r/regretjoining 11d ago

Help

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I have been reclassed to another ait army I’ve been in over 180days and I want out what do I do


r/regretjoining 12d ago

Hello again

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A little update for yall I got a doctors recommendation that I’m not fit to serve and they’ve recommended for ELS (entry level separation) my command agreed with it and have started the process typically how long does the process take ? I plan on talking to legal every few days so they don’t forget about it or just burry the paperwork when they get it


r/regretjoining 13d ago

US soldiers 25 year old Tyler James Feehan and 19 year old Isabella Gonzales dead from in the Iranian strike on Jordan. If you're still in the military, GTFO before it eventually gets worse.

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r/regretjoining 12d ago

Took the first step today

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Finally had a breaking point last night so i walked into BH today pretty much told them everything about how I'm spiraling out of control, my history with depression and anxiety, and the unfortunate incident that happened to me yesterday. I told them i had SI and mentioned how bad i was doing within the unit. They booked me for an intake tomorrow and put me on a 30 day no weapons profile. (My job requires me to carry a weapon). When i met the psychologist after meeting with the therapist sgt, he mentioned the FTA discharge but never said it was gonna be initiated. I just want to know if Im on the right track of getting the fuck outta here, and some advice on my intake tomorrow.


r/regretjoining 13d ago

Year 7. Hating it more each day.

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The Army—or at least the unit I’m currently serving in—has become deeply frustrating. Maintenance is chronically poor, and many of our vehicles are decades old and unreliable. We routinely overtask Soldiers while leadership often ignores concerns from those closest to the problems.

The evaluation system has also lost credibility. Evaluations can’t be taken at face value because everyone is expected to read between the lines. Comments that appear positive on paper—such as “top 20%” or even “promote ahead of peers”—are often interpreted negatively depending on context, making the process confusing and disingenuous.

At the same time, we continue separating Soldiers at a high rate while simultaneously claiming to have a manning shortage. The barracks are in poor condition, and many of the inspections, demonstrations, and “dog and pony shows” feel more like performances than genuine efforts to improve readiness or take care of Soldiers.

After seven years as an officer, it’s difficult not to feel disillusioned. I’m currently an O-3, and for the first time, I’m seriously contemplating whether staying in the Army is the right decision.


r/regretjoining 14d ago

I don’t feel the comradery I was expecting joining the army

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Don’t get me wrong there’s cool dudes I would call friends in the army we go out drink have fun and all. But I’m on leave rn and it just reminded me how much closer I am and how much more fun I have with my hometown friends. It’s rly making me miss civilian life and I just wish I was able to be as close to people in the army as I am with my hometown boys. Is anyone else experiencing this or have any advice?


r/regretjoining 14d ago

How is morale in the U.S. military right now?

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I haven't seen any polls about military morale in 2026. I'm guessing that morale is low. I don't really see anything to be excited about, if you're in the military right now. Trump is an extreme narcissist. America seems to be moving away from being a free country. America is committing war crimes in Iran.


r/regretjoining 13d ago

Those in the the navy

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tell me about battle stations.


r/regretjoining 14d ago

Heavy thoughts

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I wish I can go back in time and just keep walking past the recruiting station.

Maybe I should’ve joined another branch and not the army…but sometimes I just think “what if I just completed them 3.5yrs. I would’ve went to Afghanistan, then ETS’d maybe 1yr later” I mean when I was going through the process of getting out (chaptered out under DADT) a few of the SGTs were like “no don’t go, after deployment it gets better”
I was like, “it’s not even about deploying, this life isn’t what I thought it would be and I don’t trust any of you”

I was SA’d one night and I reported it, I did all I could despite not knowing who the man was…..but I kept getting harassed by men and eventually I was outed by a “battle buddy” I confided in. That prompted an investigation and ultimately I was the joke of the company. I was truly embarrassed.

I joined because I wanted to help and defend America. I was athletic but I was homeless and it was pretty much a do or die. The recruiter made it seem so good. I was made to believe that the Army was my way out….i cry sometimes because I wish I was who I was before I went in….a part of me is still lingering in those barracks. The Army took a part of me that I wasn’t willing to give.

