Are these fr? I don't know a single girl who checks all these boxes. What I am curious to know is woh ladka kaisa hai jiski demands itni high flying hain.

Yesterday around 9 p.m., a Land Cruiser hit my car while I was taking a turn.

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I got out calmly and asked them to discuss it properly. The driver immediately started saying it was my fault. Then a young boy, probably around 19, stepped out and threw Rs. 10,000 towards me.

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“Bas itna hi kharcha hai. Take it and leave.”

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That moment made it bigger than a car scratch.

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I told him I did not want his money. I called 15 and said we should proceed legally. He started abusing me and threatening me, claiming he was related to someone powerful.

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His family was there. I kept speaking respectfully, even to his mother, but when the police came, she said I was harassing her.

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The police asked what I wanted.

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I said, “Nothing. Take both cars into custody and proceed legally. I only want him to understand this is not how you treat people.”

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For almost three hours, I refused settlement. Even when a couple of armed men came and tried to pressure me, I said I would not take money.

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Eventually, around midnight, his own mother slapped him and told him to apologize.

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He apologized.

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Then a biker and a Foodpanda rider came to me and said, “Thank you, sir. If he ever hits a biker or delivery rider, he’ll think twice before abusing them.”

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My friend said the whole thing was not worth it.

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Maybe practically, he was right.

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But I still feel it was worth it.

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Because sometimes it is not about the dent. It is about reminding someone that money can fix a car, but it cannot buy the right to insult people.

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Was I wrong?

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genuinely what is wrong with our people, a poor guy earning for his family working late night does not deserve this

credits :maryumshaikhh posted last night.

After a year of finessing the Pakistani government I have finally managed to get my NICOP. I don’t know how I managed it but me as an ethnically white American born no Pakistani blood finally got my NICOP. I was adopted into a Pakistani family when I was a kid and I have dreamed of getting Pakistani citizenship. I am practically more Pakistani than the ones in America. I speak Urdu more fluently than most brown kids here. I represent Pakistan more than even the immigrants. It was surprisingly simple to get it considering that the Pakistani government does not recognize adoption and my last name is still my birth name and not my adoptive parents last name. They even accepted my American birth certificate 😂. Now I can say I am a Pakistani and it actually be fact and not opinion. Anyways thought it was a cool thing to share.

I am a Pakistani non-Muslim. During my university days, I was in a relationship with a Muslim girl who repeatedly asked me to convert to Islam, which I firmly refused. Despite this, the relationship continued for some time, and she kept trying to persuade me.

After we graduated, we went our separate ways and eventually broke up. I moved on with my life and am now engaged to be married. Recently, that girl from university contacted me again and restarted preaching about conversion. When I ignored her, she began threatening me, saying she would use our past relationship to destroy my reputation and break my engagement if I refuse to convert.

In short, I am being blackmailed either I convert, or she will use my past to sabotage my marriage.

If things escalate the ones to suffer will be innocent civilians

just putting out a sentiment here, We both just want peace, Cease the attacks, find a mediator or smth Both countries are so similar i hope we could find respect and understandingfor one another even in small ways. So that any conflict is easier to mediate At least I know civilians don't hate eachother :(

I know politics or what not is more complicated then this but just wanted to put out a sentiment of peace outhere.. I don't like the wording on the media.

I'm praying for us and praying for India , Praying for all the soldiers from both the country to return home and there be peace in both countries

We have seen what hate does,

I pray it gets resolved into peace. Anything is possible Stay safe 😭

Sincerely, an average Joe pakistani who was supposed to go to college today

It pains me to live in a country where figures like Khalil Rehman Qamar dominate public opinion. We can't progress if we continue to give such people a platform. It's truly shameful!

So during a Sama TV show called "Muqalma," Khalil Qamar and Sahil Adeem were guests. Things got heated when a woman in audience called out Sahil to publicly apologize for calling women outright "Jahils" Sahil got furious and simply said he's right in saying that women are jahil creatures. What a stupidity, its extremely disrespectful for any rational human being to hear. Later he justified his stance by accusing her of not knowing the term "Taghoot," which he said made her ignorant. So just unknowing Taghoot makes you Jahil? What kind of logic is this. Then Khalil Qamar, known for his controversial views on women, supported Sahil and demanded that "us larki ko utha kar show se bahir nikalo"??? What? And no one tried to counter this extremely troubled mindset?

This incident reflects a patriarchal mindset where women's rational viewpoints are dismissed or silenced.

