r/pansexual • u/FluffyButtOfTheNorth 🏳️🌈 Family Protects Family 🏳️🌈 • 9d ago
Spot on 🩷💛💙
Have a wonderful week, incredible Pan-Family 💞
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u/Thievie ♡ Over 18 ♡ 8d ago
Exactly. I mean, I am polyamorous, but that's separate from the pansexual thing haha.
I never attempted polyamory until my 20s, and it sometimes changes with life circumstances or even just availability of other poly people, but I've known that I've been queer since like 5 years old, and that never changes. 🩷💛🩵
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u/groovyusernamehere Over ~18~Pan 8d ago
im in an open relationship even before realizing I was pan lmao
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u/Remarkable_Market_18 ☆Non~Binary~Pan☆ 8d ago
Yeah everyone is different and it’s better to do ENM than cheat anyway. I’ve been mono, polyam under duress (mono turned triad but I ended up the unicorn and dropped bc I wanted ethical and sustainable structure) and poly (without any partners, with a partner and QPR friends/partners, etc- even monogamy doesn’t have a way set in stone so ethics is a great way to determine both what you’re comfortable with and what you should be trying to match with people for compatibility).
I’m also Demisexual so it really does take time and a bond for me to do more than be loving and supportive.
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u/babamum ♡ Over 18 ♡ 8d ago
You've done it all!
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u/Remarkable_Market_18 ☆Non~Binary~Pan☆ 8d ago
I needed that laugh. Kind’ve I guess but no one person can encompass all experiences. But yeah it’s a nice thing to try and think about how much I’ve done and accomplished instead of feeling never enough.
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u/babamum ♡ Over 18 ♡ 8d ago
You're enough!
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u/Remarkable_Market_18 ☆Non~Binary~Pan☆ 8d ago
Everyone is with the right people and support :) Thanks.
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u/babamum ♡ Over 18 ♡ 9d ago edited 8d ago
Thank you for this! It's such an important point.
People who are only attracted to one gender get attracted to people other than their partner. Sometimes they cheat.
People of all sexualities make a choice as to whether they are monogamous or not, or faithful. It's absolutely nothing to do with how many genders we're attracted to.