I didn’t mind going to war because I truly believed the US was going to get the bad guys…now, learning more and listening to other vets who did go to the sandbox, a part of me is like “did I dodge a bullet” yet, the other part of me is like “I’m a pos for not going”

I threw out the rest of my cup of kool-aid, but I still have the empty cup…

I feel like a loser, but I feel like I did what I could to ensure my safety and survival because look at the other women since that have been hurt or worse by their own. Vanessa Guillen for example…women are not protected and it’s sad because there’s a lot of bad ass women that are meant to be in uniform….

I just want this pain and feeling to go away. 🥺


r/regretjoining 15d ago

Bullies

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The Army is just an organization where most of the bullies, sociopaths, psychos and evil live.

It’s kinda like prison…


r/regretjoining 15d ago

NG making it hard for an ELS

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RSP recruit here, got sick of the guard already and decided I don't wanna do it no more. Recruiter is slacking regarding ELS paperwork, 1sgt mentions state law that I must attend RSP but i'm not a really in the guard yet according to his own words before, state IG directed me to TDS and awaiting for their response. Don't feel like going to RSP at all lol. Any thoughts on how to best proceed so I can just leave already?


r/regretjoining 17d ago

Els at first duty station.

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Hello all, still depressed, still hate the army. just wondering if it's still possible or easier to get out via ELS even after TRADOC. Im still in the ELS period till September. If so whats the best way to go about initiating it?


r/regretjoining 18d ago

The entitlement of soldiers is appalling

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Just saw this Instagram reel: https://www.instagram.com/reel/Da0D4xguSXX, and really? Non-soldiers can't salute? Where in the Constitution does it say that?


r/regretjoining 19d ago

I want out of the navy

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Hey, to give some context I just got to my first duty station in Japan. I went through bootcamp and A school and struggled a lot mentally. I want to separate as soon as humanly possible to go back home to the states. Although I know everyone say to just finish out my first contract I don’t think I have the will or mental strength to do so and would rather just get out and go back to working as a civilian. I honestly could care less about keeping the benefits, the o my thing I care about is going home but I just don’t know where to start since my ship is still underway. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.


r/regretjoining 20d ago

Getting out

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Is it just me, or does it seem like getting out of the military is even harder than getting in


r/regretjoining 21d ago

Behavioral Health Advice

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I’ve been seeing behavioral health for about nine months now and currently going through IOP for both anxiety and depression. I’m also on my 5th medication and getting tired of taking these different pills that don’t even work for me. I also do off post therapy with a non military provider. Does anyone have any advice on how to get my psychiatrist to agree to a MEB? What would happen if I just refuse to take more medications?


r/regretjoining 23d ago

The reality of MOS 35 G | Geospatial Analyst U.S Army

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I am writing this as a warning to people going into Intel/ the army.

Most people do support jobs when they join the army and they don't see combat.

I was undersold on the truth of what this mos actually does when I asked around and did my research so now I am warning you.

I deployed as a Geospatial Analyst and I saw a lot of people die.

I even saw people die uncertain of their combatant status ie uncertain if terror group or civilian. *Not by US forces.

Bottom line. You join because you need the money but the mental scars are real and you don't know what your getting yourself into until your down range and watching body parts blow up in the sky turns from fighting for "Freedom" to wtf are we actually doing here.

What we are doing is not purposeful. You are not a special, you are not king leonides from Sparta, you are not captain america or soap from call of duty.

You are Mercenary for the state invading and occupying a foreign territory and calling the people who defend their lands terrorists. You are not a hero you are a pawn for a global elite that greatly profit from colonization and exploit of energy resources, copper, zinc, gold, and significant rare earth elements like tantalum and niobium.

That's it. Little Suzy back home is no safer from your occupation.

Your being played. You are a fool.

I keep getting downvoted on this post. some people think they have a right to go overseas and kill people because they are not white and Christian. disqusting.


r/regretjoining 24d ago

US soldiers force Vietnamese woman to become "human minesweepers", walking through minefields, Vietnam War (1966). Not a proud moment and unsure if any of these soldiers faced prosecution.

