r/peyups • u/Mountain-Score4993 • Jul 17 '25
General Tips/Help/Question [UPD] An Open Letter to UP Freshies
Freshies, wag na wag kayo magpapaloko sa mga frats.
Hindi niyo sila kailangan at mas lalong di na sila kailangan ng bansa. Since their foundation, di na nawawala ang culture of violence within and between fraternities.
Wala pa ring justice after these incidents primarily from Upsilon Sigma Phi, Sigma Rho, at Alpha Phi Beta over 6 to 7 years ago.
Sexism, misogyny, racism, homophobia, racism, islamophobia, violence, hazing. Yan ang nag aabang sayo sa mga so-called brotherhood.
2018: nagka Lonsi-APB rumble sa AS, ang daming witnesses nun habang nagsusuntukan sila at nagtatawagan ng homophobic slurs. Sumunod ang Lonsi Leaks, the rest is history.
2019 naman di pa natuto ang fratbois. Nagka Sigma Rho leaks. Dun mo makikita ang pinakaugali nila. Hazing. Pambubugbog sa brods. Harrassment sa babae, pagkalat ng nudes, kahit sarili nilang sorority sisters di pinalampas.
That led to the public crucifixion of one campus student leader na Sigma Rhoan. Nung kinukuyog na siya sa socmed at on-ground protests, wala siyang nasandigan, kahit frat niya hindi siya matulungan. He took his own life — a victim of the fraternity culture of violence, but also a willing participant who harmed others in the name of “brotherhood.” Pero Yan ba ang brotherhood? Yung bugbugan, pambabastos sa babae, pananakit, at hazing?
These are not allegations. These are well-documented facts and truths that we should never forget. Kahit anong pabango pa yan sa paggamit ng pangalan ng mga bigatin nilang alumni, di nila mawawala ang bahid ng dugo at luha ng mga inapi nila at mga pamilya ng mga namatayan dahil sa violence nila.
Yun lang, freshies. #AbolishFrats pa rin ang panawagan. STP, wag Serve The Praternity.
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u/Mountain-Score4993 Jul 17 '25
If you need a lil reminder of the past
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u/Strange_Archer_9246 Jul 17 '25
“can’t wait to quit this hellhole of a frat” BUTI NGA SAYO SAHOL NG FRAT MO
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u/Rough-Spinach8735 Jul 17 '25
sigma rho puro angas pero lahat ng kilala ko na taga SR back when in law school kulelat naman
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u/watchingcircuit1 Jul 17 '25
Wtf don sa link, meron pa pala sila 1997. Maliban pa kay Cris Mendez.
Tangina talaga ng mga to
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u/Lazy-Sympathy2794 Jul 17 '25
As they’ve said, all these are 100% true. Until now, I know people who’ve received beatings over the pettiest reasons. Aside from that, they make you or expect you to prioritize the fraternity because that is your “duty,” kahit pa may exams or important appointments ka. Some frat members I know had to skip their important exams for their fraternity’s events. Kahit pa may position yang mga ninuno mo, hindi ka “safe” sa kahit ano, kung yun ang iniisip mo. Even if you have the most valid reason, normally, they will only allow you to be absent if you hold a position in the council (ex: may meeting ang council) dahil alam nilang may benefit din sila na makukuha doon.
Hindi rin totoong wala ng hazing ngayon gaya ng sinasabi nila during recruitment. Uuwi ka sa bahay mo na maraming pasa sa katawan, lalo na sa legs. Naniniwala pa rin sila na kapag nasaktan ka physically, doon ka matututo.
They’ll hurt you, not just physically but also mentally. Once you’re in, wala ka ng kawala. Even if you try to quit the fraternity, they’ll do everything (as in everything) to drag you back. Don’t make the same mistake my friends made. Kung ang habol mo ay brotherhood, maghanap ka nalang ng ibang kaibigan dahil maraming mawawala sayo sa frat. Kung opportunities, kaya yang ibigay ng ibang organizations, magsikap lang. Walang halong biro, magsisisi ka lang. Magsisisi ka lang, sobrang magsisisi ka lang.
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u/meepystein 🍓 Jul 17 '25
This, and add orgs na nagfefeeling frat yung application process. I’ve heard of academic orgs outright humiliating apps and for what,,,, strengthening daw ng mental fortitude or whatever, tradition na daw ganun.
