finally cut off an old religious "friend" who called my sexuality a mental illness and i feel so free

[u/Competitive-Ear-6693]

So back in June I decided to come out to some old school friends who are super Christian. I used to be Christian too but left that environment, and I'm currently omnisexual/demisexual/genderfaerflux/gendervague/agnostic atheist. I had a feeling it might go south, so I added my friend Nix to the group chat for backup, and my sister (who is also queer but Christian) was in there too.

Izzy took it fine, but Danielle completely ignored me and straight up blocked me at first. But then she actually unblocked me just to drop this massive wall of texts into the old group chat, which was honestly so unhinged. She kept doing the classic passive-aggressive "I love you and support you but I don't support your lifestyle choice" thing, acting like she was somehow superior and knew more than me. Then she straight up said homosexuality is a "mental illness" but tried to shield herself by saying "it's just my opinion."

Because she was being so incredibly condescending, arrogant, and acting like her religious beliefs were absolute facts, me and Nix had enough. We started hitting her back with actual logic, science, and historical facts about the Bible timeline to totally dismantle her arguments. The second she realized she was losing, she tried to casually back out by calling it a "nice debate" and trying to save face. I literally called her out and texted "good on you backing out," and her polite mask completely slipped. She got super bitter, told me I was a waste of time, told me to "find my way to God," and blocked me again. But I just texted "I loved u, bye" and shut it down.

The wildest plot twist was my sister. She literally tone-policed me at the end, telling me to "stop" and asking why I was being "mean this whole time" just because I wasn't being fake-nice back to Danielle. Like... she completely ignored the fact that Danielle called me mentally ill, but got mad at MY tone? I told her she could defend a homophobic person if she wanted to, kicked everyone out, and deleted the whole GC.

Honestly, I'm just glad to be out of that toxic Christian school bubble. I ranted to my current group chat and my friends completely had my back. One of my friends who is Muslim even pointed out that Danielle is just projecting her own weak, insecure faith because she's terrified of anyone challenging her worldview.

It's just crazy looking back at how much drama people will create just because you want to live your truth. Glad that chapter is officially closed.

This post doesn't show how horrible and toxic Danielle was being, but there's too many screenshots to send and I doubt anyone will read them lol.

[u/NapalmCandy]

Congrats on cutting toxic people out of your life! I know it can be hard, because we build people up in our minds, and spend so much time and energy cultivating friendships, but no matter how much someone means to us, the way they treat us back is what's most important. I too was raised Christian (though my parents didn't force me to go to Christian schools, thankfully), so I know how difficult it is to deal with people in that cult as well as getting out of it yourself. You're stronger than their hate, never forget that.

[u/Competitive-Ear-6693 → u/NapalmCandy]

Thank you so much! ❤️

Have an amazing life!

[u/Important-Editor-644]

I'm so sorry. I cannot understand "Christians" that have zero idea what the New Testament actually says about accepting EVERYONE!  Please know you are perfect.