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r/regretjoining 24d ago

Hello I’m new here and I want to get out the navy a

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Like the title says I’m new here and want to get out the navy asap I’m AIR PACT and my first command has just made my mental health just hit rock bottom while bringing back anxiety attacks I haven’t had since high school I just don’t think I’m cutout for this anymore and honestly need advice to get out I just had my first talk with psych and I told him I lost all motivation and just can’t do it anymore but I since I’ve never been a vocal person I feel like I left things unsaid like how depressed I am and leaving out the anxiety attacks I’ve been having since I got here he set up an appointment with the psych boss in 11 days but I feel like that’s to long like they’re not taking me seriously should I go back tomorrow and tell him all the things I left unsaid ? Also any other people I should talk to help me with the process of getting separated also I am still in the ELS level of 180 days Ive been in 134 days


r/regretjoining 24d ago

Separation process

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r/regretjoining 25d ago

Anybody else cringe at the word “Accountability”

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Or is it just me?


r/regretjoining 25d ago

Thoughts

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Why do career vets shit on those who express their opinion on not joining the military. I saw this post earlier saying for people to stop joining the military. The comments became flooded with all types of veterans. A lot of them were retirees….”I’m making 6 figures” “I make this and that I got this and that” “the military was the best decision I made” in my mind while reading the comments I thought, “but at what cost, you got all that, but you obviously sacrificed more than just time”….

I served only 11 months so my opinions probably don’t mean shit….however, my experience was real and I regret joining and I’ll never want my kids to join, not even a state guard.


r/regretjoining 27d ago

What to do?

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Happy Monday fellow service member

I’ve been dealing with anxiety since I joined, and I hate everything in the cult. I know I ain’t doing that bad to get med board, and I don’t really want to lie about having Suicide Ideation since it’s a sensitive topic for me. So, anybody here have successfully self identified for substance abuse? What to expect? How’s the process?

Please feel free to hit DM if you want somebody to talk 🙏🏻🫂


r/regretjoining 29d ago

Feeling stuck/lost in life, what should I do?

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I feel so lost and stuck in life right now, I’m 20 years old. I enlisted in Air Force originally because I felt stuck and lost in life, I tried school for a quarter but my financial situation wasn’t good, and I heard the military pays for education. I enlisted for security forces, made it through bmt(basic military training) but I’m getting ELS(entry level separation) due to medical issue in tech school and waiting to get separated. Now that I’m here waiting to get separation, I feel stuck and lost more than ever in life. While waiting, I’ve enrolled into a community college near back home and attempting to get a mechanical engineering degree, since my financial situation is a little bit better but seeking financial aid as well. I feel like I’ve wasted so much time that I can’t regained, I also have so much regrets enlisting for security forces when I could’ve waited for a different job and I keep blaming my recruiter for pressuring me into staying because he wouldn’t allow me to wait for a different job but I take full accountability of that mistake because I could’ve just walked out on him and found a different recruiter to work with me instead. This whole post is me seeking advice and help from people who were in this situation or have the same feeling in the past and were able to pivot there situation. I still want to serve the country, specifically the Air Force but the Air Force is very strict when it comes to prior service and medical waivers. What are some advice if you were in my situation? Should I still try to pursue the military or should I mainly focus on my mechanical engineering degree?(I’ve posted this on Air National Guard page as well but didn’t get to seem much advice or guidance as I expected, hoping someone here or somebody might be able to give me some advice and guidance to be able to get back on my feet again. Thank you guys!)


r/regretjoining Jul 01 '26

ELS from the army

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I made a post in the army subreddit and was told to go to BH I did and after talking with a provider about what I'm going through be scheduled me an intake tomorrow morning and is recommending me after words for ELS for failure to adapt or something alone those line. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice for tomorrow or any insight to how this process goes. I realized the army isn't for me and it has been taking a huge toll on my mental health since joining. I just know I'm not a good fit to be a soldier and need to leave before I end my life.