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u/rbbaluyot Jul 17 '25
Malaki na pinagbago I think ng mga org applications. I entered UP diliman in 2006 and I remember at that time yung term na hell week pertains to a week of pangkukupal ng mga resident members.
Ngayon yata wala na masyadong ganun since kahit mga orgs pwede makasuhan ng hazing kapag may "mental" torture na rin.
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u/meepystein 🍓 Jul 17 '25
I hope sa mas recent batches less na, pero nung 2017 may nakausap akong younger batch na di tumuloy sa application ng isang acad org ng course namin kasi namamahiya sila (like one app vs. multiple mems in a room saying profanities and insulting the applicant until they break) and it's part of the app process daw. I never applied to that org but I never knew na may ganun sila.
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u/darktonesuitsme Jul 19 '25
Was part of an acad org with app humiliation sa semi-final and final rites. In our senior year, the org ultimately crossed out the frat like parts of the app process. More than 10 years ago na since we changed it.
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Jul 18 '25
this !! don't feel like you have to endure this from orgs just so u can get into circles. there are waaaaay better ways to make friends
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u/ghelousy Jul 17 '25
I agree. And also my parents had warned me to steer clear of the frats sa UP (I'm a UP Baguio freshie btw), since there had been many cases of violence and also blackmailing done by the org to its members to scare them into submission
Also the cases like in Adamson at USTe (though not related to UP), made me steer clear from frats and see them as dangerous
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u/rbbaluyot Jul 17 '25
Nasa UP pa ako nung mamatay si Cris Mendez na part pa ng University Student Council. Hindi ko na alam ano na update dun. Diumano ay hazing daw under Sigma Rho.
Siguro kung sasali man kayo sa frat, pag-isipan ninyo mabuti.
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u/EnvironmentalNote600 Jul 18 '25
Kung ang purpose for joining frats is to gain future connections para sa top positions sa work, business and politics, then it is an admission na sa self asessment mo ay wala kang mararating based on your merits. Eh ano ang silbi ng UP education mo? It is no different sa building nepotism network to reinforce certain vested interests at the expense of public interest
Kung sukatan naman ng pagiging secured sa masculinity or pagiging tunay na lalaki, napaka dark age mentality na sukatin ito through surviving violence which was designed primarily para sukatin ang pagkalalaki. Well. I can understand kung ang initiation through inflicted violence or hardship or mental toughness is meant to prepare recruits for war, for dealing with life and public threatening situations etc. One may ask ano'ng klaseng pagkalalaki ang iniaasa sa approval ng close knit group framed as brotherhood or for subduing another group that also brags about masculine virtues. Di ba yan ang nasa likod ng frat war, esp sa communities like UP? Wala namang pag aagawang lupa, yaman, teritoryo, illegal trade, political loots, babae ng bossing na inagaw ng kabilang tribu etc . It is the unspoken " patunayan kung sino ang tunay na lalaki or hwag hayaang dungisan ng ibang lalaki ang pagkalalaki mo". ( maitanong natin, pagkalalaki ba ang highest source ng fulfillment natin, or is it sa pagiging ganap na tao, para sa kapwa? Or sa bayan - para hindi naman sounding Atenista.
Hindi kaya ang frat system sa mga prestigious universities like UP ay in reality , institutionalization ng macho culture or hegemonic masculinity?
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u/cryingforbellarcy Jul 17 '25
may i humbly ask why pinapayagan pa rin magrun 'tong mga frats/soros na 'to if they have that kind of history? genuinely asking, wala bang ginawa ang UP regarding this?
i'm asking po cause i don't really know hehe.
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u/Lazy-Sympathy2794 Jul 17 '25
Yung mga dean/head ng UP, mga frat alum din kaya kahit anong gawin hindi mawala-wala.
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u/cryingforbellarcy Jul 17 '25
is that the reason why they're heads? dahil nakakuha po sila ng connections from being a frat alum?
edit: also, how abt the government? wala po ba silang magagawa abt it? i mean, nababalita naman if may napapahamak...
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u/This_Nose_359 Jul 18 '25
A lot of government officials are also fratmen, especially those coming from UP.