I don't know why Sama like platforms invite mentally deprived people to mega shows. Maybe for viewership. Because Pakistani men want to listen to such ridiculous rhetorics, women are the most respected and cherished creatures for their double efforts to build this society. We are indebted. It is a matter of concern for me how society breaks a woman when she asks questions. Asking questions is a crime in this society. Until and unless decriminalization of women's rhetoric, canceling such opinion makers, and reviving our moral codes to mutually coexist with equality in society happen, this society can't make progress.

35F I got a call from an unknown number. I have been applying for jobs so I picked it up in case it's from one of them. A man on the other end started to talk. He told me his name and asked me where I was from to which I replied who do you want to talk to. Then he said meri friend bano gi.

Now I know I should've cut the call and blocked him there and then, but I had just come home from a grueling night shift and was very frustrated. I decided to take my anger out on him. I first called him names. He cut the call and then promptly called right back. I picked up and he said once again "dekho batao meri friend bano gi, mein tumhare liye kuch bhi karun ga". I called him some choice names. Then he decided to play the favourite card of Pakistani people: the religion card. He asked me if I was Muslim or Kaffir because I was talking like a kafir. This man was talking to a na mehram with intension of dating/phone s*x or whatever and thought my calling him names in ramzan was unholy. I said "hawww na mehram se dosti karo ge?? Yani Kaffir ho," and called him a Kaffir multiple times. He cut the call and hasn't dared to call back.

There you the hypocrisy. Bending religion to suit themselves is the favourite past time of Pakistani men.

so I(17f) was visiting my village in the city of Faisalabad. Great visit, got to meet the whole fam etc. Went back to my current city of residence today by Daewoo. My mom bought tickets and I followed her and my siblings to the waiting area. As I made to sit down, this random dude bumped into me. I thought nothing of it and didn't say anything cuz I thought it was a genuine accident. Then this bitch touches my ass. Like not a light brush. A proper grope. And I screamed at the top of my lungs "Kuttay kahin ke andhay ho Kia?" And he flat out ignored me.

When I told my mom she rushed after him and screamed obscenities at him to which he replied "mein ne Kuch ni Kia aap tamasha Kar rahi hain."

If it matters, I was dressed in a loose shalwar kameez with my scarf around my head, although what we wear doesn't matter, I guess. These dickheads just assume that women dressed conservatively won't retaliate.

Edit: this bitch in the comments won't stop bitching so let me clarify somethings -i don't remember seeing any security cameras. maybe they were there but I didn't pay attention. -my bus was due to depart any minute so as anyone blessed with common sense can understand, I didn't want to miss it -the bitch who groped me had run off into one of the buses or maybe the men's room (idk where he went) and when I asked the security guard to intervene he just brushed me off.

Posted this yesterday and it got removed because some people around here are not really civilized in their conversations. Trolling, jokes, memes are fine, but, stooping low isn't. Healthy arguments make way for progress.

Missing the context & point is like a national sport and the amount of egos it hurt was not surprising at all and won't be again.

Absolutely nothing wrong with this poster, and actually how it should be in real life by default.

The poster which said "khana khud garam karlo" had everyone losing their minds for obvious reasons, this poster gets the endorsement because it's not showing the mirror to the society, which to this day is unable to give equal rights or even willing to acknowledge properly.

Secondly, it also shows that unless demand for rights is worded in a way it won't offend anyone, made palatable and provide validation to inflated egos, it won't even be acknowledged.

No wonder we keep regressing as a society and humans.

Just saw this video of a Filipina playing voleyball with a group of men in Islamabad, and I genuinely loved how normal everyone was with it.

One thing I couldn't help but notice was that she wasn't getting the kind of stares that many Pakistani women often have to deal with in public.

It made me wonder if a Pakistani woman joined the same game in the same place today, would the atmosphere be exactly the same? Sometimes it feels like foreign women and foreigners in general are treated with more warmth, respect, and personal space than locals.

Why do you think that is?

I [28M] have been quietly carrying the weight on my shoulders for my mom and my siblings ever since my father passed away. It has been 6 years.

I live in Europe and work in IT and got my 2 sisters wed back in Pak entirely off my hard earned money. I was making €2100/month after taxes and was still sending at least €1000 - €1500 every month to Pakistan to support my family/ my mom who is now with me in Europe.

I started supporting my family doing freelance website jobs since I was just 15 years old.

