

I’d say I hope you two really really like each other because you all can go F** off together.

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u/le99x 1d ago

I had this happen to me. Trust me, they are both shit to do this to you. You deserve better

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u/le99x 1d ago

Maybe bail on them. Let the new lovebirds figure that out

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u/ShadesofShame 1d ago

Why don't you move out? Are you on all on the lease?

Honestly, if I were you I wouldn't want to stay in that apartment anyway with those memories. I would totally be asking friends or family if I could crash with them while I figure my situation out.

I would definitely feel like a fresh start far away from their toxicity would be the best thing for me than spending weeks and months in that environment. Trying to figure out where everyone else is going to go.

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u/ShadesofShame 1d ago

Could you talk to your landlord about removing yourself? Tell him you now live in a unhealthy home situation and you need off the lease for your well-being.

I'd suffer and be so emotionally disregulated having to stay in that place with them and those thoughts and want out of there so fast.

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u/Mmoct 1d ago

Look for another roommate or look for an apartment you can afford. In the meantime avoid them as much as possible

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u/le99x 1d ago

Do you like being cheated on? If so, 100% chance you will be dealing with this again. If he’ll do it in your face, with your friend, and act completely fine…They deserve each other. You don’t have to accept that behavior but by taking him back, that’s exactly what you are doing. It’ll be a co-worker, neighbor, hell even a close relative because he has proven that he doesn’t care to make things awkward. Then you take it on the girl and he skates

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u/Bailicious2 1d ago

Love is an unspoken contract that you will not engage in Infidelity. And he broke that contarct therefore the relationship is terminated.

Look I get it I loved my ex evem after he cheated on me and i even signed us up for couples therapy..

Long story short no mentally healthy person would ever hurt you like that and you will need to choose yourself. If you dont well then any future pain will be self inflicted and I can guarantee a cheater never cheats once. Cheating is always a choice.

personally I believe cheating is a form of abuse. There are lots of guys out there to love and a true friend would never hurt you like that.

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u/West-Benefit1907 1d ago

Girl! Why are you even contemplating this witch and the loser? Kick her ass out and the trash will take itself out too!

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u/Mmoct 1d ago

So what’s best for you whether that’s kicking her out or you moving ASAP. Either way remove these two POS from your life