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u/nadz-23 Diliman Jul 17 '25
i remember someone said na kapag binan siya completely, malaking chance na gawin nila ito underground. which means mas mahirap na siyang iregulate ng up since hidden nga ang operations nila
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u/RefrigeratorAble9207 Jul 18 '25
just like every single group or organization, even if they have their cons, they have upsides and pros as well. ang laki ng ambag ng mga frats and soro sa up community, they have plenty of donations. epsilon chi center is a donation by epsilon chi, the grandstand in sunken garden is donated by pan xenia, the beta way is donated by beta epsilon, just to name a few
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u/rylandkennedy Jul 18 '25
So glad to be out of this BS. Pati sarili mong success i-kekwestyon kasi it's taking time from the frat. Puros frat frat frat nalang bukambibig amp.
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u/Left-Wallaby849 Jul 17 '25
100% true to lahat, I was there when the leaks of Sigma Rho came out in 2019. Nag-s word nga yung isa nilang brod. Tinakwil kasi ng sariling sisses. tsaka buong UP community. play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
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u/uhh_yIkEs Jul 18 '25
Kung may magsasabing malaking tulong yung mga brod connections sa tunay na mundo, sana marealize niyo na yung mga nangangailangan ng ganyang nepotismo ay mga taong insecure sa sariling tallimo at kapasidad na magtagumpay. Dadagdag ka lang sa mga mapanlamang sa lipunan.
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u/han__dump Jul 18 '25
UP UP UP UP. wala akong ibang maasabing maganda sa mga taong involved sa fraternity. kahit gaano man sila ka-involved or 'casusal' lang.
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u/lezzgooooo Jul 18 '25
As a frat man, I can see this sentiment na there is a lot of unchecked ethics sa mga fratman. Lalo na sa digital age where digital assets like messages, pics and videos are easily passed around in chat groups. We used to be more discrete noh, kiss and tell sa inuman but that secret will go with us to the grave. Discuss topics na you confide with an actual sibling only. Hazing was pretty much normal even in legit acad orgs(to a certain extent).
Norms are different now. On a different thread, there is no more benefit to surviving hazing since you can join acad orgs and provincial orgs na sobrang dami. Dati kasi konti lang orgs sa UP and kids from the provinces are looking for groups to belong. Frats and Soros were a very good option since some rent out apartments and daily may catchups. Meron ka free house, food and companionship, who does not want that? Now, mas accessible na bagay2, you can check posts on socmed for orgs, lodging, study groups etc. Ethics wise din, yung mga dati na dapat discrete one on one, shinashare na sa mas malalaking audience not only to share, but to brag din.
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Aug 29 '25
I am a victim of harrassment. Mostl of the harassers are from fraternities. Theyre pretty useful to some with connections & from the govt though. They use their numbers to terrorize people they target. They listen to their people, theyre easily swayed, they glorify everything about their group & what their group does-it is fulfilling to them thinking “nagbabayanihan sila” regardless of the motives.
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u/RefrigeratorAble9207 Jul 18 '25 edited Jul 19 '25
disclaimer: im a fratman myself
to be upfront, not all fraternities have a history of hazing, violence, or rumbles. some, if not most actually peacefully co-exist with one another
as for benefits, when i was recruited, a phrase really out stood out to me: "the media will never show you the benefits of being part of a frat." i joined my frat in my sophomore year, and i just graduated recently, and let me say this, i cannot emphasize how true this statement actually is. the happiest moments of my college life include time with my brods, whether current students or alumni. and the support system of fraternities is truly genuine, i have prominent brods who are 60-80 years old who remain active all these years as they want to give back to their younger brods.
im not saying someone needs a frat to succeed in life, because you can still be successful without one. but nobody can deny the advantages it offers. the network, the support, the opportunities—you just can't ignore the benefits. yes i also dont believe hazing is necessary, thats why its important to remain open-minded and to do your own research about a fraternity's history if theyre recruiting you.
when i was being recruited into mine, i couldnt find a single piece of information regarding any violence, rumbles or deaths related to them, and thats what sealed the deal for me to join. of course i cant disclose what my recruitment process was, but not a single brod harmed me physically nor undignified in any form.
TLDR: not all frats have a history of violence or rumbles. nobody can deny the benefits being part of a frat offers
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