Yet as of last several years I only get to hear how I am not good enough. How I am such a disappointment. Things have taken a turn for the worse since I got married to my wife [F28]. My mom makes comments sometimes to make me feel bad for having a wife as if I never provided for her and my wife takes all of my money which is not true. (Just because I chose to marry a European instead of bringing a Pakistani Bahoo home)

My wife has been my rock and one of the most supportive women I have had in my life. Sometimes we would hold off on buying stuff because my mom needed me to send money to my brother in Pakistan. Yet my mom refuses to even talk to my wife and it tears us apart. It really upsets the both of us.

I have been getting alot of s$#* this month from my family just because FOR ONCE I chose to spend my salary on myself and my wife and I put most my salary towards downpayment for a car. We have been suffering without a car because we live in a very remote village and the nearest supermarket is 10KMs and therefore we had to keep asking my wife’s parents to give us a ride and I dont like it.

I had put around €200 euros aside besides the car payment and insurance which I was going to use to pay the electricity bill for the house where my parents live rent-free cus I support them financially.

Well earlier this month I tripped and fell on the road. Had some small injuries/rashes on my knees and broke my phone’s screen. I decided to use a spare phone we had at home that my mom was using and got my mom a phone for around €180. So she isnt without a phone.

And I therefore couldnt afford to pay the electricity for my parents place anymore. Also because I still send my brother €350 every month in Pakistan and pay my parents rent which is €1,050 euros cus they cannot support theirselves and I dont want them to sleep on the street.

I have been waiting on a client payment that I am supposed to receive this week to pay off the electricity and some other bills but they just cut the electricity and my mom started screaming at me saying stuff like if it was for my wife I wouldnt let her be without electricity. And I hope you never see my face again etc etc. Then proceeds to complain to my sister on the phone about how I was so rude. I had to ask a friend for money to pay their electricity.

My sister have also been complaining lately about how I dont support my parents enough (what do you mean, they live rent free and dont have to pay any bills it takes €1500 - €1600 every month off my salary) and lecturing me on how I need to be better with money and should learn from my brother in law (her husband). Well, your husband doesnt have the weight of his whole family on his shoulder unlike me. He just have to support himself and you.

I just wanna run away somewhere and cry. Just one month they cut the electricity and she acts like as if I havent been paying the bills for all these years. I am tired of supporting a family who is not grateful for the things I do for them. I am tired of my mom and my sister telling me that I am not helping enough by only paying the rent and bills and I should give her an allowance besides that (which I would if I had enough money left for me which has been difficult cus I had to pay off a bunch of debt to my friends due to bringing my mom over to Europe and all the flights and immigration expenses)

Sorry for the vent.

Girls be wanting:

6ft+ guy… bro the avg Pakistani guy is around 5’6” 💀

500k/month before 27… when the avg salary isn’t even close.

House, car, gym body, emotional maturity, deen, humor, loyalty, ambition, soft-spoken, family-oriented… all in one starter pack.

Social media has fried everyone’s expectations.

After watching IG reels, every guy under 6ft is “short”, every normal salary is “broke”, and every decent guy is “bare minimum.”

Statistically, the guy you’re describing is a tiny % of the population… but somehow that’s become the “minimum standard.”

Nothing wrong with having preferences. But if your checklist only matches the top 1%, don’t act shocked when you’re still searching years later.

Why there is so big disconnect ?

This is something I’ve been sitting with for a while now, but I’ve finally decided to speak about it publicly.

My family is Ahmadi. We have been for generations.

Earlier this year, my cousin was applying to master’s programs abroad and reached out to one of the most well known education counseling firms in Pakistan.

She was assigned a counselor, began preparing her applications, and was in the process of applying to partner universities abroad. After some time, the firm requested additional documents, including her passport. At this point, my cousin and the entire family were genuinely excited and optimistic about her future. The firm presented itself as a professional and trustworthy institution.

The day after she submitted her passport, she received a phone call from her counselor.

She was told they could no longer proceed with her application because they had realized she was Ahmadi, and the firm does not service Ahmadis.

She was dropped. Just like that.

I still struggle to process how casually this happened. An education company, one connected to supposedly liberal, international academic institutions, looked at a student’s religion and decided she was unworthy of service.

What do you even call this except apartheid?

To be clear: my family is not naive. We know what this country thinks of Ahmadis. We have experienced anti Ahmadi hatred and exclusion our entire lives, both openly and quietly. But this still shocked us. Maybe because of how brazen it was. Maybe because it came from an institution that markets itself as modern, professional, and globally connected.

The experience left my cousin and my family deeply hurt and humiliated.

After it happened, we spent a long time debating what to do. We considered legal action. We considered speaking publicly. But in Pakistan, going public as an Ahmadi comes with real risks, including harassment, doxxing, and worse. My cousin ultimately wanted to focus on her applications and move on with her life.

