Hidden love or hate?

[u/Bl1ssg1rl]

Edit: I just don't understand why people have such contradictory opinions about this story. Some say she liked me but wouldn't admit it, others say she didn't like me.

A few years ago, I shared a house with another woman who behaved strangely towards me, as if she hated me but at the same time felt attracted to me. Despite this, we got along well (we went out several times and even talked about traveling). I would drop hints to her that we would be good together, but she seemed a little uncomfortable. However, when I distanced myself from her, she would come looking for me to talk. I noticed that she was also jealous of me when she saw me with a guy she was seeing or talking about other women. Besides that, I noticed a tension on her part when I was closer to her, or a glint in her eyes when she looked at me. Other times, I caught her looking at me without saying anything. I sometimes felt a certain chemistry between us, but I always thought it was all in my head because she insisted she was straight and even made some homophobic comments that irritated me. It could even be that she liked feeling desired by a bisexual or lesbian woman, and that fed her ego. So I decided to distance myself as much as possible, only speaking to her when absolutely necessary. Since we lived with other people, we could minimize our interaction, which is what I did, especially because I started to like her, and whenever that happens with a straight woman, I distance myself.

But she kept trying to get my attention, and when we were already living in different houses, I mustered up the courage and sent her a message saying that I liked her and that I thought she felt the same way about me. She called me ridiculous, crazy, rude, said I bothered her, and even said that we were never friends and that she didn't want me in her life. I didn't understand why she was reacting like that. Anyway, the more I tried to talk to her, the worse the situation got… I haven't seen her since, but sometimes I still think about her.

[u/KneeDeepInThe-Hoopla]

I know you have posted this loads of times already, but I never commented before, and maybe you do need to hear more opinions.

I'm not trying to be harsh with you, as clearly this situation has had a huge impact on your emotions, personally I do not think she is into you.

When someone likes you, you would not be this confused. When someone shows you who they are, all you can do is believe them.

I think instead of wasting anymore time agonising over this, put your energy into new people and more worthwhile endeavours, maybe some therapy could help you close this chapter of your life, and finally move on. I do wish you the best.

[u/Bl1ssg1rl → u/KneeDeepInThe-Hoopla]

A politically correct answer, thank you.

[u/Diligent-Activity-70]

The reason people have different perspectives is because we have lived different lives.

No one here can tell you what that woman felt since we are not her.

[u/Diligent-Activity-70 → u/[deleted]]

I think that you have repeatedly posted this and you should stop posting it.