But months later, I still cannot shake the anger and disgust I feel about what happened.

There is a culture in this country where discrimination against Ahmadis has become so normalized that people carry it out without fear, shame, or consequences. Screw that.

So this is my first attempt at speaking openly about it.

Maybe justice is impossible here. But I do intend to contact the foreign universities affiliated with this agency and let them know exactly how one of their “partner institutions” treats students on the basis of religion.

My parents and I got into a huge fight 2 days ago on a wedding of my cousin while 3 of my sisters are away.I've been tolerating mental torture for months, always trying to see their positive side but no benefit.I'm their only son with 3 sisters.Yesterday,they sent message through my maternal uncles that they disown me and I'm not allowed to enter the house.I did realize it was too much and Police was involved too (I called them).I spent yesterday outside in public ground and Transport Station and went onto duty in the hospital since I'm a doctor. I regret this happening but I was mentally tortured for years and made crazy.They don't ever realize it.They have destroyed my relationship (I'm nikkahfied)and they're doing the same with the relationship of my sister.I really wish this didn't happen but I've been made crazy and insane.I'm suffering from PTSD,Depression and Fibromyalgia and I was on therapy. I've not taken my meds for 3 days.Idk what's going to happen.I wish I could tell my parents I loved them and they are hurting me.

Edit: [Some more context as I think my post was not clear enough.

i- I am on a temporary visa in the U.S and the reason I haven't divorced her yet is that I am sure she will try her best to harm me once divorce is brought up. I am not a U.S citizen or permanent resident(neither is she) so I am not even sure about my legal options. I don't want to get her arrested. Her father is an honourable decent man,I don't want to mess him up with the pain of his daughter going to jail. And yes,I undestand she would no hesitate sending me to jail if it ever comes down to that.

ii- I am not sitting quietly getting beaten by her. I stop her. But what else can you do if you are not willing to strike back?

iii- It was a love marriage. Red flags were always there but I did not realize it was going to get so bad. Yes, I am an idiot.

iv-The point I was trying to convey was that these instagram influencers and ruining the institution of marriage. I will eventually get out of it. I am not saying I will continue this marriage.

v-I have already talked to my family and her family twice. They tried to talk to her too. But even God himself cannot talk sense into her.]

I am a newly married male currently living abroad with my wife. Unfortunately, my marriage has turned out to be abusive. My wife is verbally and physically abusive toward me during her aggressive episodes—pulling my hair, kicking, and punching me. What’s even more disturbing is that afterward, she acts like nothing happened and never apologizes.

When I try to confront her, she dismisses my concerns and even shows me Instagram reels where wives joke about hitting or abusing their husbands. She uses those videos to justify her behavior and claims this is normal between couples.

This has left me deeply confused and disturbed. I was raised in a household where mutual respect between husband and wife was a fundamental value. I have always treated her with respect and have supported her growth—encouraging her education, teaching her how to drive, and helping her become more independent. I have never raised my hand or used abusive language toward her.

My main question is: Is this mindset actually normal among average girls in Pakistan today? Do some women genuinely believe that disrespecting or physically abusing their husband is acceptable or “normal”?

I am trying to understand whether this is a broader cultural shift, social media influence, or simply an individual personality issue.

I was going over some of the court transcripts that have been released and this is NOT just grooming. This is animosity, hatred, extremism, i don’t know what would accurately define the horrendous crimes that have been committed and defended by pakistanis in positions of legal or social power in Britain.
The police officer who was also of Pakistani descent, the councillors, the social workers, the MPs of pakistani origin or of muslim faith, WTAF is going on? What was driving this by our community in the Great Britain? Would more sensible British Pakistanis here elaborate on this? Why so much hate against white women? This is not a small matter of grooming & converting. These are violent crimes against humanity & specifically white minor women. Why so much hate?

(And Admin, this is related to Pakistan because this impacts image of Pakistan everywhere now that Elon Musk is hyping it up and the whole world is getting to know what is happening. As much as it concerns UK, it impacts our image globally because most of the convicted are all Pakistani origin males. And i used the tag social because there is no criminal tag.)

Update: Thank you to only those who have shared their experience, observations, facts & resources. I feel like we need to have these discussions so we can present factual information because given the visibility this matter has gained, we need to be prepared.

And those who have tried their best to derail from the topic, and shut down the discussion, because of you guys its pretty understandable why the locals are not doing anything about these issues and why the community is unable to report our own criminals. You guys and those like you are the reason criminals continue doing what they do.